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Post by Deleted on Aug 5, 2016 0:23:34 GMT -7
Hi, I have been newly married, and it was an arranged marriage. My parents didn't care to investigate more about the bridegroom's family. After marriage only, I came to realize that whole of their family is addicted to alcohol. I feel like living in a bar. None of my parents were used to this bad habit. I am not at all able to adjust to their lifestyle. I talked to my mother-in-law about it, and she is interested in giving up this habit. I have thought about sending her to an alcohol rehab at Toronto ( www.bellwood.ca/alcohol-and-drugs-treatment/ ). She agreed with it. Other members of the family are not willing for this treatment. How to make them convince? Is it possible for the whole of the family to attend the treatment at once? |
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Post by Deleted on Aug 5, 2016 5:00:55 GMT -7
You can not make them go through treatment. They have to want it or it will not work. Even with treatment, your mother-in-law will have a difficult time especially if the rest of her family is still drinking.
Pray for them continually. God will continue to work on them. They do have free will and may choose not to follow our Lord's prompting but He will not give up on them.
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Post by Deleted on Aug 10, 2016 20:11:49 GMT -7
Yeah. I am praying to him continiously
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Post by teetop on Aug 12, 2016 6:57:10 GMT -7
OK, you have asked a simple question, with a wide array of answers possible.
I am coming up on 12 years of sobriety Monday and this time around I've learned a lot about addictions, attitudes and actions. But to answer your question in the shortest possible way would be to tell you to join a Celebrate Recovery Group in your area. Or an Al-anon Group.
Not knowing your family traditions, though assuming it is a standard practice for arranged marriages, does not stop the commitments we make. Remember, even Mary, the mother of Jesus was an arranged marriage. We still follow the commitment of marriage as laid-out by God in: Gen 2:24 Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh.
As for the family being drinkers does not make them alcoholics.
An alcoholic is some one who can not stop drinking normally on their own unless they find some type of support, such as Alcoholics Anonymous or Celebrate Recovery. Even a treatment program such as you described only works for some one who wants it.
And normally something drastic has to happen to an alcoholic to get them to the point of seeing that they have a problem before they will deal with the drinking. For myself, it took two times in jail fore the same crime two week-ends in a row before I made the decision to deal with my drunkenness.
I hope this helps.
You might help us understand why an arranged marriage, which would be foreign to most of us here.
And welcome to our home.
Virgil Hi, I have been newly married, and it was an arranged marriage. My parents didn't care to investigate more about the bridegroom's family. After marriage only, I came to realize that whole of their family is addicted to alcohol. I feel like living in a bar. None of my parents were used to this bad habit. I am not at all able to adjust to their lifestyle. I talked to my mother-in-law about it, and she is interested in giving up this habit. I have thought about sending her to an alcohol rehab at Toronto ( www.bellwood.ca/alcohol-and-drugs-treatment/ ). She agreed with it. Other members of the family are not willing for this treatment. How to make them convince? Is it possible for the whole of the family to attend the treatment at once?
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