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Post by ladystrong on May 30, 2017 11:40:47 GMT -7
Oh sister, I lament with you. It is a heavy burden that you carry on your shoulders. Do you have friends in the area who know about your situation? Someone you can call, text, or email? Your husband has a long way to go in admitting where he's at. He needs a friend who will keep him accountable and whom he trusts and will listen to when he's veering off course. There's got to be a point of pain that gets him off his butt and moving toward God. I don't know what that will be. I know I prayed that prayer and my husband had to learn the hard way.
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Post by Deleted on May 30, 2017 17:51:01 GMT -7
Ther3sa...
We have had the same week i think... its so strange everything you wrote about your husband and trust and his behavior... i felt like you were typing about my life in so many ways..
It hurts how they act as though... its just a slip and we shouldnt say anything to them about it.. like its no big deal! Then to act like our feeling dont matter at all.. your right its just all to much.
I feel like it will never end also and the trust issue in lots of ways is becoming a little bigger then the porn for me as well.
I mean how do we keep a marriage alive with ZERO trust!
The thing that really frustrating to me is they dont worry if they can trust us, or are we being faithful, or being loyal and honest like our vows call us to do. NO! they dont worry at all because my husband has the luxury of living with out doubt or fear about my intentions as a wife. But i sure do have to worry... all the time.. worry!
I completely feel your pain. My heart goes out to you. I am so sorry this is happening to you and that your hurting. I pray god sends you help with everything..
You sound like you just need a break..
I wish their was a womans retreat were ladies like all of us could bond and give each other a hug... and could pray together..
You need a hug...
I will say prayers for you.. i hope your family gets to feeling better ...
Hugs, love and prayers..
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Post by Deleted on May 31, 2017 6:50:37 GMT -7
Ther3se, I am sorry hon. I wish I could be there for you. My prayers and heart go out to you. Stand your ground on your boundaries even if it looks like he is better. Addicts are very good at deceit mainly because they believe the deceit themselves.
Now to help with your food shortage. Call your church. All Catholic churches either have food pantries or belong to a local one. I know how hard it is to ask for help. I have been there many times. The Salvation Army also has food pantries.
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Post by Deleted on May 31, 2017 20:19:42 GMT -7
GHP, there are retreats through groups like S-anon. I love the idea of going to things like that, although it would be best if it were Christian. Comradery is a big reason I come here. I know you ladies all understand me perfectly, which is great (although I wouldn't wish this on anyone) because it often feels like nobody else does.
Ther3se, I agree with Amy on the boundaries issue. You're in a tough spot, but it seems like you're gathering strength to do exactly what's needed for yourself by drawing your lines in the sand. And it's for you because you need tbings to feel safe. Sending hugs and prayers your way.
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