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Post by SandyJWE on Feb 17, 2022 7:57:00 GMT -7
Javajake... Hello, I joined this and have been watching the posts and seeing where each of us has been and where we are now. It may not seem like it but God is so with you and working in your walk, we can see if from your posts. Yes, the battle is strong, but you have many praying for you and your strength in Christ seems to be growing and growing. The enemy is wanting you to struggle and keeps you discouraged. But you are wonderfully made and God is with you. I will pray that you remember who you are in Christ and that you see God's truth and stand so strong in Him. I am also praying that the enemies lies will be exposed and you can rebuke them in Christ. From the outside looking in, I believe you are growing stronger and stronger in your walk. Thank you for sharing your walk and allowing us to witness God's work in your walk.
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Post by javajake on Feb 17, 2022 12:22:21 GMT -7
Thanks Sandy. Your encouragement means a lot to me. The encouragement from you all means a lot to me.
Who shall separate us from the love of Christ? Shall tribulation, or distress, or persecution, or famine, or nakedness, or danger, or sword? No, in all these things we are more than conquerors through him who loved us. - Romans 8:35, Romans 8:37 ESV
Iron sharpens iron, and one man sharpens another. Proverbs 27:17 ESV
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Post by Ɖσмιиιc on Feb 17, 2022 20:31:25 GMT -7
amen brother. hey brother, I hope there is coffee in heaven. we can have java in the heavenlies
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Post by javajake on Feb 26, 2022 13:52:33 GMT -7
So yesterday I was trying to justify looking at women in bikinis online. But really didn’t do much of it and didn’t pull me in. The Mrs and I wanted to get together last night. I wanted a boost so I tried to justify just looking at cartoon porn which I did for maybe 10 plus minutes. Of course on such sites they mix a few real. Nothing really got me going. It as always was a bad idea and I still failed to accomplish my goal with my wife. Then in the morning we were notified my wife’s sister who is a few years older than us had passed away. She and her husband are believers in the Lord Jesus Christ so we will see her again! God is Good!
Jesus said to her, “I am the resurrection and the life. Whoever believes in me, though he die, yet shall he live, 26 and everyone who lives and believes in me shall never die. Do you believe this?” She said to him, “Yes, Lord; I believe that you are the Christ, the Son of God, who is coming into the world.” John 11:25-27 -ESV
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Post by javajake on Feb 26, 2022 13:55:11 GMT -7
amen brother. hey brother, I hope there is coffee in heaven. we can have java in the heavenlies 😂 Me too!
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Post by savedbygrace on Feb 26, 2022 17:00:35 GMT -7
I have accepted the idea that I'm too old for the real thing, and my wife seems OK with that. Viagra no longer works.
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Post by Ɖσмιиιc on Feb 26, 2022 19:09:40 GMT -7
That is rough brother. May God help us and bless us regardless of our issues and body. Lord, please help my brother and heal him and us too. In Jesus' name. Amen.
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Post by javajake on Feb 27, 2022 7:12:28 GMT -7
I have accepted the idea that I'm too old for the real thing, and my wife seems OK with that. Viagra no longer works. Maybe I should just come to terms with that also. But She and I do like the connection it brings. My wife don’t like the idea about viagra or Cialis that worked for me. She said it makes it feel like she is having sex with a chemical not me. I don’t think she understands those prescriptions only help with blood flow not arousal. They only work if we are thinking about and wanting sex. If we men don’t get the visuals and the body on the same page the whole thing fails. And when it fails to often it becomes mental and very hard to correct. Of course porn and no stress makes private time more successful but at a cost of guilt and loss of fellowship with the Lord and the wife.
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Post by KevinesKay on Feb 27, 2022 20:19:17 GMT -7
Until I eradicate all porn from my life, I cannot say that I've exhausted all efforts to rid of my erectile disfunction and to enjoy normal healthy intimacy with my wife.
Porn, in any form, (whether be in viewing XXX websites, entertaining fantasies with someone other than my wife, masturbating to such fantasies, or checking out other women on the street or on the street) does not rectify my ED. It only makes it worse, 100%.
What's the point of doing any of that because it has no value. Yeah, I hear you. It's easy to fall into the trap that porn offers something; that it can help get the motor running; that it can help sexual relations with my wife. I understand. But I'm telling you. These are lies from the devil. It's a fact that using porn decreases my attraction towards my wife. And it takes about 3-6 months of abstinence from porn for my ED to go away. And since I'm sooooooo messed up and brainwashed for sooooo long, I might need just a little more time than that, say five years.
Erectile disfunction is my own brain telling me that it's too much. The fact is that God designed my brain to handle sex with only one woman, period. But my eyes were bigger than my stomach. The best thing to cure my ED is to quit porn and to quit it for good. I'm not moping about it. I'm not missing out. I'm not depriving myself. This is the best direction for me that gives me the most joy and pleasure.
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Post by javajake on Mar 31, 2022 19:27:31 GMT -7
Went down the porn road tonight. No masturbation. But a lot of feeling like dirt. Trying to reset.
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Post by Ɖσмιиιc on Mar 31, 2022 21:09:01 GMT -7
God, please help javajake and us to get back on the road and stay on the road to purity. Please bless our brother. Please give us hearts to seek after you with everything. Please help us not even to take one look in our mind and heart Lord. Please give us a victory that only You can give us. Please make us willing again and to be your servants Lord God. In Jesus' name. Amen.
I admit to taking looks at a women yesterday. No porn but I think just as bad. God will help us. God can do what we can't do in our selves. Let's give our eyes again to the Lord. In Jesus' name. For the glory of God, not us, Amen.
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Post by Will on Apr 1, 2022 0:04:17 GMT -7
We've all been there Java! Get back on the horse bro!!
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Post by javajake on Apr 1, 2022 9:29:37 GMT -7
Thanks brothers. Saddling up!
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Post by Ɖσмιиιc on Apr 1, 2022 22:13:52 GMT -7
onward, let's go. me too, everyday, saddle up. even we didn't sin, still saddle up and stay on. Amen.
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Post by javajake on Apr 16, 2022 5:36:11 GMT -7
Wasn’t a good night last night. Fell off the horse for maybe 10 or 15 minutes with “p and m”. Let my mind go into a bad place. Plus I had alcohol. Bad choices.
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