My husband of 27 years is a sex addict in denial. I have confronted him and he continues to deny, minimalize, rationalize, gas light and is acting out. I have watched as this has progressed over the past 4 years and I have had enough and am preparing to leave and take care of myself. I pray that he comes to his senses and realizes the damage he has done and the pain he has caused . Protecting his secrets and acting out are more important to him than to seek any help to keep his family together. Your prayers are appreciated.
We lift up New_me and her husband before you. I pray that he comes to his senses and reaches out for help. Find a way, Holy Spirit, to shatter his pride and shame so that he longer keeps this secret double life.
We also pray for strength, wisdom, and guidance for New_me. Help her through this painful process. We would like to see this marriage restored. Thank you for hearing and answering our prayer. We receive. We pray this in Jesus' name. Amen
Please let us know if we can help in any way. Please be good to yourself, and continue to seek out the Lord through prayer, fellowship, and the Word. Thank you for sharing.
Your brother in Christ,
Stop counting the days, and start making them count
New_me, I too will be praying for God's intervention in your husband's life and for His support for you during this time. As a moderator here at BG I want to Welcome you to our forum. Reach out often and know that no question is too outrageous or stupid here. This is a safe place to vent and seek help for both you and your husband. You have already met a couple of our members and there are more who will help and respond. Denial is a very common reaction by addicts. Until he decides to seek help it is likely that his behavior will continue to degrade. But don't think that he doesn't want to stop. Most men in this addiction want to stop but don't know how, particularly because they don't want anyone to know of their addiction which they see as incredibly shameful and embarrassing. See my article in the Resources section titled Why Men Won't Seek Help. Do you have a church or pastor who you can talk to? Both for your own support and for hopefully some counseling for your husband. Does your husband have any close friends? Often when deep into their addiction men have few friends and become very isolated. He needs some one-on-one to begin with but ultimately he'll need a support group or accountability group. Keep us in the loop and up to date. Blessings and God's peace be with you, Nikanor
teetop: A quick note: I probably won't be around for a week or so as we pack and move. Sandy to her sisters and I, homelessness.
Sept 18, 2018 10:03:46 GMT -7
teetop: I'm still reading Mike Genung's book, The Wife's Heart, interesting.
Sept 18, 2018 10:11:55 GMT -7
teetop: The only problem I have with the e-version of his (Mike Genung)books is the inability of writing my notes on the sidelines nor note the specific line number.
Sept 18, 2018 14:49:40 GMT -7
Amymine712: I will be praying for your situation Tee
Sept 18, 2018 17:49:12 GMT -7
teetop: It seems that I have offended many here on Blazing Grace and to that end I am sorry.
Sept 22, 2018 8:39:07 GMT -7
teetop: Both requests have been acted on and I am sorry I've offended anyone here on Blazing Grace. Virgil
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Amymine712: Tee, how are you doing?
Sept 23, 2018 15:15:52 GMT -7
teetop: To answer your question Amy, not so good today. Too many things rearing their ugly head all at once.
Oct 19, 2018 18:54:40 GMT -7
teetop: Pro 3:5 Trust in the LORD with all your heart And do not lean on your own understanding. Pro 3:6 In all your ways acknowledge Him, And He will make your paths straight. ]
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ridat: Teach me Your way, ADONAI, that I may walk in Your truth. Give me an undivided heart to fear Your Name.
Nov 18, 2018 2:09:15 GMT -7
freerein: Wife of an addict here trying to gain wisdom.
Dec 2, 2018 21:58:15 GMT -7
Amymine712: Welcome freerein. I moved your thread to the wife's section so that the wives would be more likely to see it. You are welcome to post everywhere on the forums.
Dec 3, 2018 9:43:46 GMT -7
Will: HAPPY NEW YEAR!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Jan 3, 2019 4:57:58 GMT -7
Dominic M.: Thank you for bring the forums back.
Jan 9, 2019 21:07:52 GMT -7
Amymine712: I was surprised that they were down. Mike got them back up! So grateful!
Jan 10, 2019 4:35:27 GMT -7
Will: Yep thanks for bringing the forums back!
Jan 12, 2019 1:27:13 GMT -7
Dominic M.: Praying for us.
Jan 24, 2019 2:37:11 GMT -7
zat: Thank you guys for the approval. I hope to find the sharing platform here.
Jan 30, 2019 10:33:56 GMT -7
Amymine712: You are welcome! Feel free to start a thread and tells us about yourself.
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Dominic M.: how is everyone out there?
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