Post by Deleted on Nov 6, 2012 16:15:14 GMT -7
I need some advice from someone that has gone through some of the stuff I am going through. I do not condider this man a sex addict. It was one incident where he got caught. Hes embarrassed by it and has been "sober" since 2005.
I met a guy really nice, smart, all the things I am looking for in a man and in a husband. Well a few days after I met him he told me he has to register as a sex offender. The reason: Masturbating online in a chat program, that ended up being an undercover cop. ( Yes the cop said she was 15, He said they were role playing and thought she was just playing along. You know being kinky).
I know that in time getting to know him I will find out who he is and if he has really changed as a person from what he say he is now. He has no interest in minors and the lie detector test said that as well on the police report.
My struggle is knowing if I can mentally handle having him on the sex offender list. I think maybe in 10 years he can try to petition to not have to register but that is unknown at this time.
I am not sure what the consequences are if I did get involved. Should I just run? I dont know where to turn for support/consolidation/mentoring.
Most people on this list do not deserve to relive their mistake for the rest of their lives.
Thanks for your help!
I met a guy really nice, smart, all the things I am looking for in a man and in a husband. Well a few days after I met him he told me he has to register as a sex offender. The reason: Masturbating online in a chat program, that ended up being an undercover cop. ( Yes the cop said she was 15, He said they were role playing and thought she was just playing along. You know being kinky).
I know that in time getting to know him I will find out who he is and if he has really changed as a person from what he say he is now. He has no interest in minors and the lie detector test said that as well on the police report.
My struggle is knowing if I can mentally handle having him on the sex offender list. I think maybe in 10 years he can try to petition to not have to register but that is unknown at this time.
I am not sure what the consequences are if I did get involved. Should I just run? I dont know where to turn for support/consolidation/mentoring.
Most people on this list do not deserve to relive their mistake for the rest of their lives.
Thanks for your help!