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Post by Deleted on Jul 19, 2012 11:40:50 GMT -7
So I was checking through my 12 year old's history and I've come across his first glances of porn. He looked up naked lady and other things.
I rang my sister and she started laughing and saying that's normal curiousity and just tell him he can look at it when he's older. Now she's supposed to be the respondsible one in my family. I sent her the link to the social costs of pornography a few weeks ago and she didn't even bother looking at it. I also sent it to my brother and he debunked it all cause he heard bad things about the witherspoon institute and said they were trying to stop people having private lives.
HOW AM I MEANT TO RAISE MY KIDS IN THIS SOCIETY??? My own family think so shallowly about this and they're supposed to be sensible people! There is no hope that my kids will listen to me over the thousands of people that say it's normal viewing. I can't even argue with my family about this because I'm not strong enough to deal with this problem in my relationship let alone tackle society.
They have closed minds and don't want to see the truth so they won't see it. So here I am all alone still with this problem. It's not fair. The devil is winning.
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Post by Deleted on Jul 19, 2012 21:52:16 GMT -7
Pray that their eyes will be opened. Pray for God to guard your kid's eyes. You know that it is wrong so that is all that matters. If they don't understand it, well, there is not a whole lot you can do to change their minds. The only thing you can do is take care of your child. He? is still only 12, so be a parent and talk with him about the evils of porn. Don't lie and say his right hand will fall off, but tell him what can happen to relationships down the line and all of that. Plus, maybe mention that God won't bless his life if he keeps doing that. Just some thoughts. Good luck and God bless Hopefull.
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Post by Deleted on Jul 20, 2012 7:26:39 GMT -7
Thanks Sam. That's nice and reassuring. That's made me feel more calm about the whole thing.
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Post by Deleted on Jul 20, 2012 9:58:05 GMT -7
Hi Hopefull,
It will be an awkward discussion to be sure, but letting him know that curiosity is normal, but that there are better ways to learn about life, such as talking with you, or a youth leader, may go a long way. Offer to answer his questions honestly, and remind him that any pictures he looks at are someones daughter, sister, or even mother. Ask him how he would feel if he found out that someone he might eventually date or want to marry had posted such pictures.
You might look for books about discussing purity with children. I haven't actually read Every Young Man's Battle, so don't know if he is still a bit young for it, but you might take a look. Not sure if he would be too old for this one, but it looks flexible. Life Lessons from the Squire and the Scroll by Jennie Bishop. I'm not sure what resources you have there for Christian books, or if this one ships internationally, but a place to start your research might be www.christianbook.com
I would urge you to look for good filtering software. Children/adolescents do not have the judgment and self-control to be given unfiltered internet access.
TruthSeeker
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Post by Deleted on Jul 23, 2012 8:10:27 GMT -7
I chatted with him but he has other issues and I feel he just ignored what I said. I told him I'm putting on filtering and monitoring software so maybe that will deter him but as I said, he has other issues and doesn't hear what I say. All I can do is my best but I feel this is going to be a probem.
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Post by Deleted on Jul 23, 2012 8:17:50 GMT -7
Hopeful, thanks for sharing. When his father and rolemodel? is looking at porn, he might think it is normal?
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Post by Deleted on Jul 26, 2012 2:09:48 GMT -7
You are very welcome hopefull! I pray everything works out for you!
Sam
P.S. Like truthseeker said before me, find a good software for sure! I used safe eyes, and I couldn't find aaannnyyytthhiinnggg on the internet. It was good and you can have a password so he can't change the settings.
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