I'm new and introducing myself

Thank you ladies for your stories. It's so encouraging to know that others are going to something similar to me and I'm not alone or wrong to feel the emotions that I have. I'm praying for you guys right now. Keep pressing on toward the prize!

Hi Christmyanchor,
Living with someone who struggles with addiction is very difficult. I hope my previous reply to you didn't make it sound like something so simple. It's not. I was just trying to communicate that once I realized I could really only change my behavior, and sought God to help me with that - I began to see changes in my husband as well. My husband reminded me the other evening that the first year after disclosure we literally were up until 2 or 3 am every night - talking, arguing, crying, praying. My husband in his own words said "I had to learn to take my licks, because of what I had done to you." As a wife of someone who struggles with SA, you have been/are being traumatized. This creates a lot of emotions and turmoil in the wife. It's a long road ahead, but God is faithful to see you both through it. Praying for you both!