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Post by Deleted on Apr 5, 2018 16:36:33 GMT -7
For years i have been battling this issue of pornography. The cycle repeats almost every week. I have been reading books looking for breakthrough from this mess. Cant live a life that keeps making the same mistake over and over again. Im looking for someone to share my problem with.
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Post by Deleted on Apr 5, 2018 18:18:11 GMT -7
Welcome to BG. You are not alone. All of us here are either battling sexual sin or have a loved one battling it. I will be praying for you.
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Post by savedbygrace on Apr 6, 2018 5:21:33 GMT -7
Hi, and thanks for coming and sharing!
As you will notice in my count of days, I'm still battling this very strongly!
It is said that a habit can be broken in 21 days. Well, in my own experience, not really true. BUT... I do believe that over a period of 3 weeks that a new pattern has definitely been formed! Something for me to build on.
I, and all of us, can easily get into that "zone" where it feels as if the temptation is just too strong and we have to give in. That's really Satan's lie. See Tony Evans' helpful book, "Victory in Spiritual Warfare."
"The name of the LORD is a strong tower; the righteous man runs into it and is safe." Proverbs 18:10 ESV
Thanks for coming! Keep posting!
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Post by Deleted on Apr 15, 2018 9:12:59 GMT -7
i know how you feel. i always have the same problem it's always like little things like getting attention from guys or something that gets my mind going it always leads looking at porn and masturbating way too much so you aren't alone.
i think i need to find some more hobbies and stuff so i keep my mind busy.
but hopefully it works out for you!
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Post by teetop on May 8, 2018 8:42:22 GMT -7
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Post by Deleted on May 8, 2018 16:40:29 GMT -7
Tee, hobbies and exercise do help. Yes we are to go to God first however, keeping yourself busy also helps. If I didn't have things to do, I would be right back at day 1 instead of 9+ years sober. You need to use whatever is there to help....sometimes it's hobbies and exercise.
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Post by ladystrong on May 8, 2018 21:26:34 GMT -7
Teetop, what other suggestions do you have for Jessica and anyone else? What tools do you have for men and women to get out of the cycle? And have those tools led you to victory and freedom from lust?
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Post by Will on May 15, 2018 21:59:42 GMT -7
Hey guys,
just wanted to say, keep going, and keep looking at Jesus Christ. It's getting into a cycle of positivity from Him that has really worked for me. Being blessed and getting a hunger for more of it. Rather than thinking about what not to do.
Also sharing is huge, I heard somewhere that porn addiction is ALWAYS about shame. This is worsened when we keep it to ourselves. Finding people you can share with - ideally a Christian group who are open and loving and graceful enough that you can share this with, is a big deal.
For me also identifying trigger behaviours has been really imnportant. There's such a thing in addictions as a 'seemingly unimportant decision'. When I stumble, tracing back to at what point did it start to go towards this, is really helpful. For me a lot of times it is making a choice to do something that I know God doesn't want me to do. So there might be a video on youtube of a chat show. I might tell myself 'hey its only a chat show, there's no sexual stuff on there.' But deep in the back of my mind, there's an awareness that chat shows might lead to attractive women/more and more sexualised videos/porn. It may be even days before I stumble, but that was the decision that started it.
When I become aware of having made such a decision and want to stop the process, I pray to Jesus: 'Lord, please forgive me for that sin. Please reset me from the consequences of it and wash me clean again now by your blood'. Then I am reset again, because of the awareness of the wrong decision and the prayer.
Now, I'm aware of a bunch of things that I should avoid. They may not always cause problems, but if I trace back what has happened in the past, I can see that they often do. This has caused me to cut out of my life tons of things that I used to 'enjoy'. I'm 40 so this has been a long process. You are probably much younger so some of this stuff might blow your mind and make you think 'What? I can't give that up!' Social Media, going out to drink alcahol, fictional movies and TV. And you know what, I don't miss it one bit. What you get in exchange from Heaven is totally worth it!
In fact, the best thing for me is not making a list of 'don't's, but the opposite, making a 'whitelist' of activities/passtimes/media to consume that has a good track record of being fun but also not leading me astray. I can add things to the whitelist all the time or take them off. But as long as I stick to the whitelist, I'm pretty safe.
God bless you, may the Holy Spirit guide you and the Lord Jesus Christ hold your hand and be your strength in the way
Will
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