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Post by Deleted on Nov 2, 2011 12:28:33 GMT -7
My name is salvador and 47y/o this november. I have been struggling with lustful thoughts for decades that i admit being womanizer. Ive been unfaithful to my wife for all the years of our marriage life till last year. For the first time i have no other woman except my wife. The feeling is great because there is no guilt whatsoever. I have told her and confessed my sins to her. Luckily she forgave me with Gods grace touching our hearts to be whole again. I love my wife as i love my own body. Now heres my story, i know being a baby Christian,struggles and sufferings is part of christianity. I Rid off lustful thoughts except to my wife. Im away from here now. We talk through internet and ashamed to ask here to do M. After we talked i feel like doing the M all that thinking about her. But still i dont really have the knowledge of the right or wrong what the bible has to say. So i dont do it [M] because the word itself (lust) doesnt sound right. Thats where self control comes in, of course a lot of prayers. But when you M for your wife especially when she far away. Is it right or wrong?.. Thats my story and my life end starting a new beginning with your opinions and the proper guidance of our Holy Spirit.
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Post by Deleted on Nov 4, 2011 11:01:05 GMT -7
Welcome to Blazing Grace, Salvador! Glad you can join the other posters here. Apart from the Wives section, the men's accountability thread is one of the more active parts of the forum at present.
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Post by Deleted on Nov 4, 2011 12:56:35 GMT -7
Thank you for the welcome. Im just really happy to join BG and to learn more of the different kinds of situation. At my two days reading some of the testimonies ive learned so much already.
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Post by Deleted on Nov 18, 2011 14:47:26 GMT -7
Salvador,
I to am new here and looking for spiritual guidance and to help those also. As for what you are saying in your post, you don't lust for any other woman but your wife. And you (M) when you think about her when you are away. I know that it says in the Bible that if we look at a woman and have lust in our heart for her, we have commited Adultery (Matthew 5:27-28). The arguement will arise that you are married to her so you are not lusting over any other woman but your wife. The Bible also says that Husbands love your wife, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself for her. (Ephesians 5:25-30). So even though you are married to your wife and only lusting after her, you are not showing her love by what you are doing. When we (M) we are only satisfying our self and not our spouse that God had blessed us with. Sex is suppose to be the ultimate intimacy that we share with who we love and have come to God with because he is the one that designed it for 2 not 1. I know what you are going through and I know that it is hard being away from the one you love. I'm deployed in Afghanistan right now and will not be home till sometime this time next year. My wife hasn't forgiven me for what I have done and I don't know when she will. And while I am here I could (M) as much as I want and who will it hurt? Who would know? I would know and so will God. I have been (M) free for 50 days now and I feel great. The temptation is there all the time but with God I can do anything. So that when my wife, in her own time forgives me, I will have saved all that is her's for me to give to her. And it'll mean so much more when we are back together the way God intended sex to be.
I hope that this will help you with you are seeking for. And remember that we are not alone in this. He is always with us and will never forsake us. God Bless you brother and continue on the right path.
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