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Post by Deleted on Feb 9, 2015 23:38:30 GMT -7
I'm starting a new day count today.
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Post by Deleted on Feb 10, 2015 3:44:22 GMT -7
Al,Good. I am glad you got back on that horse even though it bucked you off and keep counting the days. Just remember the pain from the falls - some not so painful and others may be really painful. But, you want to keep from falling off as much as you can and the bruises will help remind you how to hold on and do the things you learned to help you hold on. My prayers go with you,Nikanor
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Post by KevinesKay on Feb 10, 2015 9:54:28 GMT -7
Hey Al, it's good to hear back from you. Have a good day, today.
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Post by Deleted on Feb 15, 2015 19:33:26 GMT -7
I'm sorry I didn't write lately. I had a bigger relapse...it's been a difficult time for me and I'm regathering the determination to start another time. Pray for me please.
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Post by Deleted on Feb 16, 2015 3:52:32 GMT -7
Uroy91, Repentance to God and confession to God and others are the first step in any and all recovery. As I have mentioned before - get right back up on the horse and start counting the days again. Most if not all of us have had to start recounting more than once. We are still sinners after all and not one of us is perfect or not guilty of some sin(s). God's grace is sufficient for each of us no matter what sins we have committed. Don't compare yourself or your record against others but against God's desires for you. If you fall down seven times get up eight times and keep going - see Proverbs 24:16. Sanctification is a journey and Christ's work and death on the cross covered our past sins, our current sins, and our future sins. I will be continuing to pray for you - for courage, strength, perseverance, tenacity, and encouragement from God. You can do this - don't despair. Blessings,Nikanor
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Post by Deleted on Feb 16, 2015 5:59:16 GMT -7
Thank you for the kind words.
Last week has been very bad because I didn't just lose the battle to stay sober, but also the motivation to continue. I was all like: "what's the point of trying".
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Post by Deleted on Feb 16, 2015 12:15:20 GMT -7
Uroy91, Your response is not untypical or unique. For a time I dwelled over that same feeling of "What's the use?" I think you know that a life of porn is not a wholesome life or one you will ever look back on as a good life. You'll be full of regret. What's talking is Satan telling you that you are no good, you are not capable of change, see - another slip and failure and you'll never get over this so just give in and indulge. You are so much more worthy than that. You can help others in bondage to porn once you gain some freedom. Answer this question for me: Do you want to be free of P & M for good? Think deep and hard about this and don't answer right away. Make sure your answer is from within your heart and not a head answer. I await your answer when you are ready. Nikanor
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Post by KevinesKay on Feb 16, 2015 15:52:13 GMT -7
It's good to hear back from you, Al. I've relapsed so many times, I can't even count. So I know how it feels. Sober or not, I really appreciate having you keeping us posted. And being honest. That's a good start. We won't give up. God is with us.
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Post by Deleted on Feb 16, 2015 22:31:38 GMT -7
Hello guys.
@nikanor I will think about it carefully. Then I'll give you my answer.
Doesany of you know w good software to block porn/websites with a password in a way that won't let me access it? I had a blocking software but it's easily deactivated with a click.
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Post by Deleted on Feb 18, 2015 3:23:10 GMT -7
Uroy91, Covenant Eyes is the place to check. I hold the passcode for several guys in my church and I am sure you can find someone too. Either email or call Covenant Eyes - they'll give you the first month free. They have a few options so look it over and see but the important point is to get signed up and get "protected" as they say. Let me know how it goes contacting them. Nikanor
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Post by Deleted on Feb 20, 2015 2:28:11 GMT -7
I screwed up again two days ago. I have nothing to justify myself. As my libido increases I lose control and sometimes I wanna be over it as soon as possible.
Is there any way to keep libido low? When my sex drive increases I have problems with cncentration on my daily duties such as studying. Thoughts fill my head. Howdo you deal with the stress from porn abstinence?
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Post by Deleted on Feb 20, 2015 3:47:40 GMT -7
Uroy91, I wish I had a dollar for each time I have heard the questions, when will I get over this? or when will desires stop to act out? or other variations of the same theme. You can and will get over it but it takes time and work. Not just time, and not just work. I might add here it takes God to intervene too, probably more important than your own efforts. Here are some thoughts: [*]Rely on God and not yourself[/*][*]Cut off all access to porn or erotica of any kind, shield yourself from it whatever it takes. Be serious about this.[/*][*]Fill your mind, your time, your eyes, and your ears with God, the bible, Christian music and radio.[/*][*]Find or develop an accountability partner who you can call when temptation grows strong.[/*][*]Read the bible daily or as often as you can and don't worry about a few lapses or missed time - just pick up where you left off and keep going. Don't try to cover too much and get burned out - keep it short like a chapter a day or 10-minutes.[/*][*]Think about what triggers your responses or temptations and develop a plan to fight those specific triggers. You must be prepared ahead of time and not wait to fight when temptation hits.[/*][*]Have alternative mental images in mind and fight the erotic thoughts with godly thoughts. This is the substitution process or can be thought of as "taking thoughts captive".[/*][*]Have alternative activities in mind or ready, exercise (running, push-ups, gym, biking, walking, etc.), call a friend, read a book (bible or Christian anti-porn book, etc.), write a letter, write a post to BG, prepare a meal, etc.[/*][*]Be ready to grit it out and pray to God while doing so, sometimes there is nothing else to do or nothing else that works but to just use strong self-control and talk to God.[/*][*]And remember, if you fail don't fret and worry or tell yourself you can't stop or that you are a failure - this is Satan talking. Start all over and be determined to be stronger next time, to go a longer time between failures. When Paul speaks about running the race to completion, he means both being in first place but also that you beat the failures by continuing to run even when you fell down or were exhausted. Crossing the finish line is more important than being in first place. [/*] Praying for your success,Nikanor
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Post by Deleted on Feb 20, 2015 22:30:14 GMT -7
Thank you Nikanor, because you're always here to help.
I got myself a really good websites blocker, in order to keep temptation at bay. I know it won't be the definitive method but it's there to remind me I must refrain myself. The software has the only weak point it permites to deactivate its activity for the manager, and the manager am I. It's like closin ga criminal in a cellar with the key.
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Post by KevinesKay on Feb 21, 2015 1:00:12 GMT -7
Thanks for sharing, Al.
It sounds like you're making some of these days count. Every good day is a day to be treasured. No one, not even the devil, can take that away. Keep it up. Really.
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Post by Deleted on Feb 22, 2015 7:54:43 GMT -7
Uroy91, Typically those filters require a password for which you are the administrator. Can you get someone else (friend, relative, pastor, etc.) to be the administrator so they pick the password and you have to go through them to make changes or access anything beyond the allowed? One step at a time, one day at a time. Just keep going on while praying often. Blessings and courage, Nikanor
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