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Post by christinnate on Dec 21, 2015 4:30:55 GMT -7
Hi everyone. My name is Nate. I've been struggling with P and M for most of my adult life. I currently indulge in this behavior once or twice a day, always whenever my family is asleep. I don't like how this affects my attitude and most importantly, my relationship with God. Those times when I give in to temptation are times when I could have spent with God.
I'm plugged into an amazing church and have been a Christian since I was seven. I have confessed this addiction to a close friend at church in hopes that would start some accountability, but I think I either overwhelmed the guy or he doesn't quite understand.
My wife does know I've had a problem in the past. There have been a few times when I've confessed to her and worked on the addiction. However, after a while she's forgotten about it and it's been a few years since we've dealt with this as a couple. So, in her mind, things are better. Reality is that I've slipped and am dealing with this alone. I have not come to her again with this because I don't want to hurt her again by opening up this wound. I am also scared of losing my family as she's threatened to leave me if this happens again.
So, here I am. I've been reading Soul Detox by Craig Groeschel and one of the chapters dealt with confession of sin. I've confessed to God, but also need to confess to others this sin. Perhaps in the future I'll confess to my wife, but I'm scared to death to do so and not exactly sure how beneficial that would be for her.
I also work in a very public profession and am nervous about revealing this to more people, which is why this group online appeals to me (one of the reasons anyway).
My hope is to find encouragement here and to be a source of encouragement as well.
Nate
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Post by Deleted on Dec 21, 2015 5:30:37 GMT -7
Hi Nate,I am relatively new here but not to this battle. I would suggest removing all access to porn asap. 2 times per day is a lot! Here is a video that may help. Beware of triggers. www.youtube.com/watch?v=wSF82AwSDiU |
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Post by Deleted on Dec 21, 2015 7:47:48 GMT -7
Hi everyone. My name is Nate. I've been struggling with P and M for most of my adult life. I currently indulge in this behavior once or twice a day, always whenever my family is asleep. I don't like how this affects my attitude and most importantly, my relationship with God. Those times when I give in to temptation are times when I could have spent with God. I'm plugged into an amazing church and have been a Christian since I was seven. I have confessed this addiction to a close friend at church in hopes that would start some accountability, but I think I either overwhelmed the guy or he doesn't quite understand. My wife does know I've had a problem in the past. There have been a few times when I've confessed to her and worked on the addiction. However, after a while she's forgotten about it and it's been a few years since we've dealt with this as a couple. So, in her mind, things are better. Reality is that I've slipped and am dealing with this alone. I have not come to her again with this because I don't want to hurt her again by opening up this wound. I am also scared of losing my family as she's threatened to leave me if this happens again. So, here I am. I've been reading Soul Detox by Craig Groeschel and one of the chapters dealt with confession of sin. I've confessed to God, but also need to confess to others this sin. Perhaps in the future I'll confess to my wife, but I'm scared to death to do so and not exactly sure how beneficial that would be for her. I also work in a very public profession and am nervous about revealing this to more people, which is why this group online appeals to me (one of the reasons anyway). My hope is to find encouragement here and to be a source of encouragement as well. Nate |
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Post by Deleted on Dec 21, 2015 7:53:46 GMT -7
Hi everyone. My name is Nate. I've been struggling with P and M for most of my adult life. I currently indulge in this behavior once or twice a day, always whenever my family is asleep. I don't like how this affects my attitude and most importantly, my relationship with God. Those times when I give in to temptation are times when I could have spent with God. I'm plugged into an amazing church and have been a Christian since I was seven. I have confessed this addiction to a close friend at church in hopes that would start some accountability, but I think I either overwhelmed the guy or he doesn't quite understand. My wife does know I've had a problem in the past. There have been a few times when I've confessed to her and worked on the addiction. However, after a while she's forgotten about it and it's been a few years since we've dealt with this as a couple. So, in her mind, things are better. Reality is that I've slipped and am dealing with this alone. I have not come to her again with this because I don't want to hurt her again by opening up this wound. I am also scared of losing my family as she's threatened to leave me if this happens again. So, here I am. I've been reading Soul Detox by Craig Groeschel and one of the chapters dealt with confession of sin. I've confessed to God, but also need to confess to others this sin. Perhaps in the future I'll confess to my wife, but I'm scared to death to do so and not exactly sure how beneficial that would be for her. I also work in a very public profession and am nervous about revealing this to more people, which is why this group online appeals to me (one of the reasons anyway). My hope is to find encouragement here and to be a source of encouragement as well. Nate I feel for you brother and understand what you're going through. This addiction effects my whole attitude in that I'm moody and jumpy afterwards. Sex is supposed to draw two closer. MB does just the opposite it separates. I'm glad that you find comfort in this online forum and I wish more "guys" would have the guts to speak up perhaps then we wouldn't be afraid of those who know. I'll pray for you and be praying that more guys get a grip on the situation (no pun intended) Father, Be with Nate as he begins on his journey to purity. Help him to leave all his past behind and fix his eyes on you as you walk together down recovery road. Bless and take care of his family during this time. Grant themp openness and honesty within their marriage. May Nate become the man you intend for him to be. Show him your love and mercy today Lord. In Jesus name. Amen. |
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Post by KevinesKay on Dec 21, 2015 19:21:06 GMT -7
Hey Nate,
I recall a member of Through the Flame that had the same username. I'm going to assume it's you unless you tell me otherwise. Anyways, welcome. As a chronic relapser, I know all to well the roller coaster ride of "Off P", "On P" over and over again.
I'm sorry that you're going at this alone. I've been there too. If fact, BG was my only source of accountability at the beginning of this year.
braveheart56 gave some good feedback on setting some boundaries. I second them. And thanks for praying John. I agree with that prayer.
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Post by Deleted on Feb 27, 2016 5:46:02 GMT -7
How are things Nate
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Post by Ɖσмιиιc on Dec 31, 2021 3:58:57 GMT -7
Hi everyone. My name is Nate. I've been struggling with P and M for most of my adult life. I currently indulge in this behavior once or twice a day, always whenever my family is asleep. I don't like how this affects my attitude and most importantly, my relationship with God. Those times when I give in to temptation are times when I could have spent with God. I'm plugged into an amazing church and have been a Christian since I was seven. I have confessed this addiction to a close friend at church in hopes that would start some accountability, but I think I either overwhelmed the guy or he doesn't quite understand. My wife does know I've had a problem in the past. There have been a few times when I've confessed to her and worked on the addiction. However, after a while she's forgotten about it and it's been a few years since we've dealt with this as a couple. So, in her mind, things are better. Reality is that I've slipped and am dealing with this alone. I have not come to her again with this because I don't want to hurt her again by opening up this wound. I am also scared of losing my family as she's threatened to leave me if this happens again. So, here I am. I've been reading Soul Detox by Craig Groeschel and one of the chapters dealt with confession of sin. I've confessed to God, but also need to confess to others this sin. Perhaps in the future I'll confess to my wife, but I'm scared to death to do so and not exactly sure how beneficial that would be for her. I also work in a very public profession and am nervous about revealing this to more people, which is why this group online appeals to me (one of the reasons anyway). My hope is to find encouragement here and to be a source of encouragement as well. Nate Hi Nate, I am similar to you. My wife knows about my issue too. I'm doing better now but still falling from time to time into lust. How you are doing these days? Do you have accountability partners? or just checking in. I know it's been years but I see your account is still active with us. I hope to hear from you brother. |
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