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Post by Deleted on Nov 3, 2017 10:15:42 GMT -7
It's been 3 months since I found out about the affair. We've been going to marriage counseling weekly. My husband just got a new job. He works days and I work nights. It's been a challenge to schedule marriage counseling anymore. I've asked to have Thursdays off just for that. My boss doesn't seem to care. I'm the lowest on the totem pole, so it doesn't even matter. The last person they hired before me always complained about only working nights. I requested a weekend off the one month because my grandma was very ill to go to Ohio. During my shift my boss said to someone else, "I wander why she needs that weekend off", instead of asking me. Now they are doing the same thing to me. All of the managers are supposed to get one weekend off a month. When I found this out, I requested a weekend off and my boss said the only reason I got it was because I work a lot of nights and haven't had one in the past two months. I hadn't had one because she never told me I was supposed to. I had to find it out from someone else. It really pissed me off, especially since I come in whenever they need me to the point where the boss told me I need to keep a uniform in my car for emergencies. I was in Dubois (a 2 hr drive to the work place) doing grocery shopping and they called me in and it was my day off too, so I had to rush my shopping and forgot half the groceries. I've digressed, let me get to my point/ question. I vent to my sister a lot about my work schedule. Her husband's job is hiring a customer representative. It pays better, has a steady schedule, and I'd be working day shift. I'm thinking about changing jobs now. I like my work other than the schedule. I can move up there to. Not sure I was made to climb the corporate ladder though. It seems to involve a lot of injustice, stress, bullying, and sacrifice. My husband told me that hardly seeing him when he was a CNA played a part into why he cheated. He's been committed to healing our marriage more than I have. Right now I want to focus on my marriage, have more time with my family (especially my parents, our relationship hasn't been great and now that it is I want to spend as much time with them as possible), and have more time doing the things I enjoy. It's not an easy decision though. I know that once I quit that door will be closed for good. I really could use some advice. What would you do? |
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Post by Deleted on Nov 4, 2017 7:40:02 GMT -7
You have to pray and follow God's leading. I personally feel my role as a wife and mother is more important than money or a job. I just have old school values and anything that stands in the way of my number 1 priority has to go. My home is my first responsibility. I trust God that as I follow what I believe to be His will, He will honor that. I have two degrees and left work to be a stay at home mother. It has not been easy at all. Yet I know this is what God wants of me in this season. My children are better for it and my family as a whole. Every persons situation is different so just pray and trust God. If it were me I would jump on the other job fast. Anything to give my family more time together would be well worth it in my mind. Again, do what you feel is best and God leading you to do.
For me, this world will one day pass away. Moving up in a business does not matter much to me. What matters is God and my family. I try to live simply and focus on laying my treasure in heaven. As long as we are financially comfortable I'm good. I don't need a bunch of worldly success. I can't take any of this with me to heaven. What I can do is try and lead my family toward Christ so they can make it to heaven. A person's soul is eternal a job and this world is not. Just my two cents.
God bless in whatever you do!!
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Post by Deleted on Nov 4, 2017 8:56:02 GMT -7
Thanks. It's not an easy one, but I just want to concentrate on my marriage in this time of my life. It's hard to switch when you like your job, and I tend to be a workaholic. I believe it was God who reminded me amongst the pain and crying of my wedding vows. I know He would approve of this decision. When I first got married, I prayed for God to bless our marriage. It doesn't seem like he has after all this happened.
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Post by ladystrong on Nov 4, 2017 10:37:07 GMT -7
I would list out the pros and cons and discuss them with my husband. From what you've described, the job switch sounds like a good thing: more time with husband since you're on the same schedule, more availability for marriage counseling, working with your sister which means additional support. Looks like a great opportunity for moving forward with your marriage and the healing process.
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Post by Deleted on Nov 4, 2017 17:28:57 GMT -7
It doesn't sound like you enjoy the hours and the way you are treated at your current job. If you like the work part of it, could you find a similar one with a different company that offers better hours and treats you better? You do need to discuss your options with your husband and get his input. Also be praying about it.
I do want to talk about your comment about the prayer you made for your marriage. One thing we all must remember is that God works all for His glory and our good. So even when we are being pounded by life, the devil, our own stupid sin nature...God is there working it for His glory and our good. We will never know the extent of what He has and is doing in our lives until we meet Him. Faith is a hard road to walk even on the best days...It's torture when we are going through dark days. So hang in there guys. We win because of our faith in Christ.
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Post by Deleted on Nov 6, 2017 11:11:27 GMT -7
I could probably try to find a similar job to it, but at this point I don't think I want to. I enjoy it, but I couldn't imagine doing it anywhere else.
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