The Wife's Heart by Mike Genung

Mike will be publishing the Wife's Heart as an e-book soon. He did not give me an exact date.

I ordered this book and can't wait to read it. Where can I check on my order status? Nevermind! I just got it. :-)

I live in Australia and am keen to read the book, but the cost of postage is more than the cost of the book, so I wait with eager anticipation for the ebook. I hope Mike is able to get the ebook sorted soon.

Ladystrong, ther3se.

You'll find the answer to your question here.

www.blazinggrace.org/the-destructive-force-of-adultery/

Thanks Kevin, i guess I was hoping he'd given a more clear amount of years before she forgave home because the letter doesn't really make it clear if she forgave him much earlier than when she wrote it.

Anyway, I've actually already answered my question about why I'm feeling like junk. Betrayal is not something that can be easily glossed over. I think I now get it that it will take YEARS to fade to the background and it's going to take the Holy Spirit's help for me to erase wrong thinking that I've learned throughout my entire life. That's 36 years worth of faulty thinking that needs to be overhauled, burned, and replaced with God's truth. It's not just about what my husband did, it's also about where I've incorrectly placed my value for so many years: in the acceptance of others. Although I now know where my value lies (in God's love for me), I also know that I'm still going to feel pain. The difference is that I can look to God and know that He's refining me, preparing me, sanctifying me through this whole process. And that's how I know He loves me.
Thanks for helping me process through this all, my friends

Hi Mike,
I was wondering, how long did it take for your wife to get through the anger and pain to forgiveness and healing? I know everyone is different so I wouldn't want to put a timeline on myself to be healed. It's only been about 5 months since my husband's disclosure and even though he's doing everything right,I still feel like junk. It's such a struggle. Thanks for having a heart for the wives.
-Ladystrong


Hi Ladystrong -

Right after I committed adultery in 1991, I jumped headfirst into getting help. I think this played a big part in helping Michelle move toward forgiveness and rebuild trust, because a lot of guys spend years playing games. 6 months after I'd committed adultery, as I was getting ready to go on a business trip, she told me she trusted me. It shocked me because I didn't expect her to put her heart on the line with trust again that fast. I think she had moved toward forgiveness years before she wrote the letter in 2006 referenced in the article, but I'd never heard her say the words (or even asked her to forgive me) so I asked her to write that letter.

There are multiple variables involved and the time it takes every wife to heal is different. Some of those variables include if the husband is getting help consistently, if he's gaining traction, how he treats her, any family of origin wounds she might be carrying that play into what her husband did, how long it takes her to choose to trust, their personalities, and more.