KevinesKay
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Occupation: Balloon Artist
Interests: weight lifting, singing, playing the guitar
Days of Integrity: 1 year
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Post by KevinesKay on Sept 2, 2021 9:14:12 GMT -7
Thanks luke, I'm going to check it out. I've read the book already before. But I don't remember those last three sections. It's been a while. Mike gave us forum members a free copy of his book about 7-8 years ago when he first wrote it.
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Post by savagetribe on Oct 10, 2021 22:17:09 GMT -7
Divorce is now final as of Oct. 6th. I'm saddened and grieved but a sense of peace from God. I've come to learn that having expectations of my life when God is involved with his will is futile and a bit naive. Currently I'm serving as the Church and helping others. Love God, Love your neighbor. These are the primary focus items for me right now. God has allowed me to be involved with a great group of guys in their struggles with sexual sin and living a life that God is molding into his design.
Prayer: "Make your will what I seek each and everyday knowing that I will stumble Abba Father. Lord, give me your grace and love as you whittle this broken, messed up man into a swiss army knife for Christ. Thank you for blessing me with your love, your grace and your mercy. Help me to have faith where I have little. Give me strength where I have little. Only through your power, your will for the Kingdom. Thank you Daddy for being who you are...a good, good Father. May my life be pleasing to you and make me a clean heart. Amen!"
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Post by savedbygrace on Oct 11, 2021 10:06:58 GMT -7
Amen
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Post by savagetribe on Nov 3, 2021 10:00:07 GMT -7
Update: I've started talking to someone who I really like. God crossed our paths and was very surprising in fact on how we connected (a good surprise). However, I'm learning patience and struggling with the needy aspect. I'm asking God for help in this area as I'm emotionally deprived and want to communicate effectively. There is no coincidence that we crossed paths and I guess I'm a little afraid that I'm going to screw it up because I'm goal oriented, passionate, and yearning for human contact. When I make up my mind, I pursue intensely. Like a Pitbull, I am tenacious which is what my former boss called me 'Pitbull'. However, I need to allow God to lead me on this journey and allow him to work in our lives so we can grow, be nurtured by him. I'm sure there will be more on this in the future but I see this as a first contact scenario in which God is teaching me.
Now for lustful thoughts update: even though I've been constantly bombarded with sexual content, it doesn't affect me in the same way it did when I was going through withdrawals. I don't lust after images that randomly popup throughout the day as we live in a society that perpetuates sex and lust. I had one instance where the thought started to enter my heart and I quickly prayed and took it captive. It's an amazing tool God has given me and I feel free for the first time. My perspective is developing relationships that are meaningful and good. God has brought me hard cases of marriages that are flatlined because of sexual sin and being a servant for him to help them heal and turn away from this horrible evil. In all, I'm grateful for God's gifts and blessings and being a servant to him. Healing all his children is the goal. Some will accept it, some will not. It's a choice he freely gives us and when we turn away from God bad things happen. When we seek him with all of our being and latch onto him like a pitbull, we heal and shine a light to the world where it is dark sharing the good news of Jesus's resurrection and salvation.
More later but for now, I'm waiting on God's direction.
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KevinesKay
Administrator
Posts: 1,754
Occupation: Balloon Artist
Interests: weight lifting, singing, playing the guitar
Days of Integrity: 1 year
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Post by KevinesKay on Nov 4, 2021 4:32:02 GMT -7
Luke, savagetribe, I am encouraged and happy that God has shown you a way to a new freedom. Thanks for sharing. I'm glad you're here.
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Post by Deleted on Nov 4, 2021 6:41:09 GMT -7
I agree with Kevin, yes, I'm glad you are here. I'm also glad the brothers are here too.
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Post by savagetribe on Nov 15, 2021 4:22:18 GMT -7
Update: God has allowed me to see my girlfriend and spend quality time with her. I noticed something different with how I'm connecting with her versus when I was addicted. I'm connecting with her spiritually and romantically. This is the first time that I ever had a relationship at this level. The intimacy is so powerful and I love that we are both abstaining from sex until marriage. Even though I would love to have sex with her, that's not the driving force. It's understanding her heart and connecting with her in a real intimate way spiritually, mentally and romantically. The way God intended. It's so beautiful and his gift to me is absolutely perfect in every way. Plus, I'm able to laugh and be happy again. I praise God for her and look forward in exploring this wonderful, amazing new life she is sharing with me. From Christ our solid rock I stand. I'm standing in complete wonder in how God has turned this broken, bitter, selfish man into someone I am liking more and more everyday. See, this is what Christ wants to do. Heal us and allow the Father to shower us with his love.
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Post by amymine712 on Nov 23, 2021 9:22:16 GMT -7
Update: God has allowed me to see my girlfriend and spend quality time with her. I noticed something different with how I'm connecting with her versus when I was addicted. I'm connecting with her spiritually and romantically. This is the first time that I ever had a relationship at this level. The intimacy is so powerful and I love that we are both abstaining from sex until marriage. Even though I would love to have sex with her, that's not the driving force. It's understanding her heart and connecting with her in a real intimate way spiritually, mentally and romantically. The way God intended. It's so beautiful and his gift to me is absolutely perfect in every way. Plus, I'm able to laugh and be happy again. I praise God for her and look forward in exploring this wonderful, amazing new life she is sharing with me. From Christ our solid rock I stand. I'm standing in complete wonder in how God has turned this broken, bitter, selfish man into someone I am liking more and more everyday. See, this is what Christ wants to do. Heal us and allow the Father to shower us with his love. I am so happy for you! Jesus is amazing! Keep following Him. Pray for your girlfriend. Use scripture in your prayers for her and watch Christ work in her, you and your relationship. Step up as her covering and watch what happens!
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Post by Deleted on Dec 8, 2021 22:00:27 GMT -7
Thank you Jesus. I'm very encouraged.
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Post by Ɖσмιиιc on Jan 17, 2022 0:42:14 GMT -7
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Post by savagetribe on Feb 18, 2022 6:36:37 GMT -7
God has been good to me. He's given me opportunities to be spiritually, emotionally intimate with others without the twisting, deception of Satan in my life. I'm not perfect and I know without the armor of God everyday I put myself in harms way. Fruits of the spirit is my path and my goal each day is to walk in Christ's footsteps. He healed me, and I exalt him for his gift. Live life praising God, live life free, be the hands and feet of Jesus for this is our true calling, our true nature. Break away from the rules and interpretation of God. Find God, know God and relish his love for you. I wake up thinking and praying these things everyday. Amen
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Post by Ɖσмιиιc on Feb 18, 2022 6:46:19 GMT -7
Amen. God is good. I'm glad God is blessing you greatly.
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Post by savagetribe on Mar 28, 2022 5:53:40 GMT -7
Relationships are hard especially when there are past hurts and pains involved. Projecting is a common defensive mechanism and can hurt a relationship. One of the many tools of Satan and his court. At this point, I am exhibiting grace and mercy in my relationship to allow God to work. Hopefully, it pans out but have needed to create healthy boundaries for this to occur. We stay in constant communication but once trust is broken there needs to be an understanding that your partner is not out to get you. That they are the one you can lean on when times are tough. God's strength shines through our weaknesses as long as we are humble and contrite. I'm so happy that my Father in Heaven heard my cry for help and he answered. Just because God heals you from your addictions doesn't mean your life is going to be rosy and pain free. We still are living on a wretched, evil controlled planet and we need to put the full armor of God on everyday as the enemy will try to undo what God has healed and fixed. Stay vigilant everyone as the enemy lurks trying to find an opening.
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Post by Ɖσмιиιc on Mar 28, 2022 6:17:29 GMT -7
Amen.
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Post by savagetribe on Apr 13, 2022 11:49:43 GMT -7
My partner and I have some things to work on. My past, her past, these have become obstacles in communication. We tend to not only pull the bad traits of our past with us but also we have preconceived notions and it tends to cloud and skew our reality and how to effectively communicate with our partner. Anyone have some ideas on good counseling that specializes in sex abuse on both sides of the aisle? How do both of us communicate and help each other, trust each other and rely on one another? This is a big challenge even though we love each other.
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