Post by ladystrong on Jan 16, 2017 14:16:18 GMT -7
Hi everyone,
We are on the road to recovery from my husband's affair almost two years ago. He just disclosed the truth on 12/17/16, after we met with our pastor who told us everything had to be out on the table for our marriage to heal (we originally went in for counseling because I found porn on his Instagram account). It has rocked my world to the core and I have been oscillating between anger, pain, and sadness but I've been holding on to the Lord thru the tears and pain. My husband is now a "recovering sex addict". Although it's been less than a month, he has taken all the steps that Mike Genung said needed to be done to truly have our marriage be healed. I have been going to individual therapy, he has been meeting with our pastor weekly individually, and we are meeting weekly as a couple with our pastor. I think what has made this easier is that my husband has owned up to his sin and clearly saw the torment that the devil put him thru after physically falling to sin the first time with this woman. No excuses, but she ended up sexually abusing him by manipulating him (saying she would commit suicide, tell me, hurt herself) so that he would have to come back and give her sex. At that time my husband was already in full shock and shame so he didn't think to get help from law enforcement. That's how far he was from God. Pretty sure she was demon possessed at that time and still is.
Anyway, during this or maybe afterward, she contacted me and friended me thru FB and even was going to come to my home for a party I was going to hold, unbeknownst to my husband. I knew her from the office that he would visit for chiropractic appointments so figured she was safe. She even bought my kids tickets to a concert, meals at the place she was managing, and giving me and my kids hugs. Basically she is psychotic and mentally ill to have done this. I confronted her the day that the affair was disclosed and the first words she said were, "I wonder how this all came out now..." No apologies, no sorries, etc. So I b*tched her out for a good 20 mins. Afterward my husband felt like the weight of his sin lifted a bit and that I had "slayed the dragon" because I gave her a severe warning to NEVER mess with our family again. She said I could call her anytime to vent at me. All I could think was that she is one sick person to actually WANT to have someone yell at her. Believe me, there are PLENTY of choice words I'd like to repeat again, but she truly is mentally ill to want that to happen again. She also said she wanted to be my friend to obtain forgiveness. Pretty sick and twisted way to look for forgiveness.
So my question is, has anyone had the "other woman" contact you in this way? Pretending to be your friend when she is actually the devil incarnate? Pretty psychotic, right? Seriously, I can't believe the devil was that close and none of my "red flags" were going up.
~Steph
We are on the road to recovery from my husband's affair almost two years ago. He just disclosed the truth on 12/17/16, after we met with our pastor who told us everything had to be out on the table for our marriage to heal (we originally went in for counseling because I found porn on his Instagram account). It has rocked my world to the core and I have been oscillating between anger, pain, and sadness but I've been holding on to the Lord thru the tears and pain. My husband is now a "recovering sex addict". Although it's been less than a month, he has taken all the steps that Mike Genung said needed to be done to truly have our marriage be healed. I have been going to individual therapy, he has been meeting with our pastor weekly individually, and we are meeting weekly as a couple with our pastor. I think what has made this easier is that my husband has owned up to his sin and clearly saw the torment that the devil put him thru after physically falling to sin the first time with this woman. No excuses, but she ended up sexually abusing him by manipulating him (saying she would commit suicide, tell me, hurt herself) so that he would have to come back and give her sex. At that time my husband was already in full shock and shame so he didn't think to get help from law enforcement. That's how far he was from God. Pretty sure she was demon possessed at that time and still is.
Anyway, during this or maybe afterward, she contacted me and friended me thru FB and even was going to come to my home for a party I was going to hold, unbeknownst to my husband. I knew her from the office that he would visit for chiropractic appointments so figured she was safe. She even bought my kids tickets to a concert, meals at the place she was managing, and giving me and my kids hugs. Basically she is psychotic and mentally ill to have done this. I confronted her the day that the affair was disclosed and the first words she said were, "I wonder how this all came out now..." No apologies, no sorries, etc. So I b*tched her out for a good 20 mins. Afterward my husband felt like the weight of his sin lifted a bit and that I had "slayed the dragon" because I gave her a severe warning to NEVER mess with our family again. She said I could call her anytime to vent at me. All I could think was that she is one sick person to actually WANT to have someone yell at her. Believe me, there are PLENTY of choice words I'd like to repeat again, but she truly is mentally ill to want that to happen again. She also said she wanted to be my friend to obtain forgiveness. Pretty sick and twisted way to look for forgiveness.
So my question is, has anyone had the "other woman" contact you in this way? Pretending to be your friend when she is actually the devil incarnate? Pretty psychotic, right? Seriously, I can't believe the devil was that close and none of my "red flags" were going up.
~Steph
