Why are there so few people here?

Maybe the Christians that go to Nofap feel safer there from being judged . To be fair and honest the main reason any man wants to quit porn is because of ED. Even the Christian men. It gets your attention more than conviction of sin I'm afraid.

Well according to the Ted talk The Great Porn Experiment , ED is the main reason young men are going Nofap. Most sex addicts value their performance with a woman as the most important thing in his life. That should not be the case for a Christian addict but I dare say in his fleshly sinful nature it is.

As a moderator you must hear why people leave. What have unhappy members expressed to you?

Hello everyone,

I think BG is getting a lot more activity than it has in a long time. But I do agree that the membership is very small compared to the millions of people that deal with this issue. Being a former member of SAA, SA, and SLAA, I found no shortage of members or meetings in these fellowships. So it really confuses me why BG never saw that kind of growth. A few things come to mind.

1) Addiction to P is still a very secretive, personal issue to most addicts. It's really hard for an addict to become honest and transparent, and then allow himself to be held accountable by other people.

2) If a PA relapses or slips, he/she often disappears and gives up. It's hard to quit P. And when the PA acts out again, discouragement sets in and the PA gives up. Of course, this starts a vicious cycle of shame, secrecy, ritualization, acting out, and then back to shame again.

3) Many PAs are turned off by the church. After hearing various, overly-simplistic sermons from the pulpit such as "Just stop it" or "Just cast it out" or "Just give it to God, and it will go away" or "Just receive God's healing and deliverance". I was angry at church and God for many years because I failed to find a solution to my problem there. God had to reach stretch out to finally reach me back. But I can see many PAs being completely discouraged by the lack of resources at church for such a common problem.

4) BG didn't evolve from a state of infancy for many years. It suffered lack of strong leadership for a while. It also faced various hostile attacks from hackers. One might sense it was like the blind leading the blind. I'm sure the Devil was working hard at keeping this ministry from taking off.

These is just my opinions. I've asked myself the same questions.

But I believe that we have a good thing going here. A former moderator here told me that I should just be faithful to God, and He will provide the increase.

Braveheart, you also asked why BG almost closed down. It was solely due to technical issues. Mike had spent a lot of resources to update BG to make it mobile user friendly. But after the upgrades, BG kept going down. Mike was ready to give up. But Amy saved the day by offering a solution to the problem. God used her to save BG!

And both Amy and John both heard about BG because they knew me from another forum, a forum that I was uncertain about whether I should have been part of. But God was amazing! And he worked in an amazing way to keep us together.

One asked why people don't come and get help for their addictions? Perhaps we should let God answer that question. Please read with me Matthew 13:15.

15 for this people’s heart has become dull, and their ears are hard of hearing. They have shut their eyes so that they might not see with their eyes, and hear with their ears, and understand with their heart and turn, and I would heal them.’

Brave I am glad you took the time to read and view Mike's Blog post. It really is an eye opener. I commend you for realizing where you are at with your heart and wanting to change that. Pray for that change. God is the only one that can facilitate the change you want but you have to be open to it. It will hurt. I can attest to that but the end result is fredom. You will always have to be vigilant to keep your heart soft and be open to the Lord's correction when you fail. I will add my prayers to yours. Keep leaning on our Father.