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Post by Deleted on Feb 8, 2007 5:47:57 GMT -7
Hi, I'm new to this site and praying that I will get encouragement to press on for His glory. That my relationship with my Lord will be closer and that He will heal my heart. My husband has had a sexual addiction since his youth, we have been married just over 15years. It is a very long story as I'm sure most are but at the moment we are separated, I have 7 wonderful children the Lord blessed us with. The fact my husband would not get help, he had such a separate life and my home was becoming unsafe for my children whilst he would not try to get help were some of the reasons for the separation. The last 6years has been the hardest but we have struggled with this horrible sin in our home for our whole marriage. I have found the site helpful and know that there is empathy and safety here. One of the hardest things is the secrecy that surrounds it all. You suffer in silence for the most part of it. It can be a very lonely walk and hard to get support. I know God is with us and He has again reminded me by providing the practical help.
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Post by Deleted on Feb 8, 2007 6:04:27 GMT -7
Welcome, Mumof7. I am glad you found us, but sorry that you needed to.
Praying for you my sister...
TruthSeeker
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Post by Deleted on Feb 8, 2007 6:15:51 GMT -7
Hello mumof7, Welcome to this forum. This is a great place to get help and support. I just found it a few days ago. I am a sex addict and have been for as long as I can remember. I am a christian and have always tryed to fix my problem on my own. Every time I would look at porn and do the dirty deed I would promise the Lord that I would not do it again. I would delete all my dirty pictures and anything else pretaining to porn. Sometimes I would not go an hour before I would be back on the net looking again.
I got to the point that I was ready to give up on everything I had. I started looking on the net for help and that is when I found Blazing Grace. After reading on here for a few days i realized that maybe there is hope for me after all. This site has changed my life in just the few days I have been here. I think the biggest revelation I have had so far was this morning when I was writing on another forum about what happened last night and it really hit me about the kind of additude I have toward women. In my mind I was treating women worse that a peice of trash. I have always heard that if you set goals you need to write them down. I never realized how true that was until today. When you write it down it really has a different meaning.
I don't know why I am saying all of this to you other than to just tell you that it is a lot of people here that are going through all kinda of trouble and well all have a different prospective of things. I am truly sorry for all the things you are having to go through and I will be praying for you and I ask your prays for me
Thanks for being on here. Yours' in Christ
Billy
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Post by Deleted on Feb 8, 2007 7:07:58 GMT -7
I think realising that you cant fix the problem yourself is the first major step forward. Getting it into the light is important, it will continue in the darkness which is what satan wants...get rid of the secrecy. A prayer or accountability partner is important too.
Thanks for your prayers, I will also be praying for you.
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Post by Deleted on Feb 8, 2007 8:44:54 GMT -7
mumof7,
I am so sorry to hear of your situation. If you thought it was unsafe for your children please rest assured your separation is the right move.
Is your husband a Christian? Does he have any interest in recovery? Does he even see this as a problem?
Unless he is interested in freedom, there is no hope he will ever leave his sexual addiction behind. The first step in any attempt to break free is recognizing that there is a problem.
Thanks for coming here. We will be praying for you.
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Post by Deleted on Feb 8, 2007 11:17:02 GMT -7
mumof7, I am so sorry to hear of your situation. If you thought it was unsafe for your children please rest assured your separation is the right move. Is your husband a Christian? [glow=aqua]he would say that he is a christianand he says he wants to change but he belittles the problem and does not follow through on any steps to recovery. I deep down dont think he fully sees the problem or should I say wants to acknowledge the problem and maybe thats because deep down he knows its hard work.In honesty I to some degree dont know what he thinks as he doesnt communicate whatsoever- he would avoid getting close or talking about anything[/glow]Does he have any interest in recovery? Does he even see this as a problem? Unless he is interested in freedom, there is no hope he will ever leave his sexual addiction behind. The first step in any attempt to break free is recognizing that there is a problem. [glow=aqua]On the surface he would say he wants freedom but there is not actions to back it up and he has always been found out and never come forward no matter how much I tried to support him,[/glow] Thanks for coming here. We will be praying for you. [glow=aqua]thankyou for your welcome[/glow]
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