Post by Deleted on Apr 15, 2017 20:01:01 GMT -7
The porn and sex addiction from what I am learning about nnow is only a symptom of a bigger issue Intimacy Anorexia. The porn is just one of the IA's distancing from spouse " tool ".
The porn and sex addiction has a better chance of stopping when the person gets help for IA. My husband's porn address cation was only one of a long list of tools used to distance us. Sometimes he used his family of origin, no communication, hoddies, travel, forgetfulness, rudeness, harsh words, lack of attention and affection, self centeredness , etc......basically is decribed as the spouse on the receiving end being starved for emotional intimacy. It takes someone outside of us for them to see this. There is no way any wife can make it without help. I made my husband go to treatment that's where he saw his issue. Since then he wants to change and so far I have heard the words but no actions have lined up yet. So I still plan on leaving if they don't. I am giving him 90 days time frame
He says he has not used porn and he says he is working his program only time will tell.
The porn and sex addiction has a better chance of stopping when the person gets help for IA. My husband's porn address cation was only one of a long list of tools used to distance us. Sometimes he used his family of origin, no communication, hoddies, travel, forgetfulness, rudeness, harsh words, lack of attention and affection, self centeredness , etc......basically is decribed as the spouse on the receiving end being starved for emotional intimacy. It takes someone outside of us for them to see this. There is no way any wife can make it without help. I made my husband go to treatment that's where he saw his issue. Since then he wants to change and so far I have heard the words but no actions have lined up yet. So I still plan on leaving if they don't. I am giving him 90 days time frame
He says he has not used porn and he says he is working his program only time will tell.