what does action look like??

Hello, I am new to this blog. I have been married 2 years, my husband has struggled with a porn addiction for most of his life. He is almost 39 years old. It has been a problem in our marriage and our dating life. Almost 2 weeks ago I discovered yet again, that he was using pornography. In the past it seemed to come out "quickly" after an offense. I dont know if I became more trusting and asked less, or if he just lied more, or most likely both, but this time he hid it and lied for months that he was using it regularly, masturbating to it, masturbating without it. while I was home, even looking at it while I was sleeping in bed next to him. He was calling phone sex hotlines, removing his wedding ring and going places and flirting with girls. He lied to me when I would ask how he was doing in that area, he completely dropped all accountability. He didnt even tell his best friend who has been his accountability partner for years. This came at a horrible time- The holidays. He has "come clean" and kinda said he wouldnt do it again... and that he was sorry... but thats it. I told him he needed to move out. we have two kids at home and I dont want it in my house. He moved into an apartment with a friend of ours. The friend and his wife (my neighbor) have been separated for a while, and so my husband moved into her husbands apartment. But... he doesnt live there... he is staying back with his family now and only has the place because of the lease still on it. There is internet and a tv, with an xbox. pretty much a computer... internet browser, and all the apps you can think of. So my husband moved into an apartment by himself, and has done nothing about the internet access in front of him. I feel like he hasn't taken any steps of action. We see a counselor and have not been able to get to our weekly meeting since I confronted him, so he hasnt even been informed yet. He hasnt put any internet software on any of 'our' computers, and has not done anything about the internet access in his apartment. The friends place that it is, was separated because of a pornography addiction himself. He understands. I can see a hundred ways he could deal with this situation. but he has become angry with me when I have tried to talk to him about it. He has even kind of 'mocked' me and said "what, should I have canceled KC's accounts"?? like that makes any sense...?? He could ask his friend to password protect the internet, or to unhook it since hes not living there. (especially because my husband has to pay for it too under their agreement). Am I overreacting? Ive read a lot of the articles on this webpage and I feel God telling me I need to put up boundaries and stick to them. He acts like "I'll do it later" I'll take care of that later" "I dont think I have to do that right now" he has even said "I have done everything I know to do"...  but when asked "what have you done", he just repeats "I have done everything I know to do".... its thanksgiving eve, we are at my inlaws, and I have told him (after multiple attempts to talk through it with him, with understanding and grace... as much as I have) that I am not going to participate "with him" in these activities. That I dont want to sleep in the same bedroom. I feel like he wants to have his cake and eat it to. He wants his freedom to sexual sin, and his wife, and holiday meals, and companionship, and everything else,...... but somewhere in the back of his mind he wants to be able to "get to" use pornography as well. any suggestions? am I being "too mean"? is that to rash? I want to love and honor him, without letting him treat me unGodly, and without allowing the destructive lifestyle into my life and kids lives as well.