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Post by Deleted on Mar 9, 2012 10:31:08 GMT -7
I found this site and It brought great things to me but I did look here for along time before I posted my two or three tiny posts. However I have read alot and I was just wondering how all of those posters are doing.... I can see by the amount of views of posts that alot of people look here, but not many post.
Anyways, I'm not doing well. I've asked my other half to leave. I can't tell if I love him any more. I feel if I let go of him then I let go of the pain. It seems to have just added new pain ontop of the other mess of pain. Mind you my mood changes from minute to minute. That's where I'm at now.
Where are ye now?
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Post by Deleted on Mar 13, 2012 2:04:16 GMT -7
Ok, I know it's still quiet but I'm posting anyways.
So, I've figured out that I have forgiven him. He is truely sorry for what he did. I do trust him now. I can see in everything he does and says. I've accepted everything he has done and understand why it all happened. But now I've figured out that I don't love him anymore! I won't commit to him now. What's the point when I don't love him anymore. I know that if I try really hard that I could make the love return but I don't want to now. I don't love him anymore. How can something like that just dissappear? I thought that despite my anger frustration pain and hurt that underneath it all there was love. Now I've dealt with all of that (well still dealing with it) I don't see the love. It's gone! I don't feel empty or like I've lost something, I don't feel 'nothing' either but I don't feel love for him... Without that I won't be motivated to keep us together. I can see through his efforts that he is trying everything possible but it's too late now. It's gone and I don't see it coming back. Is that normal?
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Post by Deleted on Mar 16, 2012 8:12:58 GMT -7
Hi Hopefull,
Love and attraction are often confused. Attraction is chemistry; love is a choice, a commitment, that is made regardless of warm fuzzies. I have found that if I choose to behave in accordance with Scripture, such as 1 Cor. 13:4-7, that God brings my heart along as well, resulting in peace and joy. Is this ultimately about you and how you feel, or honoring your vow before God?
TruthSeeker
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