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Post by Deleted on Jul 19, 2016 15:01:19 GMT -7
I used to struggle with sex addiction in my younger days. Sex meant love right? So that is what I thought. I also used sex as a way to control others and get what I wanted. I always left feeling sexy and good initially until that feeling wore off and guilt, shame, and worthlessness came rushing back. I had a horrible first marriage and my ex would force me to have sex with him and others. I desensitized my self during sex as a way to cope. I divorced him and remarried, started a family and felt normal for once in my life. I found my prince charming.Married for 6 years when the demons started to show themselves again. It all started when my husband revealed his own porn and sex addiction and I was devastated. I felt like my life was a lie. To deal with the pain I thought if I could be in control and be part of his sexual deviance then it would make everything ok but in fact it just woke up the monster that was sleeping within me. Now I find myself addicted to sex with strangers and multiple people at once and I can't stop. Please pray for this to be removed and any advice one may have, thank you.
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Post by teetop on Jul 19, 2016 16:42:30 GMT -7
Thanks, you nailed it when you stated; 'Love meant sex'.
And all the manipulation that went along with those feelings and thoughts.
Then we found out that we had excepted the lie and find it hard to understand real love, let alone give it.
My heart goes out to you as I've fought with this most of my life too.
One of the things I started to do once I realized I had a problem in that area was to learn how to love.
It's slow going at times, but I find I'm able to reach out in love, by letting God open my heart to individuals.
I do know it does not work if I'm in my flesh and not trusting God.
The more I trust Him in my life the more real love becomes.
Read and reread 1 Corinthians 13:1-13;
1Co 13:1 If I speak with the tongues of men and of angels, but do not have love, I have become a noisy gong or a clanging cymbal.
1Co 13:2 If I have the gift of prophecy, and know all mysteries and all knowledge; and if I have all faith, so as to remove mountains, but do not have love, I am nothing.
1Co 13:3 And if I give all my possessions to feed the poor, and if I surrender my body to be burned, but do not have love, it profits me nothing.
1Co 13:4 Love is patient, love is kind and is not jealous; love does not brag and is not arrogant,
1Co 13:5 does not act unbecomingly; it does not seek its own, is not provoked, does not take into account a wrong suffered,
1Co 13:6 does not rejoice in unrighteousness, but rejoices with the truth;
1Co 13:7 bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.
1Co 13:8 Love never fails; but if there are gifts of prophecy, they will be done away; if there are tongues, they will cease; if there is knowledge, it will be done away.
1Co 13:9 For we know in part and we prophesy in part;
1Co 13:10 but when the perfect comes, the partial will be done away.
1Co 13:11 When I was a child, I used to speak like a child, think like a child, reason like a child; when I became a man, I did away with childish things.
1Co 13:12 For now we see in a mirror dimly, but then face to face; now I know in part, but then I will know fully just as I also have been fully known.
1Co 13:13 But now faith, hope, love, abide these three; but the greatest of these is love. (NASB)
coupled with Luke 10:27;
Luk 10:27 And he answered, "YOU SHALL LOVE THE LORD YOUR GOD WITH ALL YOUR HEART, AND WITH ALL YOUR SOUL, AND WITH ALL YOUR STRENGTH, AND WITH ALL YOUR MIND; AND YOUR NEIGHBOR AS YOURSELF."(NASB)
Seeking God to give us a new heart works on His time, so have patience.
I'll keep you in prayer. Virgil
I used to struggle with sex addiction in my younger days. Sex meant love right? So that is what I thought. I also used sex as a way to control others and get what I wanted. I always left feeling sexy and good initially until that feeling wore off and guilt, shame, and worthlessness came rushing back. I had a horrible first marriage and my ex would force me to have sex with him and others. I desensitized my self during sex as a way to cope. I divorced him and remarried, started a family and felt normal for once in my life. I found my prince charming.Married for 6 years when the demons started to show themselves again. It all started when my husband revealed his own porn and sex addiction and I was devastated. I felt like my life was a lie. To deal with the pain I thought if I could be in control and be part of his sexual deviance then it would make everything ok but in fact it just woke up the monster that was sleeping within me. Now I find myself addicted to sex with strangers and multiple people at once and I can't stop. Please pray for this to be removed and any advice one may have, thank you.
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Post by Deleted on Jul 20, 2016 4:11:50 GMT -7
Hi mk I was in the same boat as you when equating love with sex. I too acted out. I too felt disgusted with myself after a time. I hated myself and I hated everyone especially men. Yet I needed love so the cycle continued. It was only by God intervening that I began to break the cycle.
The first thing you need to do you already did. Reaching out to others for help. Next you have to learn who God is and who you are in God's eyes. You need to stop the lies Satan is telling you and the only way to do that is by countering them with truth. Truth is God's word. This is the most difficult thing to learn and believe. Once you start walking out God's truth in your life, other parts of your recovery will be easier to achieve. I would also suggest getting yourself into counseling with a therapist that works with addictions. Set down some boundaries for yourself...a list of daily goals. Find some hobbies that will help distract you and keep you busy.
I am praying for you.
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Post by Deleted on Mar 26, 2021 22:05:23 GMT -7
Hello @mkd12175 Let's pray
Heavenly Father, please deliver this women from the bondage she is in. Please let her be free in Jesus' name. We bind and rebuke the enemy, Satan, and cast him out in Jesus' name. In the name of Jesus Christ, get out Satan. Lord God, thank you for hearing and answering our prayers. Please let this women find all her self-worth and love only in You Dear Jesus. Please let her see that You did die on the cross for all of her sins and she doesn't need it anymore. Please reveal to her Your plan in Jesus' name. Please be kind and merciful to Her Lord Jesus. In Jesus' name. Amen.
Please share your story with another sister in Christ Jesus. Ask her to pray over you and lay hands on you to be filled with the Holy Spirit. Please be baptized on the Lord Jesus once you have trusted Jesus Christ and asked Him to forgive you. Please read the Holy Bible everyday at least 15 minutes and meditate on it to allow the Lord to minister to you. Find a quiet place to get away from distractions.
Now, since it's COVID-19, and getting into the doctors is more difficult, please ask to be tested for STDs/AIDS for your health and the health of your husband and family. They need you healthy and so does God.
Please make a decision to close all social media, change phone numbers, get offline, not visit bars, or clubs or anything else that might draw you into sex with strangers and with other people. Only God is able to change our hearts and minds and he can do it for you. God has done it for me. I am not having sex with strangers now, even before I was.
Just like women in the Bible were delivered from their demons, you can too. It's possible, but only with Jesus Christ. There is no other way.
Find a counselor who can share with you the Word and how it relates to our recovery. I am also seeing a Christian counselor and it's a blessing for me.
Remember, this is a spiritual war and if we are not saved, filled with the Holy Spirit, and in God's holy armor, we will fall down again, and it might be even worse.
You are loved here, not judged. Your sins are already judged on the cross by Jesus Christ, our Lord and Savior, now give your heart to Him now and surrender to His Lordship over you, every day, all the time.
Your mind can be cleaned and renewed in Christ. Romans 12:1-2.
Many men and women have been cleaned and delivered in Jesus, this is a reality for you too.
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