Post by Deleted on May 22, 2006 13:49:13 GMT -7
I was doing some research and didn't think to mention this before BUT my husband does have mild Tourettes Syndrome which almost always has some kind of comorbid OCD or Impulse disorder and I am hoping this is the root of his problem...again, not making an excuse but it woudl explain things.
Some BACKGROUND - For those just tuning in...my husband has admitted he has a problem with porn (mags, movies, internet) and that is enough in and of itself to handle but what I found was that one day last week he visited some sites about incest (over 18 variety) - his visit was very brief...the destination was one movie site, where he clicked on movie titles - the titles he clicked were my concern as they were about incest fantasies - he only stayed in each "click" (about 6 total) for about 1 minute, I guess long enough to read the caption...back to my question...
I say his TS is mild meaning his manifestations are sustained mostly in motor tics (eye blinking, facial twitches, etc) and some motor tics (grunting and throat clearing). MOst people are familiar with the TS which has people screaming obscenities (copralia) and he does not have that, however, I have heard about something called Mental Copralia. So, whereas verbal copralia could have someone SCREAMING a socially taboo word like incest, this mental coprialia could have someone thinking about a socially taboo topic like incest. Couple that with an impulse disorder surrounding around porn (mags, video and internet) and maybe that would cause one to do an internet search of the phrase that is repeating in your head and you could have why he did what he did. Just as a person with copralia who shouts taboo phrases woudl not act out on the desire, so too a person with the mental counterpart would not act out either. I did find (and threw out) his video and mag stash and none of them are even anywhere near this level...all what you would consider "normal" porn.
As I am searching my own mind and soul, I keep returning to this thought that he may not be a sex addict, or at least not textbook case, things don't add up. Is it possible that this has to do with his Tourettes and a comorbid impulse disorder, which would seem more like the man I know, meaning he has issues but is not capable of such horrors. right now, i feel God is leading me in this direction but I am being cautious until we meet with the therapist...only then will I be able to see if medically this is a possibility or if he is on the worse end of causes.
I have also heard this called paraphilia (taboo topics where incest fantasy falls under) and it is a common occurrence for someone with impulse disorder (of the sexual nature) to seek out these taboo topics but not ever act on them.
Anyway, I am rambling...I guess it felt important to share that his site visit was not to random incest fantasy sites...it was a porn movie site where he clicked on 6 titles of an incetual nature but only stayed in each about one minute - he was not just lingering on some incest site. Also, i was just wondering if anyone has this affliction (TS or OCD or Impulsivity Disorder) or has heard of it being a possible cause? If so, what are the treatments and hopes for recovery.
Some BACKGROUND - For those just tuning in...my husband has admitted he has a problem with porn (mags, movies, internet) and that is enough in and of itself to handle but what I found was that one day last week he visited some sites about incest (over 18 variety) - his visit was very brief...the destination was one movie site, where he clicked on movie titles - the titles he clicked were my concern as they were about incest fantasies - he only stayed in each "click" (about 6 total) for about 1 minute, I guess long enough to read the caption...back to my question...
I say his TS is mild meaning his manifestations are sustained mostly in motor tics (eye blinking, facial twitches, etc) and some motor tics (grunting and throat clearing). MOst people are familiar with the TS which has people screaming obscenities (copralia) and he does not have that, however, I have heard about something called Mental Copralia. So, whereas verbal copralia could have someone SCREAMING a socially taboo word like incest, this mental coprialia could have someone thinking about a socially taboo topic like incest. Couple that with an impulse disorder surrounding around porn (mags, video and internet) and maybe that would cause one to do an internet search of the phrase that is repeating in your head and you could have why he did what he did. Just as a person with copralia who shouts taboo phrases woudl not act out on the desire, so too a person with the mental counterpart would not act out either. I did find (and threw out) his video and mag stash and none of them are even anywhere near this level...all what you would consider "normal" porn.
As I am searching my own mind and soul, I keep returning to this thought that he may not be a sex addict, or at least not textbook case, things don't add up. Is it possible that this has to do with his Tourettes and a comorbid impulse disorder, which would seem more like the man I know, meaning he has issues but is not capable of such horrors. right now, i feel God is leading me in this direction but I am being cautious until we meet with the therapist...only then will I be able to see if medically this is a possibility or if he is on the worse end of causes.
I have also heard this called paraphilia (taboo topics where incest fantasy falls under) and it is a common occurrence for someone with impulse disorder (of the sexual nature) to seek out these taboo topics but not ever act on them.
Anyway, I am rambling...I guess it felt important to share that his site visit was not to random incest fantasy sites...it was a porn movie site where he clicked on 6 titles of an incetual nature but only stayed in each about one minute - he was not just lingering on some incest site. Also, i was just wondering if anyone has this affliction (TS or OCD or Impulsivity Disorder) or has heard of it being a possible cause? If so, what are the treatments and hopes for recovery.