Post by Deleted on May 25, 2006 17:35:22 GMT -7
Hello everyone! I am having serious issues with my boyfriend and his internet porn. When we first got together he was addicted to porn magazines and videos. That slacked off for a while but not completely. Then the porn on the internet started. I have struggled with it for a very long time now and I am at my roads end.
We don't spend very much time as a couple anymore, and I myself have needs that are not being filled. His are being satisfied with the computer. He works third shift 12 hours, so when he gets off from work I am still asleep, so he usually jumps straight on the computer for the porn. I thought maybe if I am up when he gets home we would have some time together, but then he will talk about how tired he is and then go to bed. His days off he sleeps pretty much all day and evening and then he is up the rest of the night but normally only after I go to bed. Then it is anywhere from 10-30 mins. after that he is on the internet searching for porn and spends the rest of the night doing that. If I leave the house for some reason then it is almost instantly that he is on the computer.
I am to the point that it makes me feel like I am not attractive enough for him or that what I have to offer him is not good enough anymore, or even maybe he don't want me. Our sex life now is "Are you going to give me some?" and that is it. No romance anymore, no compassion it is like there is no feeling at all. We have three beautiful children together and have been together for over nine years. I have started going to church and praying for help with this mess but I feel like it is getting worse instead of better.
If I confront him about it he gets mad and it always ends up being a big argument. I don't get it how does a woman compete with all the different types of porn that is out there on the internet. I love this man with all my heart and I want to get married but I can't with this happening.
What do I do???:? I need the man back that loves me and wants me. How does a person deal with things like this.
We don't spend very much time as a couple anymore, and I myself have needs that are not being filled. His are being satisfied with the computer. He works third shift 12 hours, so when he gets off from work I am still asleep, so he usually jumps straight on the computer for the porn. I thought maybe if I am up when he gets home we would have some time together, but then he will talk about how tired he is and then go to bed. His days off he sleeps pretty much all day and evening and then he is up the rest of the night but normally only after I go to bed. Then it is anywhere from 10-30 mins. after that he is on the internet searching for porn and spends the rest of the night doing that. If I leave the house for some reason then it is almost instantly that he is on the computer.
I am to the point that it makes me feel like I am not attractive enough for him or that what I have to offer him is not good enough anymore, or even maybe he don't want me. Our sex life now is "Are you going to give me some?" and that is it. No romance anymore, no compassion it is like there is no feeling at all. We have three beautiful children together and have been together for over nine years. I have started going to church and praying for help with this mess but I feel like it is getting worse instead of better.
If I confront him about it he gets mad and it always ends up being a big argument. I don't get it how does a woman compete with all the different types of porn that is out there on the internet. I love this man with all my heart and I want to get married but I can't with this happening.
What do I do???:? I need the man back that loves me and wants me. How does a person deal with things like this.