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Almost a year now Nov 15, 2022 14:10:49 GMT -7 via mobile Ɖσмιиιc likes this

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Post by thechipper857 on Nov 15, 2022 14:10:49 GMT -7

Nov 19th 2021 is when I learned of my husband's 26 year long affair with his abuser and porn addiction.
My husband has been porn free for a year now. I gave him a one year sobriety chip for his accomplishment. Which is a double edge sword for me. On the one side I want him to know I acknowledge his fight against his addiction, and support him....on the other side, for me, its a "thank you for not cheating on me for 1 year out of our 27 years together" 😔
I feel that in the past year our family has been blow apart and the man who abused my husband has gone unscathed by his actions. Hubby's therapist suggested I called the wife of the abuser and tell her of her husband's ways. My therapist has suggested calling in an annonymous tip to the authorities, however to much time has passed and the statute of limitations as passed for anything legal to be done.
I have considered sending an annonymous letter to the spouse and urge her to get tested for STD's.
I know the Abuser and his wfie. They were at our wedding. I have called the abuser and he confirmed the affair.
I am leaning more towards an annonymous tip to the wife via a letter, that way she will not know its me and link it back to my husband (who does not want anyone to know what has happened to him because he is still full of shame, embarrassment, and hurt)...
Both therapist and myself believe there are more victims,and not just my husband, also that the abuser probably has a new victim currently.
I want the abuser to stop abusing, but I dont know how to go about it, while protecting my husband's identity.
I want his wife to be safe, but I know learning this about her husband will not be a shock.
Any options or thoughts?
Thank you.

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Almost a year now Nov 15, 2022 16:59:33 GMT -7

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Post by Ɖσмιиιc on Nov 15, 2022 16:59:33 GMT -7

You should watch the Netflix documentary "leaving neverland" about how two brave souls explain how Michael Jackson abused them. Yes, it's gonna hurt your husband but at the expense of what? this demon has another victim? You know a lot of abusers are killed in prison, I have seen many documentaries on this too. Jeffreh Dahmer, and nother church pedophile.

The Bible says to tell your brother their sin in secret, if they don't listen, take another witness, if they don't listen tell is to the church, and you are doing right by telling someone else now. I firmly believe the law needs to be called into effect now. I think Mike Genung in his podcasts and books mentioned that they had to call FBI fer serious matters and this is a serious matter if you say that he (hubby's abuser) is already latched another victim? Think about the pain your husband is having, now times that by x number of victims and it's happening right now.

Take time to pray, read the Word and fight for the voiceless and victim. Enough is enough.

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Almost a year now Nov 16, 2022 12:30:17 GMT -7 via mobile

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Post by KevinesKay on Nov 16, 2022 12:30:17 GMT -7

thechipper857,

Thank you for checking in with us. That's great to hear that your husband has broken free from his bondage.

It sounds like you're still hurt by all that's been taken away from you over the years.

As hard as this may sound, would forgiveness be an option? Forgiveness towards your husband and this man? This may not be possible unless one is truly walking in the spirit. The flesh wants to dwell on the evil. The flesh wants to dwell on unforgiveness. The flesh wants to make things right.

In Mike's book, The Wives Heart, he emphasizes the importance of leaning on the Lord in a manner like never done before. I know of no worldly wisdom or fleshly weapon that's going to solve your dilemma. But I know that God is bigger than all of this. God did say, "Vengeance is mine." I urge you to take this matter to the Him. Spend time dwelling in His presence and heed His guidance and instruction on how He would like you to proceed.

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Almost a year now Nov 16, 2022 16:29:11 GMT -7

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Post by Ɖσмιиιc on Nov 16, 2022 16:29:11 GMT -7

I definitely believe that according to Matthew 18 that Jesus is strongly against any kind of child abuse. I am not God to tell you or others what to do, however, just a parrot to share the Word of God. I feel it's wrong to do the right and not do it. What is right exactly, to the detail?

Report to the authorities the other man who is abusing children. I don't think God would get upset at you for doing that, but Satan would want you to kind of delay, hide it, sort of wipe it under the rug, all of that, because that is how Satan is, operating in the darkness,

but what about your husband? what about his image being hurt? He is the victim too, so he needs to be helped, not condemned and those who would condemn don't understand God or their Bible, Roman 8:1 there is no condemnation in Christ. That is who I would like out my Christianity, absolutely.

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