Post by KevinesKay on Jan 19, 2015 14:32:23 GMT -7
I found a boundary sheet I made for myself a few years ago. I updated it, and I would like to share it with all of you.
Inner Circle
Middle Circle
Outer Circle
Get up early to start your daily routine. Usually, 5:00 A.M. is sufficient. Make sure you get enough sleep to accommodate this.
Eat healthy and nutritious.
Brush and floss your teeth each day.
Shower everyday.
Drink at least 80 ounces of water every day.
Shave everyday.
Wear nice clean clothes everyday.
Keep your home relatively clean.
Get your hair cut every six weeks.
Work out with your weights at least 4 times per week.
Play your guitar at least 2 times per week.
Go to church every Sunday.
Call at least 2 friends every week.
Call at least 1 family member every week.
Actively work your program. Don’t just talk about it. Don’t come into a meeting empty-handed or with some emotional “garbage†to dump on the table. Make it a goal to continually demonstrate to yourself, to God, and to others that you’re actively working on your program and on your challenges.
Follow your To-Do List everyday. Work to get at least 30 points each week.
Review/Revise your 3-circles boundary sheet every 3 months and have others inspect it.
Keep a positive attitude. Acknowledge and be grateful for all the good gifts that God has given you. Exercise, develop, and appreciate these gifts as opposed to feeling sorry and pitiful for what you don’t have.
Practice the habit of saving money to rid yourself of debt, buy a home, and prepare for retirement.
It’s okay to appreciate a woman’s physical beauty. But furthermore, learn to appreciate a woman more for who she is emotionally, intellectually, and spiritually rather than just focusing on her physical attributes.
Maintain a home environment that is peaceful, calm, simple, and serene.
Take the first 10 minutes of each day and the last 10 minutes before you go to bed to pray to God thanking and praising him, interceding for others, and asking for help and forgiveness.
Learn to genuinely give love to others without expecting anything in return.
Do something fun with your children at least 1 time per week.
Spend some quality time with your wife at least 2 times per week. Work on maintaining a healthy spiritual, emotional, and physical relationship with her.
Inner Circle
[*]No using pornography. That includes soft-core (such as Playboy) and hardcore magazines, videos, pictures, and computer generated images or internet pornography.
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[*]No entering of adult bookstores or the adult section of any video store.
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[*]No entering strip joints of any kind. That includes lingerie bars as well.
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[*]No using of escort services.
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[*]No using of street prostitutes.
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[*]No paying a woman for any kind of sexual gratification.
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[*]No entering massage parlors.
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[*]No using phone sex services.
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[*]No deliberate acts of voyeurism such as window peeping or looking under skirts.
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[*]No taking advantage of opportunities to perform indecent liberties on women without their approval.
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[*]No raping women or having sex with them without proper consent.
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[*]No having sex with anyone other than your wife.
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[*]No attending events places that are notorious for having a lot of sexual energy and tension such as Mardi Gras, Nudes-a-Poppin, or Fantasy Fest.
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[*]No deliberate acts of exhibitionism.
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[*]Refrain from masturbation.
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Middle Circle
[*]No cruising or patrolling. That means no driving or walking the streets hoping to spot street prostitutes. No driving around for no reason. Plan ahead where you’re driving to before you get in your car.
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[*]No strolling. That means no walking around with or without the dog to spot opportunities to act out (i.e. peek into windows).
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[*]No peeking into neighbors’ windows as you’re walking or driving down the street.
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[*]Avoid using the computer/internet early in the morning or late at night when your wife is sleeping. Limit usage to an hour per day.
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[*]Avoid watching TV early in the morning or late at night when your wife is sleeping. Limit watching TV to an hour per day.
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[*]Limit playing video games to an hour per day.
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[*]Don’t carry around too much cash. No more than $100.00 is sufficient.
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[*]Stay away from places, environments, or people that are known triggers for your addiction.
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[*]Do not keep pornography in your home. No security stashes allowed.
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[*]Limit watching movies to one per week.
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[*]Don’t read literature that is overly and inappropriately sexually explicit and will trigger your addiction.
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[*]Avoid movies that contain a lot of inappropriate sexual scenes, situations, and energy.
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[*]Stay away from certain sections of the bookstore or library such as the photography or sex sections.
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[*]No gambling.
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[*]Be financially responsible and live within your means.
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[*]Don’t flirt with women other than your wife. Don’t give them the wrong impression that you’re willing to have something more than a brotherly friendship with them.
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[*]Try to maintain a stress-free lifestyle.
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[*]Stay out of bars and night clubs.[/*]
- [*]Avoid violent forms of entertainment such as boxing, "big-time" wrestling, and violent TV shows or movies. Instead, learn to trust God when He says, "Vengeance is mine," and leave it at that.[/*]
[*]Refrain from any lust and fantasy as much as you can. Don’t get legalistic about it. Focus on loving yourself, God, your wife, and others in healthy ways. Refrain from these behaviors with a positive attitude and looking forward to the learning experience of enjoying everything that God has in store for you. And if you do fall into lusting or fantasizing, do take measures to regroup yourself and get back on track.[/*]
Outer Circle
Get up early to start your daily routine. Usually, 5:00 A.M. is sufficient. Make sure you get enough sleep to accommodate this.
Eat healthy and nutritious.
Brush and floss your teeth each day.
Shower everyday.
Drink at least 80 ounces of water every day.
Shave everyday.
Wear nice clean clothes everyday.
Keep your home relatively clean.
Get your hair cut every six weeks.
Work out with your weights at least 4 times per week.
Play your guitar at least 2 times per week.
Go to church every Sunday.
Call at least 2 friends every week.
Call at least 1 family member every week.
Actively work your program. Don’t just talk about it. Don’t come into a meeting empty-handed or with some emotional “garbage†to dump on the table. Make it a goal to continually demonstrate to yourself, to God, and to others that you’re actively working on your program and on your challenges.
Follow your To-Do List everyday. Work to get at least 30 points each week.
Review/Revise your 3-circles boundary sheet every 3 months and have others inspect it.
Keep a positive attitude. Acknowledge and be grateful for all the good gifts that God has given you. Exercise, develop, and appreciate these gifts as opposed to feeling sorry and pitiful for what you don’t have.
Practice the habit of saving money to rid yourself of debt, buy a home, and prepare for retirement.
It’s okay to appreciate a woman’s physical beauty. But furthermore, learn to appreciate a woman more for who she is emotionally, intellectually, and spiritually rather than just focusing on her physical attributes.
Maintain a home environment that is peaceful, calm, simple, and serene.
Take the first 10 minutes of each day and the last 10 minutes before you go to bed to pray to God thanking and praising him, interceding for others, and asking for help and forgiveness.
Learn to genuinely give love to others without expecting anything in return.
Do something fun with your children at least 1 time per week.
Spend some quality time with your wife at least 2 times per week. Work on maintaining a healthy spiritual, emotional, and physical relationship with her.