Post by ladystrong on Aug 22, 2017 20:34:02 GMT -7
I began reading "Torn Asunder" by Carder at the rec of our therapist and it has been a very helpful guide in unlocking the WHY questions in this whole mess. I always felt like there was a deeper reason for why this all happened and how it was all tied into both of our upbringings. It's an easy read but definitely not easy to admit that part of why this happened was because of me.
I've had a lot of good solid times with the Lord these past eight months and in that time I have asked God to show me my own faults. Let's just say the list is not what I wanted to hear but is so necessary for reconciliation, healing, and rebuilding a stronger marriage. I have cried many times over how I didn't understand or know how to help my husband as he was going through an identity crisis. But now, I'm starting to be a better listener and communicator.
Anyway, it's a really good book that actually mirrors so many of the things I was trying to understand and work on without a guide. My mish-mash of thoughts and activities to get to root causes was frustrating me but the book had it all neatly lined out from start to finish. I would definitely recommend this to anyone who wants to recover from an affair, whether you decide to stay together or get a divorce. It's the processing that is so important to go through in order to be healed.
I've had a lot of good solid times with the Lord these past eight months and in that time I have asked God to show me my own faults. Let's just say the list is not what I wanted to hear but is so necessary for reconciliation, healing, and rebuilding a stronger marriage. I have cried many times over how I didn't understand or know how to help my husband as he was going through an identity crisis. But now, I'm starting to be a better listener and communicator.
Anyway, it's a really good book that actually mirrors so many of the things I was trying to understand and work on without a guide. My mish-mash of thoughts and activities to get to root causes was frustrating me but the book had it all neatly lined out from start to finish. I would definitely recommend this to anyone who wants to recover from an affair, whether you decide to stay together or get a divorce. It's the processing that is so important to go through in order to be healed.