New Here and Need Help/Advice

no matter what you could have tried, it would not have made a difference. This is an addiction and he would not have been satisfied with anything else. You could have pushed and pulled and unless he wants to change it would do no good. The only one that can change this situation is God working in your husband's heart. The only way God can work in your husband's heart is if your husband lets Him. What you need to focus on is working on your relationship with God and healing your heart.

Amy makes a wonderful point here and speaking from one addict to another, I am familiar with the way men think. No matter what you might have done or thought to do it would not have mattered. Porn has a strong hold on the male mind and the longer that hold exists the harder it is to break free. We addicted men are all over the board and often doubleminded at best and deceitful at worst. We try not to cause harm but are unable to stop ourselves from destroying everything good in our lives. So to sum up it was never your place to fix, control, or change your husband. It was his job to surrender himself to God and God's job to rectify your husbands heart. I too am learning this process and it takes time, prayers, patience and tons of forgiveness. It isn't easy nor pretty. Porn recovery is messy and painful and will try the best of relationships. But in the end those that go through the flames will be better off and shine like pure gold. I wish you both the very best.

I will add my prayer to yours as well. It is never easy to work on a relationship under the best of circumstances...however our God is bigger then any troubles we have. Remember that God doesn't work on our time. things may happen that make it seem that God has abandoned us but He is right there with us through it all.