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Post by Steve on Jul 15, 2005 22:36:27 GMT -7
Alright folks, I could use your prayers and encoruagement.
Today I plan to take a stab at writing a rough draft of my life story, as it pertains to my SA issues and recovery. I'm generally a decent writer once I get started, but I think I struggle with procrastination like many people.
Anyway, my posting this might act as a reminder to at least start the process. I have a lot to share about what God has done in my life with regards to sexual addiction.
-Steve
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Post by mike on Jul 17, 2005 2:04:58 GMT -7
Hey Steve -
Is this the "bloody story" for your website that we've talked about ?
Or, are you working your way towards a book ?
Transparency is a blessing to others, and I'm sure your story will encourage many.
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Post by Steve on Jul 17, 2005 2:11:47 GMT -7
I guess I meant to say my "bloody" story, which has some blood in it but it'll be more about my freedom and victory from all the bloodiness.  Okay, today I will (at the very least) come up with a basic outline of my sexual addiction & recovery story! Mike, you can hold me accountable to that, if you want!  -Steve |
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Post by mike on Jul 17, 2005 2:43:01 GMT -7
got your back.
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Post by Steve on Jul 17, 2005 2:51:47 GMT -7
By the way, Mike, I listened to the latter ten minutes of yesterday's radio show. You sounded great, and the discussion was DEAD-ON with what people need to hear!
-Steve
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Post by Steve on Jul 26, 2005 7:26:51 GMT -7
Update: Lots of tinkering going on.
I discarded my standard outline (which was more of a chronology) and I'm going with something a little more direct.
My theme: I write all this so that you will know that i understand sexual addiction and recovery on a very personal level.
-Steve
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Post by Steve on Aug 7, 2005 12:35:01 GMT -7
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Post by Steve on Feb 23, 2006 2:59:52 GMT -7
Goodness! Life can be downright brutal sometimes, isn't it?
Do I hear an "Amen?" or perhaps an "I agree?"
My sobriety is fine. That's always the good news these days as life pounds the heck out of me - that I've learned to "face my issues" without turning to my favorite drug. Pain, hurt, insecurities, worries, pity, pride, all that.
Lord, may Your will be done in my life, and come quickly to these messes I seem to get myself in!
-Steve
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Post by Deleted on Feb 23, 2006 22:26:04 GMT -7
Boy, do I agree! Just when I think, "I can do this thing called life pretty well" something happens to remind me that were it not for God...for the power of His Spirit, Christ in me, the Hope of glory, I would fall and fail repeatedly! I'm so thankful for Him and for His love that loves us enough to keep us humble and desires us to be close to His heart, in love. Someone shared with me this morning that "God's wounds heal while sin's kisses kill." How true! God is so good, even when it hurts! Praying for all!
captivated
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Post by Steve on Feb 24, 2006 11:44:22 GMT -7
You know, the one thing about walking with God is this: Part of the growth process is being "chiseled" and "humbled" by the Holy Spirit, but it always "feels good" afterwards, doesn't it? -Steve |
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Post by Deleted on Feb 24, 2006 13:13:19 GMT -7
Amen to that! I was thinking about this tonight related to teens and the snares they could get into and how the enemy attempts to make sin appealing and attractive and fun and satisfying, but how in the long run, sin is like shackles....a bondage always screaming out for more and never satisfied until we're destroyed and lives are shattered. Yes, Steve, His chisel and the freedom it brings is so much better....it is Life and peace! You know I think it feels so good after because we can feel Him more since the things between us and Him have been removed, so we're relationally closer to Him in intimacy and trust.
Thanks for pondering His goodnes and love....especially when it hurts....with me!
Captivated:)
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Post by Steve on Mar 18, 2006 3:15:24 GMT -7
Life is still brutal. Big surprise!
Lord, help me to see things with your eyes.
-Steve
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Post by Deleted on Mar 18, 2006 4:07:20 GMT -7
So thankful He's our Defender, Strength and Song though, but yes, it can be brutal at times. Thanks for the realness. Praying! captivated
Ps, Steve, the messages from Focus on the Family this week entitled "One More Round" were very motivating as a believer in whatever battles we may be fighting....sin, for the purity of others, against the enemy in general, etc.... Be blessed!
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Post by Steve on May 16, 2006 4:16:11 GMT -7
Let me just say ... I really like this area of the forums!
Here's why: I am to the place in my recovery where ... I've moved on, I've grown, and I do a lot of walking in my new identity as a man in Christ. Sure, I still have my moments when I'm tempted to lust and return to my addictive behavior, but it's easier now. In fact, I'm more focused on "where I'm heading to" as opposed to "what I'm running away from" so to speak. In this light, I enjoy talking about all the wonderful and great things that I am doing with my life, what God is doing in my heart and all the possibilities out there of how God can use me as a man freed from the shackles of sexual addiction.
I love adventures. It can be anything really. Roadtrips, Colorado photography, going on a long bike ride, dating a girl (um, this is a long messy story), working my businesses, spending quality time with God. Whatever.
I see these guys in the forum who are at the very beginning of their discovery process with sexual addiction. Some know they are in bondage to their addiction, but can't seem to get out. My heart so goes out to them, and I know where they're at. The thing that hurts so much is knowing that these guys can get help and really get free ... if they only start the recovery process. They've got to join a group, or find someone in their real life whom they can meet up with on a regular basis. There's so much to learn from reading recovery literature, and ultimately, a struggling sex addict must face the deep soul wounds he has in his life. That is probably the toughest and scariest part of it all.
I'll never forget the days, actually years!, of all the times I relapsed, all the times I did the whole cycle of swearing off ever "acting out" again only to fall weeks, sometimes days later. All the pain, all the shame I felt - I'll never forget that. Today, I consider myself a free man, and I'm not ashamed of my past at all. In fact, my own sexual addiction recovery is my "calling card" to attract clients and engage people with my ministry, being that I'm a counselor who specializes in sexual addiction. Even with women I date, I honestly don't care anymore to tell them about my past ... for it really isn't about my past, it's about where I am now, how God has redeemed my life, and where I am heading with Him. I am a very dangerous man for the kindgom in helping other men get free, and I'm focused on the future, not being embarrassed about my past. I'm convinced one sure sign that a person is free from sexual addiction is that absence of shame. Hence, why I believe groups are so critical to a guy's long-term sobriety and well-being.
Thank you all for reading this. I am so thankful for my sobriety. My therapist and mentor would always say, "Sobriety is a gift from God." Indeed. Today, may I bask in this truth, that God has given me the gift of sobriety ... and so much more.
All the best my friends!
-Steve
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Post by KevinesKay on Apr 6, 2015 5:09:11 GMT -7
I wanted to give a shout out to Steve, a great guy that actually "Got it". And we recently became friends on Facebook. Did you know?
1) He shared on this forum that he dreamed of bicycling across America.
2) Since sharing that, he actually performed the feat, twice!
3) He even wrote a book about his first experience, and it got published!
Great job! And thank you for your inspiration.
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