Post by Deleted on Dec 30, 2014 19:52:21 GMT -7
The entire thread came up when I was looking for advice on the subtle intricacies on whether or not masturbation while fantasizing about one's wife would be considered sin. After reading the entire thread, I felt compelled to respond. Long story short, I was trying to find precedent that would allow me to rationalize, but after reading three specific statements on this thread, several truths were revealed to me. I created an account expressly for the purpose of saying "Thank You," only to be frustrated by failure. It is an old thread, so I can see why it might be locked. Perhaps it is a limitation imposed due to infancy of my user account, I can understand that also. I hope that I am not in violation of any rules by sidestepping these restrictions with this workaround; however, I feel compelled to respond. You see, God spoke to me through the words contained in those three posts. Which can be found: here, here, and here.
To HopelesslyDesperate and truthseeker, I would, like for you to know that your statements in the cited posts has helped me in a way that you cannot even imagine. God spoke to me through you, even though you spoke seven years ago! Isn't he incredible? Thank You for your words, they still resonate today, and helped me avoid falling into a trap. Your words offered a perspective to me that I had never once considered before. Namely, what the perspective of a woman might be, and how my actions might effect my wife, and possibly hurt her. In addition, I never once considered that this was a form of engaging her against her will, but the more I thought about it, the more my conscience convicted me. I was ignorant of this particular point of view namely because my wife of twelve years is not the type of person who expresses herself through words. To say that her picture would be appropriate next the the phrase "long suffering" would be an understatement. Which is sometimes difficult for me because, in case anyone missed it, words are how I relate to the world.
I can honestly say that I was not considering her feelings, and I never once considered that my actions may be wounding her emotionally whether she would ever tell me or not. Thank you both so very much for this insight. God has led me to begin an inventory of my life spiritually, and through your words, he has given me a new perspective on the person I love the most on this earth along with my children. I truly cannot express the value of your words, all I can offer is my heartfelt gratitude.
HopelesslyDesperate your tone expressed a very deep hurt, and I truly hope that the last seven years have brought you happiness. We will keep you in our prayers just in case.
truthseeker, thank you so much for not being a silent administrator, and taking the time to share your thoughts and opinions as well. They have been invaluable. You also will be in our prayers.
All too often, people are able to have a profound impact on others around them, and they never realize it. I felt it imperative that you know that you have been able to help at least two people through God's grace by having the courage to share parts of yourself on a topic that no one finds easy to discuss.
- Brandon
To HopelesslyDesperate and truthseeker, I would, like for you to know that your statements in the cited posts has helped me in a way that you cannot even imagine. God spoke to me through you, even though you spoke seven years ago! Isn't he incredible? Thank You for your words, they still resonate today, and helped me avoid falling into a trap. Your words offered a perspective to me that I had never once considered before. Namely, what the perspective of a woman might be, and how my actions might effect my wife, and possibly hurt her. In addition, I never once considered that this was a form of engaging her against her will, but the more I thought about it, the more my conscience convicted me. I was ignorant of this particular point of view namely because my wife of twelve years is not the type of person who expresses herself through words. To say that her picture would be appropriate next the the phrase "long suffering" would be an understatement. Which is sometimes difficult for me because, in case anyone missed it, words are how I relate to the world.
I can honestly say that I was not considering her feelings, and I never once considered that my actions may be wounding her emotionally whether she would ever tell me or not. Thank you both so very much for this insight. God has led me to begin an inventory of my life spiritually, and through your words, he has given me a new perspective on the person I love the most on this earth along with my children. I truly cannot express the value of your words, all I can offer is my heartfelt gratitude.
HopelesslyDesperate your tone expressed a very deep hurt, and I truly hope that the last seven years have brought you happiness. We will keep you in our prayers just in case.
truthseeker, thank you so much for not being a silent administrator, and taking the time to share your thoughts and opinions as well. They have been invaluable. You also will be in our prayers.
All too often, people are able to have a profound impact on others around them, and they never realize it. I felt it imperative that you know that you have been able to help at least two people through God's grace by having the courage to share parts of yourself on a topic that no one finds easy to discuss.
- Brandon