Post by Ɖσмιиιc on Jan 22, 2022 8:03:40 GMT -7
If we look at our sins, our addiction, as an idol, and know what God commands us to do with idols, we are equipped more than the secular person who doesn’t even know God or what do to.
Here are the simple instructions.
Seek the Lord while He may be found, call you upon Him while He is near. Let the wicked forsake his way, and the unrighteous man his thoughts; and let him return to the Lord , and He will have mercy upon him, and to our God, for He will abundantly pardon. Isaiah 55:6-7
Perhaps you are wondering, “Ok, I heard that, everyone says ‘pray’ or something like that. How, can you teach me?
Now we are getting the real questions. I can’t but Jesus can and did. Listen.
‘“Therefore pray in this manner: Our Father who is in heaven, hallowed be Your name. Your kingdom come; Your will be done on earth, as it is in heaven. Give us this day our daily bread. And forgive us our debts, as we forgive our debtors. And lead us not into temptation, but deliver us from evil. For Yours is the kingdom and the power and the glory forever. Amen. For if you forgive men for their sins, your heavenly Father will also forgive you. But if you do not forgive men for their sins, neither will your Father forgive your sins.’ Matthew 6:9-15
You might say “ok, I heard that one too” what does that mean. I just repeat the words and like magic, I all of a sudden want to ‘stop’ doing the addiction?
No.
Then what?
This.
You must go to God, talking to God in prayer, and tell God exactly what you want. What do you want?
You say “I want to stop this addiction and I’ve tried”. Ok, good, now try this.
Get to a private place, close the door, and pray to God as if your very soul and life depends on it. See the death approaching you day by day and your need to get right with God is the most important step. Nothing else matters right now.
Here is what I did. When I alone, I got on my face, literally, I closed my eyes. I spoke to God this way.
“Lord, you know everything about me, you know that I have done these terrible sins. Lord, my wife wants nothing to do with me, my life is so messed up and I hate myself. I am a lying, hypocrite, fake Christian and I just need You and Your help. I don’t know if my wife will divorce me or if I will ever stop sinning, but Lord, I need help. Lord, I am also tired of the fake people around me, I feel and I confess that I hate everyone. I hate even You God, I sins showed me that I am hating the light and I am doing evil and this shows how much I hated you. Lord, now I don’t want to hate you. Now I want to be honest and clean, and start to live right now. Lord, I have so much hatred inside. I have so much sexual immorality. I’m just done Lord.”
Words like this, and I cried and cried, and to the depths of my heart and soul just pouring out my complaint and my heart to God. I also waited and heard nothing.
Then…
I saw this on my mind. The Lord Jesus, on the cross, dying on the cross for my sins, He was dying for me, hurting, crying, in so much pain.
I felt this “God is for me” and “God is not done with me”
I got excited and prayed for God to help me.
“Lord, I know you love me, I feel that You love me, even if all other loves forsake me, I know You will not forsake me. Lord, please make me a Christian, please make me born again, please do whatever it is I need in me, and I don’t even know what to ask You Lord, just please help me, I’m desperate”
and I felt like God was not done with me.
After this prayer, I got up and went away. I was a new person. I made my mind up that I was not going to watch porn and masturbate or visit prostitutes or go to massage parlors or lie to my wife or do anything. Even if she divorced me, I would promise to God to live in purity.
I can’t tell you that if you do exactly what I did, you will be healed. Because I would be lying. I can tell you that if you do what God says, and trust what God says, God will not lie to you and God will bless you.
Seek the Lord while He may be found, call you upon Him while He is near. Let the wicked forsake his way, and the unrighteous man his thoughts; and let him return to the Lord , and He will have mercy upon him, and to our God, for He will abundantly pardon. Isaiah 55:6-7
If you seek the Lord, in this time, you will find Him. But listen to the words carefully. It says “while He may be found” this indicates that you might go too far or get into a state where you do not want anymore anything to do with God, and because of the sins making your conscience seered and God giving you up to a depraved mind (Romans 1) you might never be able to get the help you need. This is why, you must do it as soon as possible. You might die today, or you might get “recovered” tomorrow or years later…but why do all the heartache and suffering for years until God does something drastic like let you suffer the most unimaginable kinds of ways. Like what? Revelations 2 has some warnings if you really want to know. Why not get it right with God, right now.
You might ask “Does this mean, I have to get rid of my internet?” “Does this mean I have to stop having affairs”
Let me say this. If you haven’t gotten a new relationship with the Lord Jesus Christ, your sobriety date, and all the sexual behavior changes mean nothing, it’s only covering up the most important need of salvation.
What if I am saved? Well, prove if by examine yourself, making your calling and election sure, and read Matthew 7:21-23 to put the fear of God back in your heart and also Matthew 10:28. Then know God is not all about fear and judgment but grace. If you and I rightly know God’s grace, we will repent.
‘Do you despise the riches of His goodness, tolerance, and patience, not knowing that the goodness of God leads you to repentance?’ Romans 2:4
Think about it. If I truly know God and His grace, His kindness His mercy to me, it will lead me to repentance. It makes me think “If I am not repenting, then what am I lacking in knowing God and His grace”.
What does God’s grace teach? Here.
‘For the grace of God that brings salvation has appeared to all men, teaching us that, denying ungodliness and worldly desires, we should live soberly, righteously, and in godliness in this present world, as we await the blessed hope and the appearing of the glory of our great God and Savior Jesus Christ, who gave Himself for us, that He might redeem us from all lawlessness and purify for Himself a special people, zealous of good works. Teach these things, exhort, and rebuke with all authority. Let no one despise you.’ Titus 2:11-15
Let’s get down to the knitty gritty, or the root of the matter.
Ask yourself this question.
“Do I really want to give up and stop the sexual acting out including stopping all forms of sexual lust?”
Perhaps the answer is “no, I actually still want to watch porn and masturbate”
Then let me interpret what you are really saying.
I want to commit adultery and serve and worship the creation rather than the Creator (Romans 1).
Why?
Because I’m addicted.
So?
So, I am addicted.
Do you want to break free from the addiction?
Yes, and no.
What?
I am wanting to be free from it, but …
But?
Well, I might struggle.
Ok, but do you want to be free from it? You must make a choice.
Yes, I want to be free.
Good.
What now?
Ask God for a new heart, in a broken and contrite heart state. That is where you must be in order to properly approach God.
‘The sacrifices of God are a broken spirit; a broken and a contrite heart, O God, You will not despise.‘ Psalms 51:17
Let me say this. God is not interested in making a show, or you can’t say “God I prayed already like this” because God knows the attitudes and intents of our heart. We can’t ever say “God I tried this and it didnt’ work” If you already think this, and are still in addictions, then it was not God’s fault, but yours. This hurts I know, but it’s part of the being broken. We have nothing to justify ourselves when we come to God.
We will not be able to stand before God on judgment day in our pride and arrogance as if “we are good” and “God is bad” no. It’s never that way, but we “think it” and this is parting of the thinking that we need to get rid of. All of it.
Seek the Lord while He may be found, call you upon Him while He is near. Let the wicked forsake his way, and the unrighteous man his thoughts; and let him return to the Lord , and He will have mercy upon him, and to our God, for He will abundantly pardon. Isaiah 55:6-7
You know how some people say these things.
it’s gonna take time, it’s a process and that?
It’s true but you can speed up the process if you know somethings. Let me tell you what things.
‘For if you forgive men for their sins, your heavenly Father will also forgive you. But if you do not forgive men for their sins, neither will your Father forgive your sins.’ Matthew 6:14-15
so you must forgive all your family and friends and enemies – everyone. If your dad or mother hurt you? forgive them. why? Because God loves them too and God died on the cross for their sins too. Jesus is God and Jesus did in fact die for their sins and wants them also to be saved, as God wants you to be saved. That’s why. When we hold these grudges against others, it’s like saying “God, you want to forgive them, but I don’t”. Look, Satan is called the accuser of the brethern, and when we hold back forgiveness, even they don’t deserve it (we didn’t derserve God’s gift either), when we hold back forgiveness, we are actually doing the works of darkness and Satanic. So in a sense, we are following Satan, does that shock you? why? Peter was able to be used by Satan and God told Peter, “Get behind me Satan” while speaking to Peter, his disciple, because Satan was influencing Peter to tell Jesus that Jesus didn’t have to go to the cross. Do not let Satan use you. If you know the truth, it will set you free Jesus said. How to forgive other? You ask God for help and you let it go. When Satan reminds you, you let it go. I have forgiven them, it’s done.
What else? What else is going to help in my recovery process?
This.
God is your primary source of getting unconditional love now.
Did you think the drugs were going to give it? They can’t. Did you think your marriage was going to fulfill all of your sexual fantasy? It will not.
We can’t treat anyone as someone higher than God, this is idolatry. If my wife is more important that God is, I have just kicked God out of my hearts throne and put my wife and her wishes there. How dare me. How can we do this? I know, because perhaps my wife is able to give me sex and I want that still and still God hasn’t become number 1. So this is where I said that addiction should be treated like idolatry and we kick out the addiction by kicking out the idolatry, let this mean this – treat God as your number one love and get all your unconditional love from God, not thinking “oh my wife is so beatiful and she is my number 1 source of getting love” no. God has to be number 1, not anyone person or thing.
Now, about the ‘thing’. If sex addiction was your addition, your private parts, are the things that are your idols. This is not to master you no more. You must master it and it starts by mastering how you think and you can’t do this alone, you need God’s help and God’s spirit. So ask God for the Holy Spirit and to be filled with the Holy Spirit and give yourself over to reading and studying the Bible, this will be your key to gain a proper perspective on gaining self-control.
So do not have idols – your wife or your girlfriend So do not have idols – your private parts.
Yes, it sounds crazy to the world, but according to God’s Word. God is number one and to be loved most, and obeyed, and feared, and trusted.
When you believe in God, you let go of your own way of thinking and doing and learn about God’s.
You might have thought I wrote a bunch of crazy things but seek God for yourself and let God help you find how to live a way that is pure before his eyes.
I’m not free totally, I still have temptations and I still struggle, but I am not practicing sins, I am not doing what I once did before. Will I fall in the future? I hope I never do. I will say this, “With God’s help, I can do anything” and “With God’s help, all things are possible” All things include, future escapes from falling into sins.
Is that pride? arrogance of me to say? I think I trust God to help me and if I can abide in Christ, I am going to be OK, and not fall down, not sin, not practice sins as I did before.
What? so you are saying “you are never going to watch porn and masturbate again?”
my answer is “With God, all things are possible”
What, you didn’t answer my question, ‘are you still going to watch porn and masturbate?”
my answer is “With God, all things are possible”
Ok, so “no” you will not right?
Yes, because “With God, all things are possible”
What if I fall in the future?
I am not going to worry about tomorrow because Jesus said not to worry.
So you are planning to fall?
No.
With Jesus, I can do all things.
and
so can you, with God, all things are possible.
Here are the simple instructions.
Seek the Lord while He may be found, call you upon Him while He is near. Let the wicked forsake his way, and the unrighteous man his thoughts; and let him return to the Lord , and He will have mercy upon him, and to our God, for He will abundantly pardon. Isaiah 55:6-7
Perhaps you are wondering, “Ok, I heard that, everyone says ‘pray’ or something like that. How, can you teach me?
Now we are getting the real questions. I can’t but Jesus can and did. Listen.
‘“Therefore pray in this manner: Our Father who is in heaven, hallowed be Your name. Your kingdom come; Your will be done on earth, as it is in heaven. Give us this day our daily bread. And forgive us our debts, as we forgive our debtors. And lead us not into temptation, but deliver us from evil. For Yours is the kingdom and the power and the glory forever. Amen. For if you forgive men for their sins, your heavenly Father will also forgive you. But if you do not forgive men for their sins, neither will your Father forgive your sins.’ Matthew 6:9-15
You might say “ok, I heard that one too” what does that mean. I just repeat the words and like magic, I all of a sudden want to ‘stop’ doing the addiction?
No.
Then what?
This.
You must go to God, talking to God in prayer, and tell God exactly what you want. What do you want?
You say “I want to stop this addiction and I’ve tried”. Ok, good, now try this.
Get to a private place, close the door, and pray to God as if your very soul and life depends on it. See the death approaching you day by day and your need to get right with God is the most important step. Nothing else matters right now.
Here is what I did. When I alone, I got on my face, literally, I closed my eyes. I spoke to God this way.
“Lord, you know everything about me, you know that I have done these terrible sins. Lord, my wife wants nothing to do with me, my life is so messed up and I hate myself. I am a lying, hypocrite, fake Christian and I just need You and Your help. I don’t know if my wife will divorce me or if I will ever stop sinning, but Lord, I need help. Lord, I am also tired of the fake people around me, I feel and I confess that I hate everyone. I hate even You God, I sins showed me that I am hating the light and I am doing evil and this shows how much I hated you. Lord, now I don’t want to hate you. Now I want to be honest and clean, and start to live right now. Lord, I have so much hatred inside. I have so much sexual immorality. I’m just done Lord.”
Words like this, and I cried and cried, and to the depths of my heart and soul just pouring out my complaint and my heart to God. I also waited and heard nothing.
Then…
I saw this on my mind. The Lord Jesus, on the cross, dying on the cross for my sins, He was dying for me, hurting, crying, in so much pain.
I felt this “God is for me” and “God is not done with me”
I got excited and prayed for God to help me.
“Lord, I know you love me, I feel that You love me, even if all other loves forsake me, I know You will not forsake me. Lord, please make me a Christian, please make me born again, please do whatever it is I need in me, and I don’t even know what to ask You Lord, just please help me, I’m desperate”
and I felt like God was not done with me.
After this prayer, I got up and went away. I was a new person. I made my mind up that I was not going to watch porn and masturbate or visit prostitutes or go to massage parlors or lie to my wife or do anything. Even if she divorced me, I would promise to God to live in purity.
I can’t tell you that if you do exactly what I did, you will be healed. Because I would be lying. I can tell you that if you do what God says, and trust what God says, God will not lie to you and God will bless you.
Seek the Lord while He may be found, call you upon Him while He is near. Let the wicked forsake his way, and the unrighteous man his thoughts; and let him return to the Lord , and He will have mercy upon him, and to our God, for He will abundantly pardon. Isaiah 55:6-7
If you seek the Lord, in this time, you will find Him. But listen to the words carefully. It says “while He may be found” this indicates that you might go too far or get into a state where you do not want anymore anything to do with God, and because of the sins making your conscience seered and God giving you up to a depraved mind (Romans 1) you might never be able to get the help you need. This is why, you must do it as soon as possible. You might die today, or you might get “recovered” tomorrow or years later…but why do all the heartache and suffering for years until God does something drastic like let you suffer the most unimaginable kinds of ways. Like what? Revelations 2 has some warnings if you really want to know. Why not get it right with God, right now.
You might ask “Does this mean, I have to get rid of my internet?” “Does this mean I have to stop having affairs”
Let me say this. If you haven’t gotten a new relationship with the Lord Jesus Christ, your sobriety date, and all the sexual behavior changes mean nothing, it’s only covering up the most important need of salvation.
What if I am saved? Well, prove if by examine yourself, making your calling and election sure, and read Matthew 7:21-23 to put the fear of God back in your heart and also Matthew 10:28. Then know God is not all about fear and judgment but grace. If you and I rightly know God’s grace, we will repent.
‘Do you despise the riches of His goodness, tolerance, and patience, not knowing that the goodness of God leads you to repentance?’ Romans 2:4
Think about it. If I truly know God and His grace, His kindness His mercy to me, it will lead me to repentance. It makes me think “If I am not repenting, then what am I lacking in knowing God and His grace”.
What does God’s grace teach? Here.
‘For the grace of God that brings salvation has appeared to all men, teaching us that, denying ungodliness and worldly desires, we should live soberly, righteously, and in godliness in this present world, as we await the blessed hope and the appearing of the glory of our great God and Savior Jesus Christ, who gave Himself for us, that He might redeem us from all lawlessness and purify for Himself a special people, zealous of good works. Teach these things, exhort, and rebuke with all authority. Let no one despise you.’ Titus 2:11-15
Let’s get down to the knitty gritty, or the root of the matter.
Ask yourself this question.
“Do I really want to give up and stop the sexual acting out including stopping all forms of sexual lust?”
Perhaps the answer is “no, I actually still want to watch porn and masturbate”
Then let me interpret what you are really saying.
I want to commit adultery and serve and worship the creation rather than the Creator (Romans 1).
Why?
Because I’m addicted.
So?
So, I am addicted.
Do you want to break free from the addiction?
Yes, and no.
What?
I am wanting to be free from it, but …
But?
Well, I might struggle.
Ok, but do you want to be free from it? You must make a choice.
Yes, I want to be free.
Good.
What now?
Ask God for a new heart, in a broken and contrite heart state. That is where you must be in order to properly approach God.
‘The sacrifices of God are a broken spirit; a broken and a contrite heart, O God, You will not despise.‘ Psalms 51:17
Let me say this. God is not interested in making a show, or you can’t say “God I prayed already like this” because God knows the attitudes and intents of our heart. We can’t ever say “God I tried this and it didnt’ work” If you already think this, and are still in addictions, then it was not God’s fault, but yours. This hurts I know, but it’s part of the being broken. We have nothing to justify ourselves when we come to God.
We will not be able to stand before God on judgment day in our pride and arrogance as if “we are good” and “God is bad” no. It’s never that way, but we “think it” and this is parting of the thinking that we need to get rid of. All of it.
Seek the Lord while He may be found, call you upon Him while He is near. Let the wicked forsake his way, and the unrighteous man his thoughts; and let him return to the Lord , and He will have mercy upon him, and to our God, for He will abundantly pardon. Isaiah 55:6-7
You know how some people say these things.
it’s gonna take time, it’s a process and that?
It’s true but you can speed up the process if you know somethings. Let me tell you what things.
‘For if you forgive men for their sins, your heavenly Father will also forgive you. But if you do not forgive men for their sins, neither will your Father forgive your sins.’ Matthew 6:14-15
so you must forgive all your family and friends and enemies – everyone. If your dad or mother hurt you? forgive them. why? Because God loves them too and God died on the cross for their sins too. Jesus is God and Jesus did in fact die for their sins and wants them also to be saved, as God wants you to be saved. That’s why. When we hold these grudges against others, it’s like saying “God, you want to forgive them, but I don’t”. Look, Satan is called the accuser of the brethern, and when we hold back forgiveness, even they don’t deserve it (we didn’t derserve God’s gift either), when we hold back forgiveness, we are actually doing the works of darkness and Satanic. So in a sense, we are following Satan, does that shock you? why? Peter was able to be used by Satan and God told Peter, “Get behind me Satan” while speaking to Peter, his disciple, because Satan was influencing Peter to tell Jesus that Jesus didn’t have to go to the cross. Do not let Satan use you. If you know the truth, it will set you free Jesus said. How to forgive other? You ask God for help and you let it go. When Satan reminds you, you let it go. I have forgiven them, it’s done.
What else? What else is going to help in my recovery process?
This.
God is your primary source of getting unconditional love now.
Did you think the drugs were going to give it? They can’t. Did you think your marriage was going to fulfill all of your sexual fantasy? It will not.
We can’t treat anyone as someone higher than God, this is idolatry. If my wife is more important that God is, I have just kicked God out of my hearts throne and put my wife and her wishes there. How dare me. How can we do this? I know, because perhaps my wife is able to give me sex and I want that still and still God hasn’t become number 1. So this is where I said that addiction should be treated like idolatry and we kick out the addiction by kicking out the idolatry, let this mean this – treat God as your number one love and get all your unconditional love from God, not thinking “oh my wife is so beatiful and she is my number 1 source of getting love” no. God has to be number 1, not anyone person or thing.
Now, about the ‘thing’. If sex addiction was your addition, your private parts, are the things that are your idols. This is not to master you no more. You must master it and it starts by mastering how you think and you can’t do this alone, you need God’s help and God’s spirit. So ask God for the Holy Spirit and to be filled with the Holy Spirit and give yourself over to reading and studying the Bible, this will be your key to gain a proper perspective on gaining self-control.
So do not have idols – your wife or your girlfriend So do not have idols – your private parts.
Yes, it sounds crazy to the world, but according to God’s Word. God is number one and to be loved most, and obeyed, and feared, and trusted.
When you believe in God, you let go of your own way of thinking and doing and learn about God’s.
You might have thought I wrote a bunch of crazy things but seek God for yourself and let God help you find how to live a way that is pure before his eyes.
I’m not free totally, I still have temptations and I still struggle, but I am not practicing sins, I am not doing what I once did before. Will I fall in the future? I hope I never do. I will say this, “With God’s help, I can do anything” and “With God’s help, all things are possible” All things include, future escapes from falling into sins.
Is that pride? arrogance of me to say? I think I trust God to help me and if I can abide in Christ, I am going to be OK, and not fall down, not sin, not practice sins as I did before.
What? so you are saying “you are never going to watch porn and masturbate again?”
my answer is “With God, all things are possible”
What, you didn’t answer my question, ‘are you still going to watch porn and masturbate?”
my answer is “With God, all things are possible”
Ok, so “no” you will not right?
Yes, because “With God, all things are possible”
What if I fall in the future?
I am not going to worry about tomorrow because Jesus said not to worry.
So you are planning to fall?
No.
With Jesus, I can do all things.
and
so can you, with God, all things are possible.