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Post by Will on Feb 9, 2020 19:33:02 GMT -7
Hi guys,
was interested in starting a list of triggers - things related to the 'seemingly unimportant decision' that often end up being the starting point for a slide into relapse. Here's some things that I know are best avoided:
- lack of sleep - stress (inc. overwork - not taking a full day of complete rest every week)
- alcohol (i.e. during the 48 hrs after consuming alcohol)
- movies (wow this one is so huge for me. Can be the greatest, most wholesome movie in the world, but almost always opens up a fantasy world that leads to acting out) - youtube (a lot of content that is wholesome and productive, but there's a constant risk of seeing something that is a trigger) - eating pork (I know it's weird, but it has been a thing for me)
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Post by Deleted on Feb 9, 2020 20:11:03 GMT -7
1. waking up and not reading the Word
2. not confessing my sins to the Lord
3. thinking I'm safe when I'm not. You know the verse that says that "you who are standing strong be careful that you don't fall down"
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Post by Will on Mar 3, 2020 23:13:22 GMT -7
Movies - Grrrrrr wow such a trigger for me! I haven't told you guys but up until a year ago I worked in the TV and film industry and made quite a few films myself. After approximately 35 years servicing a MASSIVE movie addiction, they now have a terrible effect on me. Unsurprising as watching movies too much is essentially buying into a fantasy world, and porn/masturbation is fantasy. The two things are very much connected for me.
Here's what happened when I stumbled a month ago after being clean for a month: Staying with some friends, wonderful Christian brothers and sisters, they love Sherwood Pictures productions, don't we all. They mention they have just bought and watched 'Overcomer' and how much they liked it, but they didn't suggest that we watch anything together, sensing my feelings about audiovisual media in general.
Come Friday night, I suggest that we watch the movie (note not them, me!) So we sit down and watch 'Overcomer'. Great movie, I nearly cried. Everyone loved it. God to bed. The next day I stumble back into pornography!!!
NO MORE MOVIES FOR ME!!!!!
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Post by Deleted on Mar 4, 2020 1:33:20 GMT -7
T.V. shows and movies. Have to be very careful.
Music
Inappropriate talk...people don't realize how inappropriate theirs words can be when "admiring" others.
Fantasy books...had to give up reading those even so called "Christian romance" novels.
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Post by KevinesKay on Mar 4, 2020 6:23:29 GMT -7
Triggers for me include ignoring my physical, social, emotional, and spritual needs.
Physical - Making sure I eat right, get enough sleep, exercise, HALT
Social - Going to church, maintaining friendships in person, online, and on the phone, volunteering, satisfaction at work.
Emotional - Spending quality time with my wife and family; being available to them.
Spiritual - Having a regular time with the Lord via prayer and reading His word. Worshiping Him with singing and my guitar. Acknowledging His presence throughout my day.
This is all a work in progress for me. I'm not perfect in any of these. But the better I do in taking care of myself in these areas, the easier it is for me to stay sexually sober.
But one huge TRIGGER of all triggers for me is easy access to my DOC. I've mentioned this before. I could be doing well in every area, but if porn is within arms reach, I'm going to eventually take a hit. I might withstand for awhile, but not forever. I even have a harder time keeping custody of my mind when it's easily accessible.
So I work hard keeping my home safe. And it's so worth it. And when I go through moments of unclarity, at least I made it a bit harder for myself to act out. And I have a bit more opportunity to stop myself before I do something I'd regret.
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Post by Deleted on Mar 29, 2020 15:19:26 GMT -7
HALT is an important awareness factor - I have actually added an "s" to it for stress so it ends up looking like hungry angry lonely tired or stressed. Another tool I have used in the past but takes a little bit of discipline to use effectively is something called the FASTER scale - you can google it. It gives you an overview of factors that might lead you either towards or away from purity. Its kind of a diagnostic tool for your emotional - physical makeup. You can have your results sent to accountability partners each day so they can have a snapshot of how you are doing ( as long as you are honest in answering the questions ).
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Post by teetop on Apr 22, 2020 9:42:43 GMT -7
Triggers! one of my favorite words. Triggers can be anything and every thing.
And they can change too. We all have triggers of one type or another but for some of us who have little to no control, awakenings open up our desires and assorted lusts. What makes it bad for those of us that have lost control of our sex drive even go into forbidden fruits. (Adultery, fornication, incest, bestiality, just to name a few,)
I know for myself that my sexual desires started at a very early age. As did masturbation. If it was a female it didn't take much to trigger me. Heck, even just writing about it can trigger me. At the same time I am finding out about my triggers. I've found that almost anything can trigger our lust.
Well that is enough for now.
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Post by teetop on Jun 15, 2020 21:35:00 GMT -7
Triggers: As I've noted in some of other post that just trying to write about them can trigger those desires of lust. Anyone else like that?
Then there are those strange photo's, innocuous in themselves, that out off the blue become strong triggers. Anyone struggle with those?
What about news stories? They do me sometimes.
Certain types of skirts can do it to me. What about you?
There are so many things that can become triggers for our lusts that lists often are a waist of time at least for me.
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Post by Deleted on Jun 15, 2020 23:31:12 GMT -7
lots of things are causes of temptation. Satan loves to turn non-sexual things like a cloth into a sexual thing so we are enslaved or tempted to sin. I think for me, any eye contact with a women is a trigger. the sound of a women's voice (not my wifes) is a trigger. I will be attracted to the opposite sex as designed but I ought to control it (master it) and make a decision to submit to Christ. I need a good willingness to stop the right to look. Giving up a right to look, because, even one look could mean lust, even the slightest lust hit.
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Post by Will on Jun 17, 2020 3:37:11 GMT -7
Triggers: As I've noted in some of other post that just trying to write about them can trigger those desires of lust. Anyone else like that?
Then there are those strange photo's, innocuous in themselves, that out off the blue become strong triggers. Anyone struggle with those?
What about news stories? They do me sometimes.
Certain types of skirts can do it to me. What about you?
There are so many things that can become triggers for our lusts that lists often are a waist of time at least for me.
Yes, yes and yes. All of the above. Boy it's annoying! |
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Post by Will on Jun 17, 2020 3:40:05 GMT -7
Hey Kevin,
just wondering, what is DOC?
Will
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