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Post by Deleted on Aug 15, 2018 15:14:46 GMT -7
Yay! I got h to sign the contract I've been asking him to sign for over a year now. That doesn't mean I'm staying, but it does mean that I've just saved my home.
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Post by Deleted on Aug 15, 2018 17:20:11 GMT -7
I am glad you have had a breakthrough in this area! God is good!
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Post by Deleted on Aug 15, 2018 18:26:48 GMT -7
Thank you, but the reason I'm glad about it is because it saved my home from someone who now can't ask for any share of equity he did not pay into. My H is profoundly disabled and unable to think about anyone besides himself, and that's not changing. Even now, I just showed him a video clip of little product I like. His response to me was to say "I don't care." When I told him that wasn't a nice thing to say, he got all defensive and said "well, it's the truth. I guess next time I'll have to lie to you if I'm not interested in what you're saying."
Another example came from the other night when I went to sleep early since I haven't been sleeping well over the past few months. He then woke me up because I had not yet walked the dog or cleaned the kitchen. I'm sincerely tired of being treated like this. God may hate divorce, but he doesn't want me to be abused anymore either. I'll find a way to get him out.
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Post by Deleted on Aug 15, 2018 19:23:40 GMT -7
Oh, and just so it's not ALL heavy news, my daughter is seeking God again. She is at a much anticipated (by her) Christian camp this week and I had the best time shopping for supplies with her. I haven't had that kind of fun with her in ages. She actually even asked to come to church with me on Sunday before she had to. <3 praise God! ALL I want is for her to find comfort and joy with God again. I love that girl so much.
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Post by Deleted on Aug 16, 2018 10:53:08 GMT -7
It was a breakthrough for you. You now do not have that worry hanging over you. God provides. It may not be in the way we want and it may not look like sunshine and rainbows but have faith thst God is working for you to your betterment.
We will continue to pray that God reaches your husband and creates a change in him that will glorify God. In the meantime, you take care of yourself and your daughter. Focus on Christ. Hugs sweet sister.
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Post by Deleted on Aug 19, 2018 20:46:41 GMT -7
Well, I got him out. More accurately, he got himself out tonight. It was a carbon copy of the fight we had last week where I went to lie down and he told me not to go to sleep until after I'd walked the dog AGAIN. I had it and went off. Now he's gone for the 5th time I or less than 2 year marriage. I'm not dating him anymore. I'm sad but relieved.
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Post by Deleted on Aug 19, 2018 21:45:58 GMT -7
I am sorry hon. My prayers are with you. I just want you to know that you are always welcome here. We are here to support you as you move forward.
Hugs sweetie. Remember you are loved by us and by our heavenly Father.
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Post by Deleted on Aug 21, 2018 16:23:40 GMT -7
I feel so horrible right now. I'm sure that my H is not able to change and be a good husband, but I do still love him and it sucks to be getting divorced for the second time. I guess I just have to wade through this.
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Post by Deleted on Aug 21, 2018 18:43:27 GMT -7
Divorce is never easy. Don't let yourself be pulled into the "what could have beens". Spend extra time with God. Be kind to yourself and your daughter. Reach out for support when you need it. I am praying for you hon. Hugs sweetie.
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Post by Deleted on Aug 26, 2018 11:27:24 GMT -7
Im so sorry kelly.. but i definitely feel you.. I support whatever makes you feel happy and peaceful.. you need some peace and rest. I understand still loving him.. it makes us wanna stay but maybe you have to put yourself first now. I not very good at that either.. Hugs friend..
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Post by Deleted on Aug 28, 2018 12:03:42 GMT -7
I feel good today, which is a first in a while. My H has been texting me that he's sorry for every bad thing he's ever done to me, that he's getting help for his anger, etc. I said "thank you" and left it at that. I'm not kidding myself. He has a developmental impairment that pretty much defines who he is. That isn't going to change especially since the help is more of what we've been getting all year. It isn't specialized. Oh well.
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Post by Deleted on Aug 29, 2018 8:06:46 GMT -7
I will be praying thst God gets through to him and changes him for the better. You stand firm until you see prolonged change in him. It's easy to white knuckle change for awhile but unless it is from God, the person will go back to their old ways. True change takes a long time to implement. As you can witness in my posts and the posts of the other addicts on this forum.
Hugs and prayers for you and your daughter. Be kind to yourself sweetie.
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Post by Deleted on Aug 30, 2018 21:49:45 GMT -7
Unfortunately, his problems go way beyond that of typical addictive behavior. He has a developmental impairment that is not ever changing because it defines who he is. He knows how to parrot things he hears back to people. He just doesn't have any real understanding of those things. He recently tried to manipulate by asking me to come back to him then in the next breath, he said that I need help too and that he isn't sure he should be with someone with my tendencies toward him. I replied that I haven't offered to be with him again and to have a nice day anyway. Let me put it this way: I'm never one to turn down prayers, but I have no hope or expectation of ever being with him again. That's a good thing. Divorce (including mine) is a devastating thing to go through, but I'm feeling better every day. My daughter tried to commit suicide last Friday (that's a whole other story, but fortunately what she did wasn't lethal) yet it is still easier here without my husband. That says a lot.
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Post by ladystrong on Aug 30, 2018 22:55:30 GMT -7
Prayers for you and your daughter. I’m sorry you are going through this but glad you are finding freedom. *HUGS*
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Post by Deleted on Aug 31, 2018 7:25:59 GMT -7
I am sorry you are going through this. I am praying for your daughter. I have been suicidal in the past and tried to kill myself. She is hurting badly. I am praying that our Father shows up to her in a real way. That He wraps her in His loving embrace and shows her how much she means to Him.
I said what I said about your husband because God can and does work miracles. I don't want to see anyone brought low by this addiction. I also know how hard it is for many women to stay firm and not give into manipulation. I am thankful you aren't one of them. I do support you in your decision to divorce. I don't want you to think I don't.
Hugs hon.
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