Post by Deleted on Nov 1, 2018 3:50:11 GMT -7
Hi,
I would really like some advice. It’s a bit long I’ll be quick as I can
Recently I found out my partner has been wanking in bed next to me when I’m asleep, he’s been doing it for 6 months and has chosen to do this only on a weekend whilst I’m in a deeper sleep (I get help with children and enjoy a wine) the night I found out, he turned sex down but then went on to do it himself. I must stress that I’m not against wanking and this isn’t the problem, I hate the thought of him doing it next to me yes, I feel insulted and because of the days he’s choosing to do this, I feel it’s planned into his weekend so I’m thinking, what are you upto, no he’s not having an affair but I’m questioning why it’s gone on so long and if there’s more too it. He denys porn or anything on his phone.
This has caused a major problem for us. He said he’ll never do it again. We’ve started having sex a lot more, from 1-2 a week to 5-6 times. This is a bit gross... but the other night (on a weekend) we had sex, then I noticed stains on his tshirt, he insists it was from clean up but the amount on there doesn’t seem possible, to me he went on to do it alone, he said the stains are from me but it’s semen. Im almost 100% that the amount of cum isn’t possible to come from wiping his willy! I’m not bothered about wanking but is he going behind my back and lying to me? He insists he Will not/hasn’t done it again but the evidence is there! I’m hurt that he is lying to me. I’m questioning why he would need to masturbate after sex, is me being asleep a fantasy, is he addicted!? My mind is going crazy. I must stress- wanking doesn’t bother me but lying does. And to say he won’t do it again when I’ve felt uncomfortable and freaked out. Then done it regardless? I feel like I can’t trust him and I’m shocked that he’d lie.
Please help me! And be kind please xx