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Post by Deleted on May 11, 2015 3:01:30 GMT -7
How are you doing BOM?
I'm sorry to hear about how hard that days was. May God work miracles in your marriage. I have been seeing changes more and more in mine as he stays sober each day.
Satan will def. be lurking around to attack both you and your wife. He know he wants to make mincemeat of both my H and I so that he can show the world Jesus can't or won't help heal our marriage.
Y'all are still in my prayers.
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Post by Deleted on May 11, 2015 9:00:14 GMT -7
Hey all,
I'm doing well. So is the wife. Just been a hectic time. I've been slowly turning the ranch into my place. The wife is slowly turning her apartment into her place. I went to the first Church Tues night meeting last tues and though it is really out of my comfort zone, I believe God wants me there, so I will keep going. I'm definitely the old man of the group...maybe that is a good thing. I will probably not attend any more of the SAA meetings. Several reasons, one of them being that it just isn't worth the hour drive each way for a 45 min to one hour meeting. Second, though I have had a problem with porn in the past, I definitely do not have the issues of most in that group. I'm glad I went, but I think I am past that. I'm almost complete with my SCF course...only a few more lessons. That has gone well.
In general, I am doing well. I've picked opportunities at two part time teaching jobs...just have to make it through the certification courses. One of them starts tonight, the other on 1 June. So, that is good. God is providing!
No issues with porn or MB. I'm finding the longer I go away from that lifestyle the easier it gets. Don't get me wrong, I"m not letting my guard down at all, but I believe God is leading me away and into a life of purity.
I hope everyone is doing well,
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Post by wiltingiris on May 11, 2015 13:43:59 GMT -7
Dear BOM hi I am Kevinskay's wife and I got to say Wow! congrats on your achievement of almost completing the Setting Captives free course. I myself am thinking of starting that for my eating habits to get a little accountability.
Something though that did concern me is that you wont have a lot of resources once you are done with the SCF and with the SAA meetings. I hope you are planning to continue here. Like you said you will not let your guard down so I won't say anything about that sounds like you are well aware. Just know people here care and would not want for you to lose your sobriety for lack of fellowship with fellow SA brothers and sisters and accountability partners. I do pray someday a miracle happens in your life and restoration comes back to your marriage. The sad thing is that being in separate quarters means she cannot see what happens behind closed doors and she can't see how good you are doing. I am proud of you and am glad the lord is leading you in to a life of purity. I will pray she sees it in her heart.
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Post by Deleted on May 11, 2015 22:35:14 GMT -7
Is there a Celebrate Recovery at a church in your area?
That's where my H and I go.
I haven't really liked the first one, so I'm going to try another one at a different church that's on Friday. H said it was a bigger group and it's also at the end of the week so that'll be nice for both of us.
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Post by Deleted on May 12, 2015 6:05:04 GMT -7
Wiltingiris,
Thank you for the kind words and words of wisdom. I do appreciate your concern. As for the resources, I actually think I have better resources. My Church group meets every Tues night. At these meetings we have fellowship, a meal, then a bible study, and general conversation. I like it because these people will get to know the me that the SAA group never knew. This group I expect to hold me accountable for my actions in life as well. As for the porn issue, personally, I believe the Spirit is walking with me on a daily basis and I have that issue well in hand. I have no desire to go back to porn or my sexually immoral ways. I am enjoying walking with Christ and plan to continue on this path.
As for my wife, she wasn't paying much attention to what I was doing here in the house anyway. She has her own issues she was/is dealing with. I know this is a weird situation, but I truly am at peace with it. I believe this is what God wants for us right now. As such, I'm turning it over to God. My wife and I are taking a year apart. That doesn't mean we don't talk or anything. In fact, there has been only one or two days since she left that we haven't talked. We are friendly and approaching this as a means to fix ourselves. After that, we will see what God has in store for us.
HS3. I appreciate your input too. I've never looked into Celebrate Recovery and feel pretty sure my church doesn't have that going on. But, I will look into it...maybe that is why God put me in this Church. Maybe it needs a celebrate recovery program of its own.
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Post by Deleted on May 12, 2015 12:08:52 GMT -7
I know that Celebrate Recovery was started by a man who attends Rick Warren's church.
I think it'd be pretty cool to start a group at your church. I have the study books and someone was nice enough to give me the corresponding Bible too. I haven't gone through the classes yet, but I've been to a couple of meetings.
I'd like to start a group just for POSAs. If God wants to use me this way, I'd be happy to start one. Kinda like, "if you build, it, they will come lol"
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Post by Deleted on May 19, 2015 9:55:20 GMT -7
Evening folks,
Normally I'm prepping to go to my Church Group meeting right about now on a Tues night, but having to miss the meeting tonight. A stray dog showed up here a couple weeks ago, wonderful young pup...only about six months old. She has adopted us and we have adopted her. Well, I had her chip checked yesterday and she actually had a chip. I contacted her owner and they are supposed to come pick her up tonight. I'm happy to return her to her owners, I just hope they appreciate her and giver her a good home.
Life is busy. I'm working to ReFi the Rental property I have. I just finished the certification process for a part time teaching job and start another cert program for another online teaching job next week. The part time jobs will go a long way toward paying the extra bills with the wife's apartment bills starting to come in. But, I'm happy to do it. This year will allow my wife to heal and rediscover who she really is and who she wants to be. It is one of my ways of making restitution for all the mistakes I have made during our marriage. Hopefully we end up back together, but if not, I know God has a plan and I'm leaving that to him.
In the meantime, I continue to focus on walking the path God has before me, on keeping my eyes on Jesus, and on making myself a better person.
I hope you are all doing well.
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Post by Deleted on May 27, 2015 12:01:00 GMT -7
Evening all,
Been a few days. Life is busy. I have completed the training for one part time teaching job and start training for another next Monday. I have finished the SCF course as well. Last night was Church Group. I've grown to really appreciate that time with other Christians. I also think I'm finally about ready to officially join this church. I had been holding off trying to figure out what it is I am supposed to do there. I believe now that God is leading me to start some form of Men's Group centered on the lessons taught in Every Man's Battle. I haven't seen anything like it at this Church and I'm willing to bet that I'm not the only one in the congregation that has fallen to the temptation of Porn. I'd like to help others find their way out of that quagmire and back to Christ. Will make arrangements to talk to the Pastor soon.
Everything else has been going pretty well. I took this last holiday weekend and did NOTHING. First time I have done that in quite awhile. The devil was lurking and tempted, but was not successful. I had Christ in my corner and beat that sucker handily.
Wife is doing pretty well I think. seems to be adjusting to her new place well. Has had some car issues and I have run her around to do errands a time or two. We still touch base every day, but she is pretty much on her own there and I'm trying very hard to be accessible, but at the same time give her the space she needs to start her own recovery and healing.
Work is hectic and busy. New dog is a bit of a challenge. She is still a puppy and all puppies are challenging, but she is adapting and is firmly established as part of the pack.
Guess that is about it for me. Hope everyone is doing well.
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