Post by ladystrong on Jul 25, 2017 11:16:48 GMT -7
My husband and I started rereading "Love and Respect" by Emerson Eggerichs and it has been humbling for both of us. While I am not at fault for his decision to commit adultery, I am responsible for the way that I have treated my husband. And I haven't always shown him love by treating him with respect. I know that what he felt from the other woman was fake and a fantasy but I now know that I was not filling his cup and connecting with him in the deepest parts of who he is as a man. It's hard to realize this so "late" but I know God is at work in both of us and He wants us to have a real marriage, not one that just looks good on the surface.
It's interesting to note that both sides are screaming for love in different ways. There's too much to explain here but I think that this would really help both women and men who are wanting a fruitful marriage but just don't know how to get past the constant arguments. If I had known how to reach out to my husband by showing him respect, even when he didn't deserve it, we may have been able to prevent this whole fiasco from happening. But, since it is done, we can learn from it and change together.
It's interesting to note that both sides are screaming for love in different ways. There's too much to explain here but I think that this would really help both women and men who are wanting a fruitful marriage but just don't know how to get past the constant arguments. If I had known how to reach out to my husband by showing him respect, even when he didn't deserve it, we may have been able to prevent this whole fiasco from happening. But, since it is done, we can learn from it and change together.
