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Post by Deleted on May 20, 2018 10:59:24 GMT -7
i'm having a really hard time fighting the urge to masturbate. i know i should distract myself with other things but a lot of the time there isn't much else i can do because there's nothing else around plus the feeling is just so overwhelming i can't help it. ive been keeping a lot of it in bc i think it can be really embarassing to talk about sometimes.
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Post by teetop on May 20, 2018 21:05:02 GMT -7
Well Jessica, though I'm male and a few years your senior, I know just how you feel.
So many triggers set things in motion that at times I wonder if there is any use to even try to stop.
And as for talking about it being a hard thing, again you've hit it on the head.
Sometimes the best thing is to open up and converse about it, one on one with another person.
(Some will say to hold your conversation with someone of the same sex. Though I'm not one of them.)
I've spent too many years playing that stupid cat and mouse game in recovery groups.
The first thing I would suggest is start noting everything that triggers your desires and write them down. (NO GAMES)
Just a few things I've notted as being triggers certain photos ( and I mean extreamly benign), some words, sometimes just plain emotions.
Remember we are dealing with our feelings and emotions and have spent a lifetime training them. Heck, in the past 6 months I've identified close to twenty different triggers for my self and some really strange ones at that.
I will tell you as I tell everyone else, my e-mail is listed and I freely do hand out my phone number if need-be.
Here are a couple of verses to meditate on if you like.
Virgil
Ecclesiastes 4:9-12 ESV /
Two are better than one, because they have a good reward for their toil. For if they fall, one will lift up his fellow. But woe to him who is alone when he falls and has not another to lift him up! Again, if two lie together, they keep warm, but how can one keep warm alone? And though a man might prevail against one who is alone, two will withstand him—a threefold cord is not quickly broken.
Proverbs 27:17 ESV /
Iron sharpens iron, and one man sharpens another.
Hebrews 10:24-25 ESV /
And let us consider how to stir up one another to love and good works, not neglecting to meet together, as is the habit of some, but encouraging one another, and all the more as you see the Day drawing near.
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Post by Deleted on May 21, 2018 6:59:20 GMT -7
I agree with Tee, start identifying your triggers. Then take a hard stance against them. Get them out of your life as much as you can. I had to give up several things to be able to get and maintain soberity...but what I gave up was so freeing! It's very difficult at first and you will have to really lean on God for your strength to fight against this. It can be done. I have and continue to do so.
It also helps to have at least one accountability partner. Someone you can talk to and ask for prayer. For awhile I was going to my 2 accountability partners daily.
You can also journal. Writing out what you are feeling and thinking can help.
Daily bible reading also helps. In fact memorizing a verse of scripture and repeating that truth helps combat the wrong thinking when it pops up. You have to counter the lies with God's truth.
Of course doing things to keep you busy work to some extent...hobbies and exercise... but your main go to needs to be God.
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Post by Deleted on May 23, 2018 18:09:55 GMT -7
I know what this is like. For me, I pray and get rid of Internet, money, do not watch TV, or listen to any songs that will cause a stumble. Ask yourself this hard but necessary question. Am I a real Christian? If not, then become one of us and know your True God and Savior the Lord Jesus Christ. If you are a Christian or at least profess to be one, before you can start working on sexual sobriety, you have to know if you are saved from hell, and in a good standing with Jesus Christ. Or else, none if this will make any sense and you will be fighting lust in your own power and self-deceived as Satan wants you to be.
Read Matthew 19, where Jesus asks the rich ruler to "go sell your possessions, give to the poor, and come and follow Me" In essence, Jesus is saying Dominic, go deal with your sin by completely getting rid of it, so much that you do not want it no more and not love it anymore, then come and follow me. This is repentance and faith and the only way the the Great Evangelist Jesus Christ gave him.
so if you are serious about eternal life and want to be saved, then do that. and you will live.
The key verses that help are this. "With man this is impossible, but with God, all things are possible" and "If God be for us, then who can be against us"
God Bless you.
Prov 28:13
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