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Post by rical on Apr 30, 2017 4:17:06 GMT -7
I have spent years trying to overcome my obsession with needing to look at flesh, without any lasting results. I've had numerous accountability partners but them all seem to lose interest quickly. I was hoping I could find the support I desire at this site but don't really know what I'm doing or how to connect. Any help someone has to offer would be helpful. I'm noticing there are mostly older posts on this site, have people stopped using it and gone somewhere else.
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Post by KevinesKay on Apr 30, 2017 5:37:11 GMT -7
Hey Rical, thanks for sharing. I understand all too well what it feels like. Struggled with consistency of accountability partners. Fought this for many years. And seems to be a high casualty rate with PA.
But you never gave up. And don't you give up now. With God's help, you can do this. You got this!
So keep posting and keep sharing, and I'll be there as a friend and brother in the Lord.
Take care of yourself.
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Post by Deleted on Apr 30, 2017 7:26:02 GMT -7
Rical it does seem to be difficult for people to remain steadfast in accountability relationships. It takes work to maintain those relationships. I circumvented that aspect by asking 2 family members to be my accountability partners. Family members love you and want to see you prosper in your life generally. Do you have family you can ask? There are some accountability tools here. Journaling in the accountability forum is one. The other is the Narrow Door Challenge
Also there are resources on the main ministry site like weekly groups, books and articles. Blazing Grace Ministries |
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Post by rical on Mar 25, 2021 4:51:58 GMT -7
It’s been a long time since I’ve posted. I’ve logged on from time to time however I stop participating because this sight became more about espousing wisdom and less about our day to day walk. I’ve been experiencing recovery these last 3 months like I never thought possible. I’ve come to realize the reason I couldn’t get victory was because I was fighting a “God given instinct run amuck “. It does absolutely no good to bounce my eyes if my mind is still on the “object of my lust”. My recovery plan has consisted of 1) Bible devotional time. 2) singing scripture/praise music either in my mind or out loud 3) attending church and Celebrate Recovery online or live when available. 4) having man I call on a specific day of the week. 5) calling/texting when feeling week. 6) reading/listening to recovery material. 6) honest conversations with my wife without regards to how it will affect me (none of my addictive behaviors are her fault). It good to be back and I look forward to more honest sharing
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Post by Deleted on Mar 25, 2021 5:17:54 GMT -7
Thank you for sharing brother. I should do an update on my log. I'm happy that the Lord is giving you good success in this recovery road. I have heard of Celebrate Recovery and book their books a while back. I still read them on my kindle.
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Post by KevinesKay on Mar 25, 2021 9:48:31 GMT -7
Wow! rical, It's good to hear from you again. And I'm glad to hear that you've been doing some pretty good things in your life. Praise the lord! Welcome back! |
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Post by rical on Apr 1, 2021 6:30:00 GMT -7
Recovery is definitely a moment by moment journey.l have to constantly be checking my motives. I started watching a movie the other night that I knew had no nudity however I knew the main character goes braless under her shirt. I should have shut the movie of but convinced myself that if I couldn't see anything it would be ok. Edginess (seeing how close I can get without falling) is not a good way to bring peace into my life. Sexual brokenness is not able action, it's about my mindset.
.Isaiah 26:3-4 KJV
Thou wilt keep him in perfect peace, whose mind is stayed on thee : because he trusteth in thee. [4] Trust ye in the Lord for ever: for in the Lord Jehovah is everlasting strength:
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Post by Deleted on Apr 1, 2021 8:45:13 GMT -7
Forget Your Past, Forgive Yourself, And Begin Again Right Now.
Whenever You Find Yourself Doubting How Far You Can Go, Just Remember How Far You Have Come. Remember Everything You Have Faced, All The Battles You Have Won, And All The Fears You Have Overcome. Thats the only way to live.
Cheers fellow warrior.
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Post by Will on Apr 1, 2021 14:28:31 GMT -7
Hey Rical! Your walk sounds so similar to mine. 'Edging' is something I constantly have to watch for as well. A note of caution. I had a few months up recently and then came back on Blazing Grace - it was because I was starting to lose it. Keeping the rules I'd set for myself was the main thing I should have been focusing on. Couple of weeks ago I busted bad again. Keep going with the system you have in place, make sure you stick to every aspect of it diligently! That's where I went wrong. God bless you! : )
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Post by rical on Jul 11, 2022 4:35:55 GMT -7
Day 1. The first step to back sliding is not being honest with myself. One look is too many and one thousand are never enough. Although stimulating myself sexually relieves the pain, it’s only a short term solution that just creates more problems.
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Post by Ɖσмιиιc on Jul 11, 2022 6:54:31 GMT -7
yes, there is nothing to get or gain when looking. It's only a brainwash to deceive us. Satan uses women as tools to make us lust, while lying to us that they are something to lust after. They are not. They are created in God's image, who need a Savior, who need also to be free from their own addictions just like we do. Welcome back rical and I hope you will keep sharing your story. |
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Post by rical on Jul 12, 2022 3:48:06 GMT -7
Totally crashed and burned yesterday. Acted on my compulsion instead of allowing it to pass.
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Post by Ɖσмιиιc on Jul 12, 2022 3:50:36 GMT -7
Dear God, please help rical to get back up and abide in You Jesus. Please comfort him and protect his mind. In Jesus' name. Amen.
Proverbs 28:13, 1st John 1:9, John 6:37, Matt 6:33.
May the Lord bless you and keep you.
We are all in this together.
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Post by KevinesKay on Jul 12, 2022 12:14:16 GMT -7
Day 1. The first step to back sliding is not being honest with myself. One look is too many and one thousand are never enough. Although stimulating myself sexually relieves the pain, it’s only a short term solution that just creates more problems. It's been awhile. Welcome back. |
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Post by rical on Jul 13, 2022 17:53:41 GMT -7
Acted out less today
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