Post by thechipper857 on Feb 18, 2022 17:12:47 GMT -7
Hello,
I have been married to my husband 19 years this past December. Been together 26 years, 2 kids, son 18, daughter 15. 1st DDay was 11/19/21 I found the sexual text messages hubby had been texting with another man, and a group text thread including several men and their "fantasies" of a good time. On 12/23/21 found his Tumblr account with all of the messages he was writing to other men, including pictures of his nakedself, vidoes of a masturbatory nature (anal toy use), and pictures of himself in my panties to other men and (what is refer to as) "shemales". Unsure if that is a term for something else? Transsexuals maybe?. 12/27/21 is when he admitted to the affair with another man that he has been seeing and having homosexual sex with for the entire time (26 yrs). I have know him.
He has moved out of the house, I have put a porn blocker on his phone and an accountability app, he is in therapy, and apparently he has not looked at porn or masturbated since 11/19/21.
Hubby has known the man he was sleeping with since the age if 13, "the man" was a "mentor"/friend/leader of sorts in hubby's Civil Air Patrol group. At 16 "the man" started showing hubby hard core porn while drinking hard liquor. Exactly On hubby's 18th birthday, after a night of porn and drinking, hubby woke up to "the man" performing oral sex on him. Apparently penial penetration didnt start until 16 years later..🤷♀️, however "the man" did use sexual devices (toys)in a homosexual way on my husband. During each physical encounter porn was always on, drinking had happened and the man
provided hubby was a type of drug called "poppers".Apparently my husband was the submissive in the relationship and enjoyed being penetrated by the toys and the oral stimulation the best. "The man" apparently has ED, so he was not able to sustain that part of the activity,for very long, according to hubbys account.🤷♀️ They kept in contact with sexual texts and emails, (videos were made for him, which hubby later posted in messages to others) which was the lead up to their next encounter with each other, and would talked on the phone monthly for 2-3 hours. Hubby swears there was nothing sexual discussed during the phone conversations. I am unsure if I believe that or not.
I know "the man" and his wife, they were at our wedding! I have reached out to "the man" who has confirmed the encounters with a claim that in the beginning of the relationship he loved my husband. Please know that my husband was 18, "the man" was 36 when this started. I never suspected!!!!!
Hubby cant remember all of the physical sexual encounters with "the man" during our marriage, but remembers at least 12 times it happened . When hubby asked meto marry him I said"if you ever lie to me, cheat on me or do drugs, I would be gone! If we have kids, they are coming woth me!!"
Here I am today. Hubby DID lie, has been cheating our entire relationship, and was doing drugs.
And the porn was very a much a part of his daily life. NOW, he says he regrets it, is ashamed, embarrassed, and feels unredeamable. He "says" he loves me and wants to be a better man. He has checked out the blazing grace website and supposedly reading "Every mans marriage", and the "Effects of porn to your brain books" I purchased him. I have also got him a prayer journal.
He is in therapy 2 times a week.My background: at age 3 I was kidnapped by my father (literally was on milk cartons) father took me because my mother found out he was a homosexual, pedophile, who was molesting boys at the high school he taught at. I grew up in a house full of gay men, catching the live version of homosexual activities, and abandoned alot while my father chased his sexual pleasures. My mother found me after 7 years, I lived with her for 3, during that time my step father took quite a sexual interest in me, so mom sent me back to dad. At 18 i got out of my fathers house, tried to establish a relationship with my mother, but since I was NOT "the daughter she would of raised" she didnt want anything to do with me.
My 1st marriage. I was 19, he beat me.
In my 20's i went through extensive therapy and self awareness classes, and became a stable person.
Now, here i am in my late 40's no family, and a bisexual, porn addicted husband.
I have never really been to church or was taught about God, yet I have always known he is with me, as a kid I felt a presence that always told me right from wrong.
I, unfortunately, do not feel that presence with me anymore.😔😪
Big reason why I have reached out to find help through this organization. I am also in therapy, and only 2 months into dealing with this new trauma in my life. I am doing my best to shield and protect my children as much as possible!
Thank you, R.
PS: I am on a Facebook group, "Christian wives who's husband is a porn addict". It was in this group someone posted about the book "the wife's heart", which I purchased and read. This is how I found out about blazing grace.
I have been married to my husband 19 years this past December. Been together 26 years, 2 kids, son 18, daughter 15. 1st DDay was 11/19/21 I found the sexual text messages hubby had been texting with another man, and a group text thread including several men and their "fantasies" of a good time. On 12/23/21 found his Tumblr account with all of the messages he was writing to other men, including pictures of his nakedself, vidoes of a masturbatory nature (anal toy use), and pictures of himself in my panties to other men and (what is refer to as) "shemales". Unsure if that is a term for something else? Transsexuals maybe?. 12/27/21 is when he admitted to the affair with another man that he has been seeing and having homosexual sex with for the entire time (26 yrs). I have know him.
He has moved out of the house, I have put a porn blocker on his phone and an accountability app, he is in therapy, and apparently he has not looked at porn or masturbated since 11/19/21.
Hubby has known the man he was sleeping with since the age if 13, "the man" was a "mentor"/friend/leader of sorts in hubby's Civil Air Patrol group. At 16 "the man" started showing hubby hard core porn while drinking hard liquor. Exactly On hubby's 18th birthday, after a night of porn and drinking, hubby woke up to "the man" performing oral sex on him. Apparently penial penetration didnt start until 16 years later..🤷♀️, however "the man" did use sexual devices (toys)in a homosexual way on my husband. During each physical encounter porn was always on, drinking had happened and the man
provided hubby was a type of drug called "poppers".Apparently my husband was the submissive in the relationship and enjoyed being penetrated by the toys and the oral stimulation the best. "The man" apparently has ED, so he was not able to sustain that part of the activity,for very long, according to hubbys account.🤷♀️ They kept in contact with sexual texts and emails, (videos were made for him, which hubby later posted in messages to others) which was the lead up to their next encounter with each other, and would talked on the phone monthly for 2-3 hours. Hubby swears there was nothing sexual discussed during the phone conversations. I am unsure if I believe that or not.
I know "the man" and his wife, they were at our wedding! I have reached out to "the man" who has confirmed the encounters with a claim that in the beginning of the relationship he loved my husband. Please know that my husband was 18, "the man" was 36 when this started. I never suspected!!!!!
Hubby cant remember all of the physical sexual encounters with "the man" during our marriage, but remembers at least 12 times it happened . When hubby asked meto marry him I said"if you ever lie to me, cheat on me or do drugs, I would be gone! If we have kids, they are coming woth me!!"
Here I am today. Hubby DID lie, has been cheating our entire relationship, and was doing drugs.
And the porn was very a much a part of his daily life. NOW, he says he regrets it, is ashamed, embarrassed, and feels unredeamable. He "says" he loves me and wants to be a better man. He has checked out the blazing grace website and supposedly reading "Every mans marriage", and the "Effects of porn to your brain books" I purchased him. I have also got him a prayer journal.
He is in therapy 2 times a week.My background: at age 3 I was kidnapped by my father (literally was on milk cartons) father took me because my mother found out he was a homosexual, pedophile, who was molesting boys at the high school he taught at. I grew up in a house full of gay men, catching the live version of homosexual activities, and abandoned alot while my father chased his sexual pleasures. My mother found me after 7 years, I lived with her for 3, during that time my step father took quite a sexual interest in me, so mom sent me back to dad. At 18 i got out of my fathers house, tried to establish a relationship with my mother, but since I was NOT "the daughter she would of raised" she didnt want anything to do with me.
My 1st marriage. I was 19, he beat me.
In my 20's i went through extensive therapy and self awareness classes, and became a stable person.
Now, here i am in my late 40's no family, and a bisexual, porn addicted husband.
I have never really been to church or was taught about God, yet I have always known he is with me, as a kid I felt a presence that always told me right from wrong.
I, unfortunately, do not feel that presence with me anymore.😔😪
Big reason why I have reached out to find help through this organization. I am also in therapy, and only 2 months into dealing with this new trauma in my life. I am doing my best to shield and protect my children as much as possible!
Thank you, R.
PS: I am on a Facebook group, "Christian wives who's husband is a porn addict". It was in this group someone posted about the book "the wife's heart", which I purchased and read. This is how I found out about blazing grace.
