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Post by Deleted on Oct 18, 2020 16:31:51 GMT -7
Thank you for letting me say hi. I'm not sure where to start so I will put it into words as best as I can. Like a lot of other people I have had a porn problem for quite a while. I have had minor, brief successes but nothing that has become permanent yet. I have struggled to quit and need a place where I can ask for help especially from folks that have been there. I have confessed and prayed with a co worker who was kind enough to share his story with me but I believe that only scratched the surface. I want to allow others into my life, however dealing with this sin and not having someone whom I can talk to regularly is tough. Walking around the street with a sandwich board that says "hey I look at porn" is not something I want to do but I need to get this off my chest publicly.
Even getting to the point of coming here to post this was a lot of prodding from our Heavenly Father. Making up my mind to quit I have learned the hard way my flesh is not enough. Whining is not something I want to do either. I have been dealing with pain and disappointment in myself for some time. There are so many people who have it worse than I do but I know if I don't quit now, it will get worse.
I appreciate being here and hope to heal, help others heal if I can and maybe make new friends. I apologize if what I typed doesn't make sense.
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Post by Deleted on Oct 19, 2020 18:19:10 GMT -7
Welcome scarsoftruth. I am glad you found us. I would recommend starting a thread in the accountability area. It's where most of us hang out. We are here to uplift, encourage and pray for each other. We give advice where we can. I will send some of the men here to say hi. They don't always see threads in the intro area.
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Post by savedbygrace on Oct 22, 2020 14:01:56 GMT -7
Hi ScarsofTruth, and welcome!!! I'm so glad you are here. My name is Paul, going by SavedByGrace here.
As Amy said, I'll look for you in the Accountability area.
Probably my favorite passage in the Book of Ecclesiastes (NOT my favorite book) is the part where it talks about how we're stronger together than apart.......
Ecclesiastes 4:9-12
English Standard Version
Two are better than one, because they have a good reward for their toil. For if they fall, one will lift up his fellow. But woe to him who is alone when he falls and has not another to lift him up! Again, if two lie together, they keep warm, but how can one keep warm alone? And though a man might prevail against one who is alone, two will withstand him—a threefold cord is not quickly broken.
So I welcome you as one more strand in that cord. Thank you for being here!
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Post by Deleted on Oct 22, 2020 16:45:45 GMT -7
Thank you Amy and Paul. Bear with me as I am a slow typer. I am glad you all have shared with me. This is the first time I have tried fully to deal with this and while I know it's tough, I finally am at the point where I actually want to deal with the problem and not just hope it goes away. I am not giving you a hard time but as an example what you have gone through I don't want it to get that bad with my wife and life. Thank you for telling your story as it gives me hope. I have to go as it is time for me to go to work but I will try to be here a couple times a week.
Sorry if I missed anything but I at least am aware this is not a quick fix thing. Probably half my problems are from "quick fixes"
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Post by Deleted on Oct 22, 2020 17:03:43 GMT -7
it’s ok ScarsOfTruth, I will not judge you and respect your opinion. What has helped me see my real issue is reading the Word. For example, the chapter on Romans 1 has some heavy truth. I definitely know that Romans applies to me. I can’t accuse or say that about others. I think that is the Holy Spirits role to “convict us of our sins” I just know that chapter was heavy and true for me.
I hope you can post often and find help and support wherever God is leading you.
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Post by javajake on Oct 24, 2020 9:32:44 GMT -7
Welcome scarsoftruth! You are soooo not alone brother. Been battling this sense trusting in Christ. So over 39 years. Still battling it sadly. Probably 90% of the men you know or see on the street have a problem with it. Most don't want to talk about it. I was forced to face it more directly when my wife caught me. Calmed it down a little but still take chances. These are some good honest people here so don't be afraid to open up. Looking forward to hearing from you!
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Post by Deleted on Nov 25, 2020 12:53:31 GMT -7
Not glad to hear you have trouble javajake but glad at least not alone. I have minimized my computer time in this month and I have found for me in combination of reading my bible and praying regularly it is not automatically easy but has been the kind of progress and attitude I have been lacking. God has given me strength recently that is not my own. It's like I have been pushing against a wall with no permanent improvement but I see that my own effort is never enough.
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Post by savedbygrace on Nov 28, 2020 11:40:32 GMT -7
Yes, God gives us a strength that is not our own!
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