Post by Deleted on Jul 22, 2016 8:35:53 GMT -7
I have had a really tough week! My faith tank has been running on empty; I go to the Lord to pray and I have no words, none. I trust that he will just feel and know my heart because the words will not come. I am tired, so very tired of fighting a battle that is not mine to fight. I have reached the point where I have done everything that I can do to try and help my husband. I have prayed, I have believed, I have stood in faith, and I have loved when most would have hated. I am giving up the fight. I am going to quit trying to change someone who does not want to change. I am allowing the enemy to drain me of my joy. No more … I relinquish control. I will let the storm take me to where God wants me to be. I am throwing up my hands and saying “I trust you, God”! He is in control of this storm. This storm has knocked me to the ground. But one thing I am confident in; God will pick me up and carry me through it.
Sadly, I have held on this long, not for the sake of “marriage” but for the sake of “family”. Family has always come first in my life. He is not present in the family with this addiction so why do I think it will be any different if we go our separate ways?
I will never be able to wrap my head around my husband’s treatment of me. The addiction, I can understand after much reading and therapy. But his hurtfulness and total disregard for me and my well-being. I do not understand. His anger is horrible! The outbursts and the language are just unbelievable. Last night I very gently told him that he really needed to talk to someone as it could not be healthy for him. I am the one that should be angry! I should be walking kicking and punching and cursing not him. The lies, and the sneakiness are beyond my comprehension. If I knew what he was "sneaking" around about it probably wouldn't be as bad as some of what I imagine in my head. This has cost him nothing where it has cost me everything.
Unfortunately, we live in a broken world where good behavior isn’t always rewarded and bad behavior isn’t always punished; therefore innocent people sometimes suffer. Fortunately, we can stand on the word of God and trust that he will right every wrong.
I am believing that God is speaking to me and telling me that I have stayed long enough at this mountain. (Deuteronomy 1:6) I have been wallowing where I am long enough; going in circles, doing the same thing, the same way day after day and expecting change … The time has come to let it go!
Please forgive me for being a gloom spreader … I lost my way this week!
Prayers and Love to all of you … And please, keep my sweet baby boy in your prayers, who is a police officer
Sadly, I have held on this long, not for the sake of “marriage” but for the sake of “family”. Family has always come first in my life. He is not present in the family with this addiction so why do I think it will be any different if we go our separate ways?
I will never be able to wrap my head around my husband’s treatment of me. The addiction, I can understand after much reading and therapy. But his hurtfulness and total disregard for me and my well-being. I do not understand. His anger is horrible! The outbursts and the language are just unbelievable. Last night I very gently told him that he really needed to talk to someone as it could not be healthy for him. I am the one that should be angry! I should be walking kicking and punching and cursing not him. The lies, and the sneakiness are beyond my comprehension. If I knew what he was "sneaking" around about it probably wouldn't be as bad as some of what I imagine in my head. This has cost him nothing where it has cost me everything.
Unfortunately, we live in a broken world where good behavior isn’t always rewarded and bad behavior isn’t always punished; therefore innocent people sometimes suffer. Fortunately, we can stand on the word of God and trust that he will right every wrong.
I am believing that God is speaking to me and telling me that I have stayed long enough at this mountain. (Deuteronomy 1:6) I have been wallowing where I am long enough; going in circles, doing the same thing, the same way day after day and expecting change … The time has come to let it go!
Please forgive me for being a gloom spreader … I lost my way this week!
Prayers and Love to all of you … And please, keep my sweet baby boy in your prayers, who is a police officer