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Post by Deleted on Jun 14, 2012 1:01:53 GMT -7
I blew it real bad yesterday. I got into porn and couldn't pull away. I am so ashamed. I don't know how to deal with this. I need help.
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Post by Deleted on Jun 14, 2012 6:46:28 GMT -7
Thanks for coming back and sharing honestly! Doing that is a big deal.
Well, trying and failing and discovering again our powerlessness is part of addiction. We've all been there. Keep breathing and let go of the shame. As a former sponsor of mine says, it's a disease, not a disgrace.
You say you need help. That's normal. Rare is the addict who can just say no and quit. Most addicts need help. For me, the central sources of help have been support groups and counseling, but I've benefited from the words and support of a number of friends and relatives who understand addiction and recovery.
Admitting that I needed help and starting to get it by beginning to attend meetings, getting a sponsor and starting to work the steps, and starting to work with a counselor is the most important thing I've ever done.
So where do you think you might find the help you say you need?
Tim M.
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Post by Deleted on Jun 14, 2012 7:33:47 GMT -7
I am not really sure. I have a problem with transportation. It would probably work better if I could get counseling and support online or by telephone.
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Post by Deleted on Jun 14, 2012 9:42:40 GMT -7
Okay, jpirie, what is the goal of your heart?
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Post by Deleted on Jun 14, 2012 10:12:20 GMT -7
Well, I quite understand problems of transportation.
There are counselors who work via phone. You might well be able to work that out, especially if you could make an occasional face-to-face session. There are also a fair number of phone or Skype or chat 12-step meetings. At one time, I was quite active in SLAA's chat meetings; there were people there with very strong and deep recovery.
All that said, addiction is all about isolation from other people, and I'm really a huge fan of stretching ourselves to do what for me and for many of us is a very uncomfortable thing by sharing our stories with other people face-to-face. If the transportation problems are an excuse for not doing something socially difficult, then I'd encourage you to try to stretch and do the scary and uncomfortable thing. But I also know what it's like to live an hour's drive from the nearest meeting and not to be able to drive. That's happened to me for a couple of 6 month stretches. If you're really stuck, there are workable alternatives.
Finally, if there are local meetings but you lack transportation, you could try calling the contact people for the meetings and seeing if there's anyone who'd be willing to give yo a lift. A number of people get to my current meeting that way.
Tim M.
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Post by Deleted on Jun 15, 2012 15:22:49 GMT -7
I checked out SLAA but it won't let me register.
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Post by Deleted on Jun 16, 2012 0:32:37 GMT -7
I don't understand. Where did you go and what happened?
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Post by Deleted on Jun 16, 2012 11:00:11 GMT -7
I have the chat set up. I guess I didn't need to register.
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Post by Deleted on Jun 16, 2012 11:36:12 GMT -7
Right. If this is the SLAA room on starlink-irc, you just point your IRC client at it, and you're in.
If you're there during a meeting, then until they know you, you'll probably have an admin message you and ask you if you believe you may be an addict, and if you want to be introduced as a new member. You need to reply and to say that yes, you're an addict; whether or not you want to be introduced is your business.
Tim M.
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Post by Deleted on Jun 16, 2012 12:18:27 GMT -7
I am in an informal chat now.
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Post by Deleted on Jun 16, 2012 15:51:56 GMT -7
I just introduced myself in the group and I have a sponsor.
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Post by Deleted on Jun 17, 2012 0:09:36 GMT -7
Excellent! Those are huge steps.
I started out attending those meetings before I was able to get to local meetings, and I also had a sponsor there, a person with a lot of recovery who lived on a different continent than I. We worked together closely, and I gained an enormous amount from that work before moving to a local sponsor. This is a program that, possibly combined with other tools, can change lives.
Keep coming back, as you've no doubt already been told!
Tim M.
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Post by Deleted on Jun 17, 2012 1:01:05 GMT -7
Woaw Tim, interesting that online sponsor did so much. Thanks
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Post by Deleted on Jun 17, 2012 1:17:54 GMT -7
Sounds very good Tim. I might need to do that myself maybe. Thanks
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Post by Deleted on Jun 17, 2012 2:19:22 GMT -7
There seems to always be several people in the room just chatting.
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