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Post by Deleted on Dec 12, 2006 21:21:13 GMT -7
Good day everyone,
Really glad to find a website to deal with this issue, I have a serious problem and it is comforting to know people have had to struggle with this themselves. I've after reading this website has stopped significantly for a week at the longest, I still faulter a lot in between. I'm trying to break an ALMOST DAILY addiction. I've seen most success from surrounding myself with things that motivate myself to be a better person as well as pray for help. It is really hard though, especially in the military environment I am in. I'm also struggling in a relationship to keep sex out of the picture, but both of us our failing. Prayer and advice would be greatly appreciated. Thank you.
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Post by Deleted on Dec 13, 2006 5:44:41 GMT -7
Hello TV,
I am writing this with the benefit of 20/20 hindsight. I wish, when I had been dealing with premarital purity issues, long before True Love Waits, that I had memorized 1 Cor. 10:13. (NIV) "No temptation has seized you except what is common to man. And God is faithful; He will not let you be tempted beyond what you can bear. But when you are tempted, he will also provide a way out so you can stand up under it." The two of you must have no meeting place so private that anything beyond a kiss is possible. It is a boundary that both of you would have to agree upon, and remind each other of when tempted. There is an interesting article right now on
www.boundless.org
about purity/premarital sex that I found very interesting.
Praying for you...
TruthSeeker
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Post by Deleted on Dec 13, 2006 16:21:46 GMT -7
Wow... I mean... wow. I love the site you linked to me. Thanks... of all the things I could be using the internet for... I feel like a total retard.
I've been looking in on marriage and now I'm asking my questions about my girlfriend, who I love dearly. I really think she is the one down the road, but I get scared sometimes. She and I our both Christians but we are not the best examples. Then again, she is the reason I have pursued God and sexual purity even more. I had my view of sex and my purity tainted a time ago back in a little island called Okinawa. My selfish addictions of self gratification just added to it, if not preventing me from fighting it.
I still have a hard time forgiving myself for it. I had a previous relationship before her that I stayed pure in only to be tossed aside for selfish material desires. I grew angry on the money I spent and the fact that I stayed pure with her in the relationship, I grew aggressive on dating thereafter.
Eventually I met my girlfriend who I have been with almost seven months now. We fell for each other fast, but unfortunately we both acted way to fast as well. I've failed the purity part in this relationship, but I've learned what my past actions have done to my damaged spirit because of this. I felt extreme guilt. She rarely tells me no, and I have no self discipline to tell myself no, and I hate myself for it. We seem to be on the same level when it comes to our strength in the Lord. I feel like I haven't been given her what she deserves... and I want to start doing just that. This is when I started looking online, reading the scriptures more and crying out day after day for help from God. I have told God myself that I am not reliable. I feel like I'm in the right direction, but I need help. I have so much potential for God, I know it. Yet, I am still lacking so much before I can stand up and be a disciple for him.
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Post by Deleted on Dec 14, 2006 1:21:04 GMT -7
Hi TV,
I'm sure that you know 1 John 1:9. Forgiveness is just a prayer away. Conviction is what God uses to bring you to praying for forgiveness. Ongoing guilt after the prayer is Satan's tool to keep you in bondage to your past. Reclaiming purity may be done at any time by turning and going the other direction. As you and your girlfriend commit to do this together, although it will certainly be a struggle, the joy that comes from obedience to God's Word will be an abundant reward. Whether or not she turns out to be God's choice for your wife, I urge you not to let go of these truths that you are exploring now.
I'm glad you found the link of help and encouragement.
TruthSeeker
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