Post by Deleted on Jul 28, 2017 15:23:11 GMT -7
I just need to know for those who have lived with a spouse struggling with sexual addiction, how common is it for there to be a physical separation.
Is it possible for a sexual addict that is married to recover without one?
I ask because I feel I'm coming to the end of myself. The crazy cycle just keeps repeating and it not only is emotionally and mentally draining but I am now physically sick (with a head cold and adrenal pain)
I'm 10 weeks away from having our 3rd child. Our other two children are 3 1/2 and 1 1/2. They too have suffered from these cycles. As I give my all to fight I have nothing left to offer them. I find myself depressed and having a hard time functioning.
Separation has been put on the table. My husband says to me, it wouldn't end well. He believes if we separate we will ultimately divorce. He said how can we work on our relationship if we don't spend any time together.
We recently involved our pastor who wants us to give it one more chance before I go to separation... which at the time I agreed to (2 days ago). My gut tells me I made the wrong choice. We will be meeting with our pastor again tomorrow.
My husband had a sober day today.. he cried for hours last night in a heap of brokenness after I spoke truth to him. He kept saying he doesn't know what can heal him... that he isn't confident he can overcome this addiction. I replied to him that only God can help him. Only God can heal him. Only God. And he needs to make that choice to wake up every day and seek God.
My biggest concern with giving this another shot before separation is that he will try to rely on my strength, hope and faith in God. And quite frankly I don't know if I have even enough of that for my own mental state.
I'm so torn up as to what to do. I'm scared that if I wait longer for separation it will only bring us closer to when our baby will be born.. which will bring with it even more challenges...no sleep, adjusting, etc.
Anyway, thanks for listening. Please pray for me, pray for my husband.
Comments and suggestions welcome.
amarie
Is it possible for a sexual addict that is married to recover without one?
I ask because I feel I'm coming to the end of myself. The crazy cycle just keeps repeating and it not only is emotionally and mentally draining but I am now physically sick (with a head cold and adrenal pain)
I'm 10 weeks away from having our 3rd child. Our other two children are 3 1/2 and 1 1/2. They too have suffered from these cycles. As I give my all to fight I have nothing left to offer them. I find myself depressed and having a hard time functioning.
Separation has been put on the table. My husband says to me, it wouldn't end well. He believes if we separate we will ultimately divorce. He said how can we work on our relationship if we don't spend any time together.
We recently involved our pastor who wants us to give it one more chance before I go to separation... which at the time I agreed to (2 days ago). My gut tells me I made the wrong choice. We will be meeting with our pastor again tomorrow.
My husband had a sober day today.. he cried for hours last night in a heap of brokenness after I spoke truth to him. He kept saying he doesn't know what can heal him... that he isn't confident he can overcome this addiction. I replied to him that only God can help him. Only God can heal him. Only God. And he needs to make that choice to wake up every day and seek God.
My biggest concern with giving this another shot before separation is that he will try to rely on my strength, hope and faith in God. And quite frankly I don't know if I have even enough of that for my own mental state.
I'm so torn up as to what to do. I'm scared that if I wait longer for separation it will only bring us closer to when our baby will be born.. which will bring with it even more challenges...no sleep, adjusting, etc.
Anyway, thanks for listening. Please pray for me, pray for my husband.
Comments and suggestions welcome.
amarie
. I'm sorry you're going through this right now while being pregnant. There is another gal on here who chose to separate from her spouse, her screen name is FilthyFingersOnButterlyWings. It seems to be going ok for them but not without its challenges. 
