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Sept 5, 2016 12:41:48 GMT -7
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Post by Deleted on Sept 5, 2016 12:41:48 GMT -7
So I know it's been a long time. But I needed to update. All though my husband seems to have stopped P and MB and even wandering eyes it's been over a year and the emotional abuse has not stopped. I sent him out of the house today to some very good Christian friends of ours(as a separation). I just want to be happy and not have that drained out of me all the time. if he would stop I would happily take him back. I want a good life with him but but how can I let him treat me like this?
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Post by Deleted on Sept 5, 2016 19:35:22 GMT -7
Hi, Shattered. I want to say that I am sorry, but after reading your story, I would be a lie teller. After reading the way that he treats you and the fact that he hit you ... I wish you would have sent him out of the house a long time ago.
EVERYONE deserves to be happy. Even you! Good for you for standing up for yourself and saying no more.
In reading your story, I could see some of me in you, but please, correct me if I have it all wrong; I would have five horrible days with my husband and then on the sixth day he would be "nice" to me and not say hurtful things and I would be like "ahhh, look at the little punkin, he is going to change and be nice" and smack the next day he is back to being a hurtful creature again.
The saddest thing about emotional abuse is that we get so used to it that it becomes the norm to us when being kind should be the norm. It becomes so normal that we stop recognizing it as hurtful but view it as just the way things are. I have told my husband before that if I treated him the way he treated me, he would hate me.
You have been through a lot ... the porn is enough to send any wife spinning but the loss of a baby added to that and then toss in the mental abuse. You need someone to be taking care of you ... because they want to and not because they have been asked to.
You are worthy of being loved, honored and cherished. Settle for nothing less. God did not create you to be emotionally abused (or hit) by anyone, let alone someone that loves you.
You say that you want a good life with him ... All things are possible with God. Keep praying, keep believing, and stand firm in the way that you deserve to be treated.
Take care of yourself ... Love yourself and know that God adores you and he does not want this for you.
I will keep you in my prayers.
Love and Hugs ~ Grace
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Post by Deleted on Sept 6, 2016 6:15:49 GMT -7
Shattered, I am so thankful that you have updated us and let us know how things are going for you. I am also thankful to our Lord that you are setting down boundaries for your husband. His treatment of you has been awful and needs to change. I will be praying that this separation will be his wakeup call and his attitude towards you will change for the better.
Keep leaning on our Father and praying. Prayer is our greatest weapon in this battle we call life. Also don't be a stranger Hon. We care about you and love you as a sister.
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