I am devastated because i feel I have lost my family. My mother eloped with a man who was proven to be in to child pornography. My sister called me a couple of weeks before she eloped. Told me that my mom's ipad had a block from the FBI on it. My sister found a way to bypass the site and got to the last page and that is when she discovered child porn on my moms ipad. My mom got married and sent me pictures that became like a stab in my heart. I told her what was going on and what my sister had shared with me. I feel I cannot be part of my moms life or her new man. I feel that my children are in danger there and I cannot have it. I have so much on my mind. I do not have this sorted out in my heart. I feel broken, she decided to make a wedding ceremony and a party after but I could not get myself to attend. She claims I am judging them she says it is okay if two married people are doing porn together. I don't think that is right, she says I am judging her and that I am not a Christian. I feel I lost my family because no matter what they accept her. She abandoned us as children and followed after men while we were homeless begging for food. I know that I forgave her but I don't think I have to have her around me and my children. Am I wrong as a Christian to feel this way? They do not repent they feel that sin is okay!
Hi and welcome to Blazing Grace forums. I pray you find the strength to do what you know is right.
It seems to be proven that this man is indeed looking at or has looked at child porn. As a parent it is your duty to protect your children. All it takes for an addict to take the next step, is one decision. Many of us have been there and chosen Christ over our addictions. There is always hope that God will get a hold of an addict's heart. How do we see change in people? By their actions. You can forgive others and yet have nothing to do with them in the future and still be a Christian. People don't seem to get the fact that forgiveness is completely separate from including them in your life.
Your first responsibility is to see to the welfare of your children. Until you have proof that you mother and her husband have changed, I would not have your children around them. When they do change, then make sure the visits are supervised.
You are not judging them by calling a sin a sin. Judging comes when you do it with no love in your heart. We are called to love, teach, and spread the good news of the gospels. Do that with them. Tell them you love them and that Christ died for their sins and that your first responsibility is to the children God entrusted to you and as such until they show true repentance and change, you will not be able to be a part of their lives.
“The first step on the way to victory is to recognize the enemy.” Corrie ten Boom
My young sister I know that things do not look good in your life right now. I so sorry to hear the news of such turmoil in your life. I want you to know that nothing in this world is ever permanent. The only two things we can be sure of is that we were born and that someday we will die. Those two we can not change. The rest of life is changeable and worth praying over. You may never know what is just around the bend for you. Do not give up on anything until God says so. Your family can change if God wants it to. Mine did and someday I hope to swap stories with you. I will be in prayer about you situation and I hope you will join me too.
Michael W. Smith does a wonderful Song entitled "Pursuit of the Dream". Perhaps you can listen to the words and be encouraged.
Hanukkah, I'm glad you are here. You will find that this place is a wonderful sound board for all the confusion you are experiencing right now.
I don't have anything to add to Amy or Jonathan's thoughts... only to remind you that child porn is against the law. It's a very serious offense. Your mother is playing with fire and it might take some prison time for God to get her attention.
It's difficult to love the sinner and at the same time - hate the sin. The ironic thing is that we are all sinners. :-)
Surround yourself with people who can help you figure things out and set boundaries in place. That's a good start for figuring this part of life out. Bless you... Life really does get better. This is an opportunity for God to do something great. :-)
teetop: A quick note: I probably won't be around for a week or so as we pack and move. Sandy to her sisters and I, homelessness.
Sept 18, 2018 10:03:46 GMT -7
teetop: I'm still reading Mike Genung's book, The Wife's Heart, interesting.
Sept 18, 2018 10:11:55 GMT -7
teetop: The only problem I have with the e-version of his (Mike Genung)books is the inability of writing my notes on the sidelines nor note the specific line number.
Sept 18, 2018 14:49:40 GMT -7
Amymine712: I will be praying for your situation Tee
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teetop: It seems that I have offended many here on Blazing Grace and to that end I am sorry.
Sept 22, 2018 8:39:07 GMT -7
teetop: Both requests have been acted on and I am sorry I've offended anyone here on Blazing Grace. Virgil
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Amymine712: Tee, how are you doing?
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teetop: To answer your question Amy, not so good today. Too many things rearing their ugly head all at once.
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teetop: Pro 3:5 Trust in the LORD with all your heart And do not lean on your own understanding. Pro 3:6 In all your ways acknowledge Him, And He will make your paths straight. ]
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ridat: Teach me Your way, ADONAI, that I may walk in Your truth. Give me an undivided heart to fear Your Name.
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freerein: Wife of an addict here trying to gain wisdom.
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Amymine712: Welcome freerein. I moved your thread to the wife's section so that the wives would be more likely to see it. You are welcome to post everywhere on the forums.
Dec 3, 2018 9:43:46 GMT -7
Will: HAPPY NEW YEAR!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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Dominic M.: Thank you for bring the forums back.
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Amymine712: I was surprised that they were down. Mike got them back up! So grateful!
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Will: Yep thanks for bringing the forums back!
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Dominic M.: Praying for us.
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zat: Thank you guys for the approval. I hope to find the sharing platform here.
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Amymine712: You are welcome! Feel free to start a thread and tells us about yourself.
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Dominic M.: how is everyone out there?
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