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Post by Deleted on Jun 16, 2014 21:21:16 GMT -7
Yes, it's definitely a gift from above, but also, as you have very well said, I have choices---to receive it, to do the footwork. And God meets us and helps us when we do.
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Post by Deleted on Jun 17, 2014 7:53:17 GMT -7
Hello everyone, first time forum user. My wife is the one who introduced me to this website due to her looking for her personal healing from the sexual sin I am in. unfortunately it is not just porn that had crushed my wife, it was also me looking at pictures of women on my space, and lusting over women out in public. I am in desperate need of help on how to have victory over this. I have tried numerous times to act on healing and failed every time. I cant do it on my own and we have absolutely no support group where we live. we went to the church to talk to the Pastors and it really didn't really help out a whole lot. there was NO HELP for my wife. she was told to read a book after contacting our pastors wife(who went through this them selves). you would have thought they knew the importance of this matter. So I told my wife we will do this without the help our church and still have victory, and look for a new church. Please help us. we will take any Godly advice we can to heal properly.
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Post by Deleted on Jun 17, 2014 21:12:38 GMT -7
Hi Pat, and thanks for posting. I too am in the battle, so don't have great answers to give, but I definitely care and can pray.
Statistically, this problem is huge, and churches really need to stop putting their heads in the sand. Finding a new church is an option; also, if you find one that has Celebrate Recovery, or another recovery group, you can attend it without joining that church.
I pray that God will lead you and provide for you!
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Post by mike on Jun 18, 2014 4:32:55 GMT -7
Hi Pat -
Welcome to the forums. Several quick thoughts:
1. Please feel welcome to keep posting how you're doing here on a consistent basis. That accountability is important. As you so accurately mentioned, this isn't something that can be done on your own.
2. I know a professional counselor who does phone support groups, if you're interested. There is a charge. I've also flirted with doing a phone support group from time to time.
3. For your wife, we have a phone support group that is led by a woman who lost her marriage to her husband's sex addiction, she has a heart for the wives. Info on this is available on the home page ( www.blazinggrace.org).
4. You might also consider my book The Road to Grace, which gets into the core issues of the heart, in addition to a lot of other areas.
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Post by Deleted on Jun 21, 2014 18:27:28 GMT -7
Thanks for sharing Pat.
I have failed again; I think I really felt it was wrong, but I did it all the same; I just shut down the feeling I had that it was wrong; I just cut off that feeling/ "voice".
Thanks that I can share.
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Post by Deleted on Jun 23, 2014 22:09:05 GMT -7
Thoughts about others who give advice, who seem like they want to "fix" us, etc: 1) First of all, I'm not far enough along to fix anyone. 2) I like the word "counsel" better than "advice." 3) Those who are farther along on the path to victory have things to offer us. Counsel. What helped them. 4) They will be very different from each other in terms of what helped them, though some factors will be the same. 5) Jesus Christ fulfills the prophecy of the Wonderful Counselor who was to come (Isaiah 9:6). We look to him for our individual battle plan.
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Post by Deleted on Nov 3, 2014 9:01:49 GMT -7
Our topic here is daily accountability. I am in a very spiritually weak position right now. Some days may be so busy that I don't post, but I need to do so daily as much as possible.
I have set my internet filter (K-9) to much stricter settings. But I know that that alone will not be the answer. I must be spiritually strong.
Bear in mind that accountability means not only reporting falls, but encouraging and praying for one another! :cool:
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Post by Deleted on Nov 3, 2014 10:45:54 GMT -7
I have now downloaded the book, 100 Days on the Road to Grace. This will be the basis for my daily postings.
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Post by Deleted on Nov 3, 2014 21:18:04 GMT -7
1st day of journey. We are reminded of Peter's horrible failure, and that God forgave him and restored him. He didn't isolate himself in his despair; he is found together with the others.
In my own reading this AM, I have God's voice speaking directly to me, in what must become the watchword for this 100 day journey (and of course beyond)...
“'And now, Israel, what does the Lord your God require of you, but to fear the Lord your God, to walk in all his ways, to love him, to serve the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul, and to keep the commandments and statutes of the Lord, which I am commanding you today for your good?'"
(Deut. 10:12-13 ESV)
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Post by Deleted on Nov 3, 2014 23:05:33 GMT -7
MEMO TO SELF: Don't expect to resist "big" temptations. There's good chance I won't; I am totally too weak. STOP them when they start; don't let them get big.
MEMO TO SELF: Sometimes a "big" one will slam me in the face anyway. Remember: IMMANUEL. God Himself is with me. Physically open the Bible and read God's promises, exhortations, comforts, etc.
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Post by mike on Nov 4, 2014 10:59:11 GMT -7
Looking forward to reading your continued postings, Phil1:6. Keep it up.
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Post by Deleted on Nov 4, 2014 20:32:47 GMT -7
Thanks, Mike.
Day 2 of 100: Psalm 101:3 No compromise. I must not play games with this; it is a horrible evil that destroys people's lives and marriages. Strong determination: I will set no worthless thing before my eyes.
From our pastor's reading plan: Job 27-28. Using a very dramatic build-up showing that wisdom is hidden, Job reveals how to find it: WISDOM IS TO FEAR THE LORD, AND TURN AWAY FROM EVIL.
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Post by Deleted on Nov 5, 2014 23:08:05 GMT -7
Day 3/100. Prepare for all out war. Yet at the same time, do not focus on MY typical pattern or cycle, MY selfish and sinful response to temptation, but on GOD, who can move mountains and shatter strongholds.
Then he said to me, “This is the word of the Lord to Zerubbabel: Not by might, nor by power, but by my Spirit, says the Lord of hosts. (Zech. 4:6 ESV)
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Post by Deleted on Nov 6, 2014 10:31:14 GMT -7
Hi, I am a single guy. I have tried/ I am trying/ maybe will try a new aproach to get into purity. I am thinking of going more into the sensual; I am dancing nearly every day now. Some of it are quite close dances, and I think it gives me something.
Maybe if I shall come out sexual impurity I need to get the real needs met? No other possibilities for me now?
It's like with aggression; It's not going to go away if I suppress it? The only good solution is to meet it and look at it? Not hide it?
I can not choose if I have sexual/ sensual needs, only how I meet them? It's good to try to meet the needs in a way that is okay, a way that can be okay in the light? Not in a way that cannot manage the light?
If I handle it in a way that can be okay in the light, I might feel selfrespect, growing, solving problems instead of creating new problems when I try to solve the original problems with loneliness, longings and so?
Thanks
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Post by Deleted on Nov 6, 2014 21:24:54 GMT -7
I'm not ignoring the above question, but will leave it to Mike to respond to. My entries here are concerning my personal journey, and my desire to be accountable daily.
Day 4/100:
Psalm 37:7a from NKJV: "Rest in the LORD, and wait patiently for Him...."
From the study: I am to release control and let God take over. Rest, and waiting, are bound together. And it's not a passive waiting; I am to busy myself with the things God has for me to do today. Sometimes life doesn't make sense; I must wait on God to work things out for me.
"The LORD is good to those who wait for Him,
To the soul who seeks Him." (Lam. 3:25 NKJV)
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