After Careful Observation...

Actually, I was not trying to talk behind anyone's back. I suggested that anyone who wanted to hear my concerns private message me for what I thought was a very good reason: I didn't want to appear dissenting or openly critical in a public area where a newbie or some perusing guest might take it as a sign that we members were, perhaps, negative about this forum. In my mind, I honestly thought I was protecting this forum, and being respectful to it's members.

However, now that you, Amy, have said what you said, I feel I should address this publicly. My post "smacked of 'let's talk behind their backs'" ..."Smacked of"?.. Let me repeat: I had no intentions of "smacking of" anything. My motive was entirely different than what you imagined, and what you did was simply (and emotionally) overreact while exercising poor judgment. Something I saw you do with Jonathan and Armored Servant, both of whom are also gone, right?

Braveheart56 and Kevineskay, please note: Armored Servant may have had a tendency to have a strong opinion, and he may have talked about a few things of which he had little experience. But, the truth of the matter is that He was entitled to express his opinions and views. As are you. As am I. Bravehear56, you and I were intending to have a private conversation, no? Let me re-iterate, a Private conversation. Amy, that conversation was none of your business. What is the point in having a pm system, if there is no privacy in it?

My biggest complaint, heretofore, was not with anyone in particular. It was with the system itself. I felt there should be a men's only side, and a women's only side.  I believe what happened with Jonathan AND Armored Servant would not have occurred if the men's discussions and opinions weren't being viewed by some women who have been extremely hurt. Furthermore, I've been uncomfortable discussing my personal sex life in front of that same group of wounded women. I have a wife who, although hurt much, herself, is my companion and my confidant, and I really don't want my laundry hanging out in front of that group, where it may cause even more pain for them, and perhaps, a little bit of deserving concern for my wife. And, where it's sure to start some painfully controversial conversations, as witnessed lately. And finally, I find it even more difficult that the principle monitor of the discussions of a group of sexually dysfunctional men is a woman. C'mon. That should be obvious.

I said that was my biggest problem, heretofore. I say was, because now a bigger problem emerges. And that would be you, Amy. No matter what my previous concerns, you have demonstrated a lack of basic respect for others, a domineering attitude, and an inability to be open to communication. I'm sure you'll delete this post posthaste. I hope it won't be until some others see it, but if you get to it quickly, it won't matter too much. I've copied it, and I intend to email it directly to Kevineskay, Braveheart56, Armored Servant, Jonathan, and Mike Genung.

As for what it will accomplish, well, I doubt very much. However, I will have had the pleasure of knowing I was one voice you couldn't stifle.   

In closing, I'm sorry to say that I thought I was joining a P&M addicts support group. Instead, what I got was the P&M Police.

Adios,

SetMeFree