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Post by Deleted on Mar 1, 2017 13:16:57 GMT -7
It is not normal for an 11 year old girl to watch porn. You are in a spot that is for sure. You are not her mother but yet you own the house she and her mother live in. Not sure where you live but could it be considered child abuse? Of course getting the government involved would probably ruin your relationship with your sister.
You need to get your life in order before you can speak into her life. Take the plank out of your own eye before trying to take the speck out of hers. It sounds to me like your family has issues with the sin of sexual immorality which can in some cases be a generational thing that is passed down from parent to child.
About the only thing you can do is continue to be the bad guy and say no. If it becomes intolerable, your only other option would be to kick them out of your house.
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Post by Deleted on Mar 3, 2017 15:06:22 GMT -7
I know and ive tried very hard, i don't want to kick them out but rather try come to agreement for both ways to go well.
But yes the sister inlaw does not want me to be involed and tells me you do your own thing and we do ours.
So now i'am stepping a side and letting her do what she wants with her daughter.
Which brings me to the next part of this.
I have done more reading and on other sites/parent sites also and they even say it's perfectly normal for them to view it because they are curious and a study showed most 11-12 yolds have watched porn movies before and say its a part of life and growing up.
So for me, i don't mind actually if her mother is letting her watching porn.
just recently few nights ago after i made this post and realised it's fine so let them be and i came home around 1am ish alittle tipsy from drinking and they both were sitting in the lounge room watching porn some striptease music blaring out the speakers loud and i realised my niece was in thigh high stockings and a little small skirt.
I was told to sit and watch the girl on tv and by time it gets to the end where she is fully exposing her vagina and masturbating, ofcourse i had a big hard and was ready to blow so i wanted to go and jerk off because being a little tipsy and horny it is hard to control it.
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Post by Deleted on Mar 3, 2017 20:58:59 GMT -7
Sorry but I am saying this with love. You need help. What you and your sister are doing is child abuse. I will be deleting the details you posted because it is triggering to those struggling to overcome this addiction. Also if I had any info on you, I would be obliged to report you to the authorities.
Get help and get it quickly.
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Post by Deleted on Mar 3, 2017 21:46:07 GMT -7
i told a very close friend that we share secrets and she is taking me to a really good person she s=knows and very private. i never knew i would do that but being drunk it takes over.
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Post by Deleted on Mar 3, 2017 21:53:47 GMT -7
I am glad you are getting help. Your next 2 steps should be 1. Stop drinking and 2. Kick them out.
You do not want to be brought up on child molestation charges.
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Post by Deleted on Mar 3, 2017 23:22:58 GMT -7
Ummmm... whoa! This all needs to stop! Im saying this as loving as possible... i was a sexually abused child and just reading this .. it definitely sounds abusive to me! Definitely NOT ok!
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Post by Deleted on Mar 4, 2017 14:03:32 GMT -7
This is child abuse what is going on is breaking child protection laws!
You need help her mother needs help but most important this little girl needs help! Get help for you and her if her mother won't this is very serious do not put this off!
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Post by teetop on Mar 6, 2017 3:05:30 GMT -7
I don't know who's buttons your trying to push, but, you did mine.
But if you are trying to seek help, you need to set your foot down and make some changes in your household.
Starting with yourself. Curb the drunkenness and clean up your own life.
Next, you need to take charge in your home and put a stop to the porn even being in the household by all members of the house.
Then you need to be the head of the house, who not only governs their household in a Christian matter in all things and set down Godly rules to live by.
And, as a male member, I would ask you to be cautious with how you write your message to us, seeking help.
Now I must admit, I at first thought your posting was from a scammer and I would have run a check on where your message was coming from.
Removing the plank from our own eye is not as easy as some think it is as we in society tend to walk in pride.
Your postings made me think about Herodias:
HERODIAS [heh ROE dee uhs] — the queen who demanded John the Baptist’s head on a platter (Mat_14:1-12). The granddaughter of Herod the Great, Herodias first married her father’s brother, Herod Philip I. One child was born to this union. Philip’s half-brother, the tetrarch Herod Antipas, wanted Herodias for his own wife, so he divorced his wife and married Herodias while Philip was still living.
When John the Baptist denounced their immorality, Herodias plotted John’s death. She had her daughter Salome gain Herod’s favor by dancing seductively for him at a banquet. As a result, Herod promised her anything she wanted. Following her mother’s wishes, Salome asked for the head of John the Baptist.(Nelson's Illustrated Dictionary)
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Post by Deleted on Mar 6, 2017 6:50:57 GMT -7
Thank you Tee for adding some wisdom from the male perspective. It was much needed.
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Post by Deleted on Mar 6, 2017 19:03:27 GMT -7
Thanks for everyone's concern. sister inlaw works in the city and took her daugter with her for few days because school is closer to her work rather than me taking her and I live far.
She stays at a hotel and I had to go into the city anyway to see the professional help I'm going to get but had to stop at the hotel so I can get some money from my sister inlaw that she owes me.
It was school holidays so my niece was there alone and the mother came 10min after when she went to get my cash from the bank.
I had to quickly go for a pee and when I got back to the main room, edited due to triggering.
She said she loves me and feels good being around me, well yeah me being the only male and I always use to hug her and show affection and now she is falling in love.
But this time I said ok sweetly look, put your dress back on and Iam going now ok.. I say I love you and you are my niece but I can't do this with you and it's not right. Had to stay calm and speak calm otherwise if I get angry then she is gong to so best was stay calm.
I admit yes I did stand there and look at it and was thinking it's only my niece and no one knows what we do and the urge I felt wanting to feel her. As I said I have a porn addiction and I'm a very horny person and everyday I think of sex and porn.
So I'm glad I didn't and resisted it knowing i could of and so I waited out side for the mommy and when I got my cash, I said ok look here's the deal.
Your daughter lifted her dress and wanted to have sex just before and I think we need to take different paths. I can't do that and it's not right and she's way too young.
So being said would you be able to look for another place? It's my house and yes I know we have urges and sex is a part of life but teaching her and getting me involved isn't going to cut it. Today I came down here because I have a appointment with someone to get help about my addiction so that is where Iam going and I want to clean myself.
I also said it is your daughter and yeah you can raise her how you like but I don't want to be a part of it.
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Post by Deleted on Mar 6, 2017 19:41:58 GMT -7
I am glad you resisted and got out of there. I seriously think you should turn your sister into the authorities for child abuse. Your niece needs help before she does that to another man. She doesn't even know what she is doing and how it will ruin her life. She deserves a chance at a normal life and she won't get it with her mom.
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Post by teetop on Mar 6, 2017 19:43:16 GMT -7
If your Niece has progressed to the point you mention here, it has already gone too far.
Do you know the story of Joseph and Potiphar's wife?
He ran from the seduction and even landed in prison, though he was innocent.
Gen 39:5 It came about that from the time he made him overseer in his house and over all that he owned, the LORD blessed the Egyptian's house on account of Joseph; thus the LORD'S blessing was upon all that he owned, in the house and in the field.
Gen 39:6 So he left everything he owned in Joseph's charge, and with him there he did not concern himself with anything except the food which he ate. Now Joseph was handsome in form and appearance.
Gen 39:7 It came about after these events that his master's wife looked with desire at Joseph, and she said, "Lie with me."
Gen 39:8 But he refused and said to his master's wife, "Behold, with me here, my master does not concern himself with anything in the house, and he has put all that he owns in my charge.
Gen 39:9 "There is no one greater in this house than I, and he has withheld nothing from me except you because you are his wife. How then could I do this great evil and sin against God?"
Gen 39:10 As she spoke to Joseph day after day, he did not listen to her to lie beside her or be with her.
Gen 39:11 Now it happened one day that he went into the house to do his work, and none of the men of the household was there inside.
Gen 39:12 She caught him by his garment, saying, "Lie with me!" And he left his garment in her hand and fled, and went outside.
Gen 39:13 When she saw that he had left his garment in her hand and had fled outside,
Gen 39:14 she called to the men of her household and said to them, "See, he has brought in a Hebrew to us to make sport of us; he came in to me to lie with me, and I screamed.
Gen 39:15 "When he heard that I raised my voice and screamed, he left his garment beside me and fled and went outside."
Gen 39:16 So she left his garment beside her until his master came home.
Gen 39:17 Then she spoke to him with these words, "The Hebrew slave, whom you brought to us, came into me to make sport of me;
Gen 39:18 and as I raised my voice and screamed, he left his garment beside me and fled outside."
Gen 39:19 Now when his master heard the words of his wife, which she spoke to him, saying, "This is what your slave did to me," his anger burned.
Gen 39:20 So Joseph's master took him and put him into the jail, the place where the king's prisoners were confined; and he was there in the jail.(NASV)
And take it from me, young females can put you in jail, even though you may be innocent.
And men seldom have a chance when the female is underaged even if she lies.
I know it is hard to do, but you need to turn your back on your sister and her daughter and run for cover and don't look back.
Once Incest is started, it will plague you the rest of your life and one of theose thorns we never seem to be able to shake from our flesh.
And that is experience talking.
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Thanks for everyone's concern. sister inlaw works in the city and took her daugter with her for few days because school is closer to her work rather than me taking her and I live far. She stays at a hotel and I had to go into the city anyway to see the professional help I'm going to get but had to stop at the hotel so I can get some money from my sister inlaw that she owes me. It was school holidays so my niece was there alone and the mother came 10min after when she went to get my cash from the bank. I had to quickly go for a pee and when I got back to the main room, my niece had her dress ....... She said she loves me and feels good being around me, well yeah me being the only male and I always use to hug her and show affection and now she is falling in love. But this time I said ok sweetly look, put your dress back on and Iam going now ok.. I say I love you and you are my niece but I can't do this with you and it's not right. Had to stay calm and speak calm otherwise if I get angry then she is gong to so best was stay calm. I admit yes I did stand there and look....... So I'm glad I didn't and resisted it knowing i could of and so I waited out side for the mommy and when I got my cash, I said ok look here's the deal. Your daughter ........ and I think we need to take different paths. I can't do that and it's not right and she's way too young. So being said would you be able to look for another place? It's my house and yes I know we have urges and sex is a part of life but teaching her and getting me involved isn't going to cut it. Today I came down here because I have a appointment with someone to get help about my addiction so that is where Iam going and I want to clean myself. I also said it is your daughter and yeah you can raise her how you like but I don't want to be a part of it.
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Post by Deleted on Mar 6, 2017 22:00:28 GMT -7
I don't think I want to get into turning her in, I've got enough on my hands than I can handle so it's her problem I just want to fix myself and I know I'm very glad I resisted and I'll continue to do so.
Tee: don't think I have read about that but heard of it and thanks for sharing.
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Post by Deleted on Mar 6, 2017 22:01:37 GMT -7
Oh and admin thanks to the edit out and others on how I described it. I'm a very open out there person and I do tell in detail but I don't think it through on how others may find it.
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Post by Deleted on Mar 6, 2017 23:22:26 GMT -7
I am very glad you resisted. It is a step in the right direction but as a girl that has been abused i strongly urge you to please get the child some help. She will never be the same once something like that is done to her and she doesn't know better because she is only acting out what she has seen. It can be an anonymous tip to authorities.. you never even have to mention your name just call and report it. She is to young to walk away like you did and to confused to ask for help.. her mother.. the one that is supposed to protect her isnt... i mean no harm in my words... i just honestly have no words left other than to drop to my knees and pray....
God please put a hedge of protection over this child. Hold her in your arms and teach her that the images she has seen is not something a child should do. Please father God help this young man to find the strength to alert the authorities and get her help. God please help him on his journey to free himself from his addiction and help him to walk in you lord.
Lord help the mother break free from whatever has caused her to allow her child to have this life. Banish satans evil grip and set them all free. Father God let your will be done...
IN JESUS NAME I PRAY ... AMEN!
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