Starting over

Hello and welcome. Let's pray.

Heavenly Father, please bring this man to his sense of what he could lose and what damage this is doing to his relationship with You Lord Jesus. Please help him to see what damage and pain and misery that he is doing to himself and to his wife, whom You have blessed him with. Please let him be like the prodigal and return back to you, Lord, You can do this, he can't and we can't but You can, and You can make him humbled, and at his lowest to wake him up. Please Lord, do a miracle and let this be for Your glory. Please Jesus, let this wife heal from all the pain. In Jesus' name. Amen.

When I went to therapy, I often complained about the wife, but it's was me, the s-x addict who had anger issues, deep hatred, deep love for body parts and all s-xual immorality. It's the same for your husband. It doesn't matter his profession of faith right now, if he is living in sins, he must be born again and he must be filled with the Holy Spirit, or all of this is not going to work. The counselor told me that I can't change anyone, I can only change my thoughts and my own behavior. Translate that into the Christian meanings, is this. God will heal you, I firmly believe. God will show you that You are not the one to make him like this. God will show you that You are worth it, and the ONLY one for him, IF he will wake up and see it. God has to show him that his god is his body and the body of others man and women, doesn't matter if he is gay/bi/etc. Romans 1 says

'The wrath of God is revealed from heaven against all ungodliness and unrighteousness of men, who suppress the truth through unrighteousness. For what may be known about God is clear to them since God has shown it to them. The invisible things about Him—His eternal power and deity—have been clearly seen since the creation of the world and are understood by the things that are made, so that they are without excuse. Because, although they knew God, they did not glorify Him or give thanks to Him as God, but became futile in their imaginations, and their foolish hearts were darkened. Claiming to be wise, they became fools. They changed the glory of the incorruptible God into an image made like corruptible man, birds, four-footed beasts, and creeping things. Therefore God gave them up to uncleanness through the lusts of their hearts, to dishonor their own bodies among themselves. They turned the truth of God into a lie and worshipped and served the creature rather than the Creator, who is blessed forever. Amen. For this reason God gave them up to dishonorable passions. Their women exchanged the natural function for what is against nature. Likewise the men, leaving the natural function of the woman, burned in their lust toward one another, men with men doing that which is shameful, and receiving in themselves the due penalty of their error. And since they did not see fit to acknowledge God, God gave them over to a debased mind, to do those things which are not proper. They were filled with all unrighteousness, sexual immorality, wickedness, covetousness, maliciousness; full of envy, murder, strife, deceit. They are gossips, slanderers, God-haters, insolent, proud, boastful, inventors of evil things, and disobedient toward parents, without understanding, covenant breakers, without natural affection, calloused, and unmerciful, who know the righteous requirement of God, that those who commit such things are worthy of death. They not only do them, but also give hearty approval to those who practice them.'

Romans 1:18-32
my.bible.com/bible/1171/ROM.1.18-32

I translate myself in Romans 1 to believe that I need salvation from that, if God let's me have it "my way", I go to worship creatures (human body and spirit of prostitution / lust) rather than God, despite if I was raised in the church my whole life or ministry, that is serious when we look at Matt 7:21-23

'“Not everyone who says to Me, ‘Lord, Lord,’ shall enter the kingdom of heaven, but he who does the will of My Father who is in heaven. Many will say to Me on that day, ‘Lord, Lord, have we not prophesied in Your name, cast out demons in Your name, and done many wonderful works in Your name?’ But then I will declare to them, ‘I never knew you. Depart from Me, you who practice evil.’'

Matthew 7:21-23
my.bible.com/bible/1171/MAT.7.21-23

I always fear I'm going to hell, not that I am saved by works, but if I am truly believing, then I would obey Jesus, right?

'“A good tree does not bear corrupt fruit, nor does a corrupt tree bear good fruit. Each tree is known by its own fruit. Men do not gather figs from thorns, nor do they gather grapes from a wild bush. A good man out of the good treasure of his heart bears what is good, and an evil man out of the evil treasure of his heart bears what is evil. For of the abundance of the heart his mouth speaks. “Why do you call Me, ‘Lord, Lord,’ and not do what I say? Whoever comes to Me and hears My words and does them, I will show whom he is like: He is like a man who built a house, and dug deep, and laid the foundation on rock. When the flood arose, the stream beat vehemently against that house, but could not shake it, for it was founded on rock. But he who hears and does not obey is like a man who built a house on the ground without a foundation, against which the stream beat vehemently. Immediately it fell, and the ruin of that house was great.”'

Luke 6:43-49
my.bible.com/bible/1171/LUK.6.43-49

But who am I? I can't tell him "You are not saved"

I am just like him, who is so sick, and warped, that I need God's unconditional love to make me see, that Jesus did die for me, and love me, despite me being me, and can change me, into something of what He wants me to be, to love my wife, to live in holiness, to stop thinking of women as pieces of meat and flesh but to think of them as souls who are going to hell in need of Jesus, in need of forgiveness, who also smell and stink like me, and also have their own life, their own worries, their own broken/happy marriages, and they are all struggling to do it like we all are.

God will wake him to to show that those porn actors/actress are lost, hell-bound, into drugs, body worshipp, and so hurting and looking for love, it's not even funny. many of them are currently gone, died of an overdoese, and burning in hell (Luke 16). We are not going to get away with anything.

' For the ways of man are before the eyes of the Lord , and He ponders all his goings. His own iniquities entrap the wicked himself, and he is snared in the cords of his sins. He will die for lack of instruction, and in the greatness of his folly he will go astray.'

Proverbs 5:21-23
my.bible.com/bible/1171/PRO.5.21-23


Now, I know I seem harsh, brutal, "self-righteous", because I have had many debates with Athiests online, and "brothers" in person and 'online'. I don't care about it...I'm not here to "offer feel good messages" but I am telling you the truth as I see it, from my own perspective, and others might strongly disagree and say things like "You are proud, arrogant" but here is how I see it.

True Grace teaches us this..

'Do you despise the riches of His goodness, tolerance, and patience, not knowing that the goodness of God leads you to repentance?'

Romans 2:4
my.bible.com/bible/1171/ROM.2.4

and also this

'For the grace of God that brings salvation has appeared to all men, teaching us that, denying ungodliness and worldly desires, we should live soberly, righteously, and in godliness in this present world, as we await the blessed hope and the appearing of the glory of our great God and Savior Jesus Christ, who gave Himself for us, that He might redeem us from all lawlessness and purify for Himself a special people, zealous of good works. Teach these things, exhort, and rebuke with all authority. Let no one despise you.'

Titus 2:11-15
my.bible.com/bible/1171/TIT.2.11-15

if God's grace is not leading us into that....when what is leading us....if I am keep cheating on my wife, cheating on God, what is really my profession of faith?

'What does it profit, my brothers, if a man says he has faith but has no works? Can faith save him? If a brother or sister is naked and lacking daily food, and one of you says to them, “Depart in peace, be warmed and filled,” and yet you give them nothing that the body needs, what does it profit? So faith by itself, if it has no works, is dead. But a man may say, “You have faith and I have works.” Show me your faith without your works, and I will show you my faith by my works. You believe that there is one God; you do well. The demons also believe and tremble. But do you want to be shown, O foolish man, that faith without works is dead? Was not Abraham our father justified by works when he offered his son Isaac on the altar? Do you see how faith worked with his works, and by works faith was made perfect? The Scripture was fulfilled which says, “Abraham believed God, and it was reckoned to him as righteousness,” and he was called the friend of God. You see then how by works a man is justified, and not by faith only. Likewise, was not Rahab the prostitute justified by works when she received the messengers and sent them out another way? As the body without the spirit is dead, so faith without works is dead.'

James 2:14-26
my.bible.com/bible/1171/JAS.2.14-26

and

'His fan is in His hand, and He will thoroughly cleanse His threshing floor, and will gather the wheat into His granary. But He will burn the chaff with unquenchable fire.” Then he preached many other things in his exhortation to the people. But Herod the tetrarch, being rebuked by him because of Herodias, his brother Philip’s wife, and for all the evils which Herod had done, added also this above them all: He locked John up in prison.'

Luke 3:17-20
my.bible.com/bible/1171/LUK.3.17-20


My wife often tells me thing like "why are you looking at the women on TV?" now? she doesn't, it's not that she thinks I'm better, probably she will NEVER believe God is changing me because my record is so bad, but she gives up on me, by giving me over to God to let God do as He does with me. My sins, are always caught, despite my methods to hide them. One time, I could not even eat, I was so sick and she asked me and I told her that I was talking with a women online, not sexual, but "counseling" and that set her off into sadness, tears, and back into the dog house I went.