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Post by Ɖσмιиιc on Jan 20, 2022 23:58:05 GMT -7
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Post by Ɖσмιиιc on Apr 27, 2022 2:10:31 GMT -7
Hi Daniela, any thing good you want to share? Anything from the Word you have that God has laid on your heart these day? It would be great if you could share it, but not pressure and no rush. Just trying to keep things on God and saying hello too. Take care.
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Daniela
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Post by Daniela on Dec 22, 2023 11:37:24 GMT -7
Well, I guess it's time that I post something here again. I thought I had gained the victory over MO for good. However, last week, after 8 months of sobriety, I gave into it again. Of course I'm upset with myself, but I'm aware that I need to move on now. I'm thankful that I don't feel tempted right now to do it again. The thing is I'm 51 by now and still as single as can be. It really sucks not to have any prospects at all. In late summmer/early fall, I was very depressed. Life felt so hopeless. I'm grateful though that the Lord has helped me out of this pit. I would like to draw closer to Him, and let Him lead in my life!
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KevinesKay
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Post by KevinesKay on Dec 22, 2023 20:59:08 GMT -7
Just wanted to say welcome back.
It's got to be a challenge to deal with singleness when you want a partner so bad.
Yet, we still have to surrender all of our cares upon God. He does care for us.
I believe much of our life is about surrendering to God those things which we hold on the hardest.
I'm interested to know if you have some sort of action plan to get the foot rolling with your social life. Maybe get on a dating site (Christian Mingle.com) or visit new churches to expand your horizons. There's no guarantee that you find someone, but I'm sure that there are a lot of men that would marry someone like you. What are you willing to do to get yourself out there?
And yet, being single has it's benefits too. I hope that you can enjoy the Christmas season being content with the many gifts that God provides us.
It's good to hear from you. I appreciate the update. Hoping that you won't be a stranger. I'm not perfect either. But with every setback or reset, there's always been a learning experience; something that God was trying to teach me. May God grant you wisdom so that you can achieve a better result and feel free.
Bless you sister. You are loved.
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Daniela
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Post by Daniela on Dec 27, 2023 11:05:10 GMT -7
Thank you for welcoming me back Kevin! Believe me, I've done everything in my power to meet my future husband. In fact, until recently, I had hoped very much for a long-term friend of mine. But he didn't take any initiative, and eventually, the Lord opened my eyes that he wouldn't be the right one for me. I've also dating services, however the options within my denominations are limited, so my efforts in this regard have not been fruitful. I do go to different meetings related to my church, like an annual summer camp meeting in Germany, where I'm part of the organizing team. There are always hundreds of people in attendance, and usually there are even a few single men in my age range, but it always turns out that they are either not my type and/or not marriage material. But I pray that the Lord may perform a miracle on my behalf. There is nothing impossible with Him, and He is also giving me the strength I need to hold on and even find joy in this season of singleness!
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Post by Ɖσмιиιc on Dec 27, 2023 22:12:40 GMT -7
Thank you for sharing your situation Daniela.
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KevinesKay
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Post by KevinesKay on Dec 29, 2023 16:32:33 GMT -7
Thank you for welcoming me back Kevin! Believe me, I've done everything in my power to meet my future husband. In fact, until recently, I had hoped very much for a long-term friend of mine. But he didn't take any initiative, and eventually, the Lord opened my eyes that he wouldn't be the right one for me. I've also dating services, however the options within my denominations are limited, so my efforts in this regard have not been fruitful. I do go to different meetings related to my church, like an annual summer camp meeting in Germany, where I'm part of the organizing team. There are always hundreds of people in attendance, and usually there are even a few single men in my age range, but it always turns out that they are either not my type and/or not marriage material. But I pray that the Lord may perform a miracle on my behalf. There is nothing impossible with Him, and He is also giving me the strength I need to hold on and even find joy in this season of singleness! A lot of women struggle with choosing to attach themselves to Mr. Wrong. I'm absolutely positive that they wished they chose to remain single instead of getting into a relationship with an abuser or someone that is unstable or lacks self control of his sexuality. |
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Post by Ɖσмιиιc on Jan 1, 2024 23:35:49 GMT -7
Daniela there is every women's Battle and also more help too. May God bless you as you live for him.
God please bring a godly man into Daniela's life. Someone who loves You most and loves her too. In Jesus' name we pray Amen.
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Post by savedbygrace on Jan 16, 2024 13:58:28 GMT -7
Praying that God will lead you and that person of His choosing together. And grant you peace as you wait and do your part. What you desire is a good thing, and you too may be the answer to that person's prayers!
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Post by Will on Mar 8, 2024 23:24:21 GMT -7
Hi Daniela! It's great to have some 'Ying' on this board!  I'm curious, if you don't mind telling me, what is your denomination? Also, what are you looking for in a husband (aside from chemistry and personal compatability I guess)? 8 months is longer than I've ever managed! So that's a blessing. I sympathise though, also middle-aged and single. Have committed myself to being free from porn though before I really seek a wife. But I know it's difficult, hard to retain an eternity focus! God bless you! |
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Daniela
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Post by Daniela on Mar 22, 2024 23:07:34 GMT -7
Thank you Will! I'm a Seventh-Day-Adventist. There are many women in my denomination who struggle to find a good husband, but I guess it's the same dilemma in every Christian denomination. Besides chemistry and personal compatibility I'm looking for someone who takes his role as the priestly shepherd in a marriage union seriously. Someone who is truly a spiritual leader and who is eager to spread the gospel. Somebody I can serve the Lord better with than by myself.
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Post by Will on Mar 28, 2024 17:00:39 GMT -7
Interesting. Yes the priestly shepherd thing is a very big deal. Difficult to do, and many professing Christian men don't even seem to make much of an effort at it! But I do know many godly brothers who do. I notice that it is a lot harder for men who have not grown up in a believing environment to fulfil this role properly.
So were you born into Seventh-Day Adventism?
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Post by Ɖσмιиιc on Apr 19, 2024 20:11:24 GMT -7
God bless you and may God give you what you need.
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